Fantasy Feeder

I'm convinced fat fetishists don't actually exist!! 6 month update...

Lovemylard:
It's been 6 months!! 6 months since I started my desperation journey to find any man I can connect with, who likes me and finds me attractive. In those 6 months, I have not managed to find this man. I signed up on every dating app and fetish site I could.

Here's the truth. I don't care about feederism. I'm just a very unattractive fat woman who can't get male attention. I thought finding a fat fetishist was the way to go. Maybe then men would want me, I thought. At least I'd be desired and found physically sexy by some guy with a fetish. That's better than a guy finding me absolutely disgusting, WHICH APPARENTLY IS EVERY GUY!!

I give up. Fat fetishists don't exist. Only men who like beautiful faces, big boobs, and big butts exist. I have none of those traits. Men only want beautiful women who would be beautiful at ANY weight, fat or thin. Men don't like a fat woman just because she's fat. He still needs her to have good genes. As a very ugly fat woman with an apple shaped body, I have nothing men want.

So I'm done. Goodbye fat fetish community.

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Unfortunately good people are hard to find, fat fetish or not.

I wish society wasn't like this, didn't make you feel so desperate that you felt like you had to embrace something that wasn't even your desire just to potentially find a mate.

There are a few good people in the community who actually do like fat and not just in "acceptable" areas. My partner is built like a butterball turkey, and our relationship benefits but isn't based solely on her physically or mine.

Finding what you're looking for isn't impossible but I don't think doing it in a place that encourages The fetish is going to reduce the amount of inauthentic people you have to filter through and potentially be hurt by.

Best of luck, but if feederism or weight gain isn't something you enjoy you shouldn't have to engage in it, that's unfair to you. Lots of people here want community but there's an endless stream of horny men (and a few women) just willing to use people and burn them when they're done.

9 months

Igetthejoke

Is anyone else tired of this?

LoraDayton:

Ultimately my point is that choosing to pay a feedee isn't the same as the dehumanization almost (if not every) woman and femme person experiences here.

That's a valid point. One that has absolutely nothing to do with what OP implied.

So it begs the question: how is OP not dumping on women?

Because he's talking about specific behaviors not present in all women as a group.

And why is it tolerated?

Because criticizing that behavior is good.

Why are threads like these constantly allowed?

Because it's valid.

If it something that you are willing to revisit and restructure so people of all genders can provide sincere feedback, publicly, about things they are experiencing without fear of retaliation or dismissal?

Oh so now you're AGAINST generalizing people of a certain group? Interesting change in position.

Imo you're being very deservedly dragged for a pretty bad take, and unwilling to even consider you were projecting your own issues onto the situation.

9 months

Igetthejoke

Is anyone else tired of this?

LoraDayton:
I'm tired of men coming here and blatantly complaining about their own lack of deduction and social skills. Gee, must suck to be poor.

Sure can't imagine what it would be like to be viewed only as an object, spoken to with outright derision, expected to be *grateful* for the "Attraction" of people who are so ashamed of their attraction that they won't show themselves while *also* expecting a "connection," constantly harassed, ignored, fetishized without consent, and also harangued for *more* content, and sometimes even threatened for not providing said validation/content/companionship, while also making substantially less on average than most people who come here with cake/food/fat art as a pfp and dare complain about someone... suggesting that if you *want* more of the content, that they too may need to be compensated for it.

So, nah.

Hiccupx:
Off topic and just a dump on men.

Angelette:

I like the part where you had no defense of loredraytons shitty behavior and just did a lazy ass meme

9 months

Igetthejoke