Jboabfe:
I’m definitely heavy in the butt, I realized I was uncomfortable in just about every pair of jeans and ended up upsizing the pants. I think I might jump up another size, since even the new upsized pants (largest at the store I was shopping at) are JUST comfortable.
Glitter Jelly:
My boyfriend is bottom curvaceous (thicker thighs, round butt and wider hips) but he definitely wouldn't be considered fat here.
He's autistic and hates crowds so when shopping for pants he compares the width of the waist with his forearm to gauge so he doesn't have to try them on.
When he was heavier he used so wear size 34-36 so he thought the size 32 pants he had found would definitely fit.
He tried them once he got home and, to his dismay, they were tight in the legs and when he managed to pull them past his hips it became obvious there was no way he'd be able to button them.
He's a student and the last months have been very stressful for him so it's likely that he gained a bit of weight but you wouldn't know that by looking at his hollow cheeks and protruding collarbones.
Since then, he seems more self conscious, eats less at meals and somewhat reduced his sugar intake (he usually has ice-cream or pastries before bed). He's expressed that he doesn't feel good in his skin.
I'm trying to reassure him that he's not fat and nothing's wrong with his body. Thrift store clothes sometimes fit smaller or larger depending on how they were cared for and whether or not they got stretched with time. I suggested to him to look at the labels and avoid pants unless they have at least 5% stretchy fibers.
Munchies:
I learned this trick from my grandma. Take whatever clothes you want and hold them against your body. For wants, do the front and back. She had to do this when it was illegal for black people to try on clothes in stores. Not as great as trying on the clothes, but it's the next best thing.
Glitter Jelly:
That's kind of what he does, but maybe there's some discrepancy between how big he thinks he is and how big he actually is.
I personally wouldn't buy non stretchy pants as they are unlikely to fit me well. It makes sense as every body is shaped differently.
Munchies:
Body dysmorphia is a bitch. I have it, but my problem is I see myself bigger than I am. So I have a lot of baggy pants that aren't supposed to be baggy.
I used to see myself bigger for a long time but, after years of forcing my body to be smaller than it wanted, my recent rapid weight gain is making it very hard for me to reconcile what I used to look like with my reflection in the mirror.
I avoid them as much as I can but they are everywhere and I can't help but see myself in glass windows too.
Every time all I can think of is how much bigger every part of me is and I beat myself up for letting myself become fat again. I was convinced this was behind me and I could control the size of my body indefinitely.
BTW I saw the endocrinologist again and it was a waste of time. He didn't tell me if my prolactine is still high but I'm pretty sure it is and he didn't bring back the topic of me possibly having PCOS.
I visibly gained weight since my last appointment but if he noticed he didn't say anything about it and THANK GOD he didn't ask me to get on the scale that proudly sits at the center of his office right. I didn't see the number last time but the simple act of being weighted had me cry for hours the last time I saw him.
There was a box of Mounjaro on his desk so for a moment I got hopeful, but he acted as if it wasn't there. WTF??? It felt as if he purposefully left it there to rub in my face the fact that he won't prescribe it to me.
