123456kevin:
I’ve been dealing with an ED for a while due to beauty standards, I feel like I have to starve myself cause I’m ugly if I’m not skinny and no one will ever love me. I’m not into this but this forum is strangely comforting when I’m really deep in my ED, that some people wouldn’t find me ugly for my chubby appearance. So uh- Thanks for existing ig?

Glitter Jelly:
I've often wondered about that, since this theme is so prevalent in the stories section...

Letters And Numbers:
If I had to guess, there might be 2 things going on:

1) That kind of revenge-by-getting-fat trope is common in a lot of media, it's been around forever, and I'm sure there are quite a few people in this community today who discovered they liked weight gain (or erotic weight gain media) because of tropes like that in "straight" media -- they just liked it for a different reason than how the author intended, maybe. Maybe not.

2) A lot of the stories on this site are taking well worn tropes like this one and putting the author's own take on it, and the author might not be thinking that hard about the origin of the trope they're mimicking, because it's something they always thought was hot. They might not have seen it the way it was intended to be seen, kinda subverting a problematic trope, but maybe inexpertly making that clear. Or not. It's amateur art, though, people trying things out.

Munchies:
I think this is true in terms of surface level, individual reasons. But the popularity also speaks to feedist culture. As much as feedism is countercultural, feedist still live in a fatphobic world. I do not think a lot of feedists have interrogated these influences as a whole.

I noticed revenge weight gain stories follow a general beat. Mean person is skinny and hot. As punishment for their sins, they get fat. Society rejects them, their life is ruined, and then they get fatter. Bonus points if the mean person joins the other loser fatties or the loser fatty they bullied become skinny and hot.

Notice how this frames fat as bad and skinny as good. There are, of course, variations on an individual level, but this is how the bulk of them go. From where I sit, this suggests feeling ashamed of their kinks and fetishes. They find fat sexy (the porn part) while also negociating some level of fatphobia (the revenge part).

But I suppose it makes sense. A lot of people sexualize what they find taboo.

SumoSized:
I will say there is something freeing about finally letting go an letting yourself gain weight. I first started lurking in this community as a feeder and a total health nut myself. Then after I realized how much work it really takes to keep a 6 pack, I decided to just not worry about keeping my belly completely flat and let it do what it wanted to. I ultimately found the feeling of gaining weight so satisfying I decided I wanted to intentionally do it.
I'm not saying that'll necessarily be your experience but who knows you might surprise yourself. At the very least it may allow you to by kinder to yourself and boost your confidence

EIIe:
I pretty much always wear dresses.

I’ve preferred them for years and years even before gaining but they really last longer...

Now that I’m into 2XLs I’m really outgrowing them all and I’m having to buy new clothes...

I still wear the dresses I can get away with... they’re tight and you can definitely see my fat bulges. I’ve also stopped wearing a bra the majority of the time because I don’t have any that fit.

I’ve thought about purchasing maternity clothes but I haven’t found any I really like. But I really like the idea!

Softgutgal:
I am a fan of dresses too and haven’t worn pants in years. Depending on the style and manufacturer, some of mine are actually still a size medium 😂 The other day I wanted to replace one of my favorite ones since I had outgrown it and the fabric is rather non-stretchy, so I figured two sizes up should be plenty. Just in case, I decided to take measurements and oh boy, now I realize how fat I really am!!

Glitter Jelly:
The same happened with me when I wanted to upsize the non stretch dresses I owned. I was wearing size 4-6 before October, now I'm up to size 8-10 depending on the cut.

I've given up of dresses with sleeves as that don't look good on me anymore, my arms are already too fat for non stretch fabrics. 😪

Munchies:
You don't need to give up sleeves. There are so many different styles of sleeves to wear. You have to pick which ones work best for you.

For example, I can't do form-fitting sleeves. Women's clothes were not made with biceps in mind, so I end up looking like an overstuffed sausage with limited mobility and chafing.

You know what does work for me? Loose, flowing sleeves. I got a dashiki ages ago, and it was a game changer.

Look at all these! And this is just a small sampling of options:



All you need to is find what makes you feel good. Don't think you have to give up sleeves because of your body shape.

Softgutgal:
Lbs113 during pregnancy. I never looked pregnant, just fat. Went from lbs119 to lbs 232 in 7 months and it took me years to go down to lbs159. Well, then my mid 40s and the pandemic came 😂

EIIe:
I pretty much always wear dresses.

