Hope you find that someone! Just be yourself. The people who let your neurodivergence deter them aren't worth your time.

Not a doctor. Most of my knowledge comes from reading up on diabetes on the internet (scholarly articles, scientific esplanations).

TL;DR avoid carbs unless you can exercise after meals.

From what I understand, type 2 diabetes is ultimately caused by too many carbs and not enough exercise. Carbs turn into blood sugar, and the body releases insulin to signal muscles to use the blood sugar.

But if there's nothing to use it on, the blood sugar and insulin levels stay high and two things happen. First, muscles start to get used to higher insulin levels as the "norm," so they need even more insulin to be told to use the blood sugar. Second, the pancreas gets worn out from constantly releasing more and more insulin, causing damage to it, ultimately reducing the amount of insulin it can release.

These two symptoms are what we call diabetes: the inability for the body to produce enough insulin to get muscles to use sugar efficiently.

If you can keep your blood sugar low, you can avoid diabetes. That means avoiding high carb foods, unless you can put those carbs to use by exercising.

From the article below, it doesn't seem like it could hurt, at the very least--though I'd look for a way to get the glucomannan fiber in a purer form.

Your body would probably thank you for the fiber after a stuffing too.

www.healthline.com/nutrition/lipozene-review

www.healthline.com/nutrition/lipozene-review

This could be fun. If nothing else, speaking as someone who doesn't write as much as he would like, it could have the same benefits as a writing circle.

I feel like this kind of thing lives and dies by the hook. Making the cause of weight gain being open-ended enough for people to put their own spin on it while also being consistent enough to be recognizable as a theme is a challenge.

There's also a question of genre/setting. Lots of stories on this site are modern/magical realism, which is convenient because it's got a low barrier to entry for both writers (less world-building) and readers. Of course, that isn't attractive to every reader or author.

There are hundreds of articles that can explain it better within more traditional BDSM contexts. Within feederism it would be something like tying your struggling feedee to the bed as you fill their stomach with gainer shake as they protest being "force-fed,"maybe with some kidnapping roleplay, but where you both agree to the activity beforehand, because the feedee would get off to that kind of domination, and have tools like safewords and pre-negotiated hard-boundaries to avoid actually violating the feedee's consent.

"More fattening" is a question of efficiency. Cost efficiency, time efficiency, efficiency in how much you are willing to eat...

The unfortunate thing is, carbohydrates are quite cheap, easy to prepare, and easy to over dulge on; but they also seem to be quite unhealthy for the reasons stated above.

Many people here suggest rapid gaining with heavy cream as parts of shakes and such.

In my opinion, habits are stronger than specific foods for increasing weight. Constant snacking on anything will cause weight gain if you're eating more than you expend.

Farmer's markets are nice for getting something fresh and delicious, though I personally wouldn't worry about organic food; a potato from Walmart is just as good as a potato from a farmer's market in terms of processing. Up to you if you prefer organic though. I'd buy from a wholesale store like Costco but that's more about economics than health.

Mostly I was warning about the difference between a hot dog as "meat" and an actual cut of beef or pork, or typical cheap candy compared to a piece of fruit.

Another important thing I forgot to mention is variety, both for the sake of a balanced nutrition and for the sake of avoiding flavor fatigue.

The best exercise is the kind you will actually stick to. I hate hate walking but I love Beat Saber. Figure out what physical activity you enjoy; in general, moving is better than not moving.

It would be nice to have keyboard shortcuts (CTRL+B for bold) or toolbars for the formatting options (links especially).

I just checked your profile, and I'll add a bit more.



If you still enjoy elements of non-con, despite the discomfort you expressed in the OP, then I'd advise you to look up consensual non-consent. Some of the advice you'll find as you research that will stress the importance of hard boundaries, of negotiating specific windows of opportunity if you want it to be a surprise, and aftercare that includes a check-in with reality and your goals outside of kink.

How did you find out? Did this lead to you confronting him?



You need to establish boundaries; asking this question in a public forum for advice is a good start. Talking to him and asking about his expectations should be your next step. Negotiating kink, is, by definition, a negotiation. Find out what each of you want. Figure out what you are and are not willing to give each other. Meet in the middle, or as far as you each are comfortable with; if that gap is too large, the kink should not proceed.



Ask yourself what "too far" would be like for you. Do you want to maintain or attain a certain lower weight than what he might desire? Do you want to be able to remain physically fit? Are you worried about outside judgment? Only you can answer these questions for yourself. Once you know them, communicate them to your partner.




Telling him that you do not want any more non-consensual feeding is a good start, and explain why.

However, the larger concern I have is that you worry about surprises in your food. If that is the starting point for this kink, I'm not sure you should proceed with the kink at all until he can prove he's wiling to respect your boundaries.

It would be easier to give advice if we knew how exactly he surprised you in the first place, but if it was something in the vein of adding real sugar to your food and lying that it was artificial sweetener... well, that's a betrayal of trust that I wouldn't forgive quickly. Don't accept food from him at all, if that's what it takes.

Frankly, I'm close to suggesting you end the relationship because that kind of deceit disgusts me, but I shouldn't jump to conclusions. Trust your instincts. If it feels like abuse, call it out. If he dismisses or reacts negatively to you asserting boundaries, dump him as soon as it's safe to do so.



There are people in this community who are feedees and eat for their partners but intentionally lose weight or maintain a low/healthy weight. Similarly, there are people who don't mind feedees who are thin and would even prefer occasional bouts of stuffing over secret feedings to induce a long-term gain. I have a guess as to which your boyfriend is.

This is a matter of personal taste and it will depend on what he wants and how much he can demonstrate respect for your boundaries. If he seems like he will push those boundaries, don't bother with indulging his kink at all.