a sausage party is when it’s a bunch of dudes and no women.

engaging in non-consensual predatory behavior is rapey, the rapist, murderer, etc doesn’t see the harm in what they are doing.

my perspective is shaped by me being a man so maybe it’s just a volume thing, as there a infinity more men seeking fat women than gay men seeking fat men, maybe I and other men who get these can just ignore it, where as women are constantly inundated with messages from creepy men?

I still think though sticking to don’t talk to strangers is probably a good idea especially on a site like this, and if they aren’t actively posting, so many of the problem people are the ones who don’t post publicly

I might not be a woman nor am I trans but I have experienced unwanted advances from aggressive gay men. My advice is to just ignore completely all unwanted advances, chances are they’ll just delete their accounts a day or two later.

I don’t dm very often on here everything I have to say can be seen by the public, and my DMs are a graveyard of deactivated accounts

Calling it feedism rather than feederism has been huge, one orients towards the act of feeding and makes fat people an object of fetishization, the other puts emphases on the perspective of the feedee without disounting the perspective of the feeder.

I don’t expect people to understand or accept this fetish but I advocate for fat people

I rarely eat with the intent to gain but something this past week wanted to get out, I averaged around 5000 calories at dinner time all week 12 McDoubles and 2 large shakes, a family size Popeyes meal with 2 large sides, 2 large hand tossed pizzas. I’ve been thirsty for more water in the morning but other than that I’ve felt fine

kinda dope you get a choice, for me and many others it wasnt really a conscious choice, our weight gains were something that happened that we had (some) control over. since you get to reflect on the question my advise would be to take your time theres no rush enjoy your food. dont do things that are gross unless you enjoy them, no hate towards people who for example eat butter, thats yucky. theres no need eating big is natural for alot of people just let your body do its thing

the best forumula is more calories in than are being used and thats it, there's no magic. shakes are just a way to get in easy calories.

to be fat in up until the modern day, like as late as mid 20th century meant you were either a priest or a noble no one else could have maintained a caloric surplus, food was scarce and when it was present it wasnt very much, unless of course you were a noble.

My advise is to take a deep breath and consider two things; gaining weight is naughty to _us_ and not to other people, we feel shame because to us it’s sexually deviant, to most people, the act of gaining weight or other people gaining weight is not like that. To put it in our terms we understand it’s like seeing a close family member gain weight (it’s not sexual, hopefully) or same sex people gaining (implying straight people same principle vice versa)

And concern about people’s reaction is related to it fact but unless you’re friends and family are rude people in general they won’t say or do anything to hurt you, if anything they’d say it out of concern for your well being.

i had a complicated relationship with food and exercise id have periods where id gain weight and lose weight but once i got over 300 my thought process was like i really gotta lock in and get my weight under control, and there i was yet again with a failed diet and heavier than id ever been, its at this point that i started looking into body acceptance and body positivity, and eventually found myself on feedist blogs and websites- i lurked for a good while but eventually just made an account(s) across the feedist community online.

that was 2 years ago or so and in that time ive gained alot of weight, im totally addicted to food and constantly indulge my appetite. im much more comfortable around ordering and getting food.

one thing that has grown on me a bit is me liking larger bodies, i never really had feelings for other people based on their bodies like that before