I’ve preferred them for years and years even before gaining but they really last longer...

Now that I’m into 2XLs I’m really outgrowing them all and I’m having to buy new clothes...

I still wear the dresses I can get away with... they’re tight and you can definitely see my fat bulges. I’ve also stopped wearing a bra the majority of the time because I don’t have any that fit.

I’ve thought about purchasing maternity clothes but I haven’t found any I really like. But I really like the idea!

Softgutgal:
I am a fan of dresses too and haven’t worn pants in years. Depending on the style and manufacturer, some of mine are actually still a size medium 😂 The other day I wanted to replace one of my favorite ones since I had outgrown it and the fabric is rather non-stretchy, so I figured two sizes up should be plenty. Just in case, I decided to take measurements and oh boy, now I realize how fat I really am!!

Annamk:
Yes... have experienced this myself this year 😬
Like something out of a weight gain fiction. Living for months in jogging bottoms and pyjamas, then realising you have a problem the first time you have to put 'real' clothes on!

Joss123:
I’m almost sure I’m not the only one seeing former classmates starting to blow up, specially those cases of the “fit and cocky guy” that is becoming almost unrecognizable as he gets fatter.
Do you guys have any similar experiences?

Perfectly Rounded:
Yeah, many boys and girls I went to school over the years have gained notable amounts of weight, but maybe only once or twice so much that I had actually hard time recognising them.

Munchies:
I know some people who used to be cocky and in shape. Most of the time, they become cocky and out of shape.

Turns out, being fat does not make you a better person.

Perfectly Rounded:
Yeah, definitely not! I guess it would require mental growth (instead of physical) for one to be a better person. That usually, but clearly not always, comes with the age...

Though I know some people that were cocky or otherwise unpleasant people when they were young, but who are nowadays very nice and kindhearted. But yeah, some people just don't change their ways even if their lives or bodies go through huge changes.

Munchies:
It's always been strange to me how prevalent the whole revenge fattening fantasy thing is. Specifically the whole "You were mean to me in high school. I hope you get fat."

We like fat around these parts. It's like saying "You were mean to me in high school. I hope you get smoking hot." But in these revenge fantasies, it's always a bad thing.

Are we so ashamed of our preferences that someone achieving them is shameful?

Joss123:
I’m almost sure I’m not the only one seeing former classmates starting to blow up, specially those cases of the “fit and cocky guy” that is becoming almost unrecognizable as he gets fatter.
Do you guys have any similar experiences?

Perfectly Rounded:
Yeah, many boys and girls I went to school over the years have gained notable amounts of weight, but maybe only once or twice so much that I had actually hard time recognising them.

Munchies:
I know some people who used to be cocky and in shape. Most of the time, they become cocky and out of shape.

Turns out, being fat does not make you a better person.

ChubbyKisses:
It is okay to be uncertain about what you want. It sounds like no matter what body type you choose, you’ll always come across something you don’t like. I think you should go with the option that is the least stressful for you. It is not your fault that you have this kink, so try to accept it as a part of who you are. If you decide to lose weight, you will always have the pleasure in fantasizing about being bigger without actually being fat. If you decide to stay fatter, then your fantasies are your reality and only you can prevent yourself from enjoying the lifestyle. Hearing rude comments from family members can definitely hit your ego, but maybe you can turn their remarks into a positive thing. If you like gaining weight, maybe you’re actually succeeding since people have taken notice of your gain. And I think that the actual amount of girls who like big guys are not accurately reflected in this website’s population. There are definitely more women out there who love guys like you! It must also be hard knowing your girlfriend does not appreciate your weight gain. You say she didn’t sign up for this, but she is still making an effort to be by your side even after knowing about your kink. And even if it doesn’t work out, fear not! When you’re ready, the right person will come to you. Life really is too short to worry about how others feel about your body. It’s your body! Own it! But also, do what you think is the best option for your day to day lifestyle. Do you see family often and constantly get comments about your weight? Or do you think you can let it slide if you only see them every now and then? Do you want to change your body for yourself, or are you doing it to please others? It’s a lot to think about because your body is a representation of yourself, so in other words, who do you want to be? (Or maybe you can be in the middle and be both haha)