I'm pretty super sized, currently hovering between 560 and 565 pounds. I'm also very large around my midsection, with a belly that bulges out in front. I'm very cautious with where I sit because I don't want to embarrass myself, damage any furniture, or get hurt. Booths, standard chairs with arms, and lawn/pool furniture have been out of the question for a very time. My bariatric home desk chair is sturdy enough to hold me, but I do bulge over both arm rests. I'm also very careful with sofas. If I'm visiting family or a friend, I make sure I don't plop down in the middle of a sofa. If it's not well made, that could end badly.

At 560, I do have a little more leeway than I did when I briefly got over 600. At my highest weight, right after Christmas, I couldn't fit in the front seat of our van. For that reason, as well as for other health reasons, I had to drop a few pounds. Many Ubers still remain out of the question.

Cut the lower half of some tee shirts off to make them crop tops, so I could stuff my belly and let it swell without anything constraining it.

Everyone is different of course, but for me there is definitely a cut off point when I am too full for too much movement. When I'm absolutely crammed full to capacity, we need to do other things for a while until the pressure eases up a little. Try getting creative and opt for some gentle things before getting back to it.

I love seeing a big guy stuffed as tight as a drum from massive indulgence

So. This isn't the gym, but it's my closest comparison. I gained some unintended weight just being uninhibited in November and December. I absolutely want to stay fat... Very fat. . But I do need to get healthier and stronger. Yesterday was my first session with a personal trainer. At my request, my husband gifted me a fitness package for Christmas. I'm kind of excited about it, because we're going to do some strength training and get some aspects of health back in check.

Yesterday, we did a walk, and my trainer put weights on my ankles. He said I have impressive strength, and I made it more than a quarter of a mile, then walked back. That's not much, but it's also not shabby for someone my size. I did see someone in a car at a stop sign starting at me, then turn to talk to her passenger who in turn stared at me too. Doesn't bother me though... Get an eye full, as my grandpa used to say, lol.

Definitely had years like that myself. Sending you positive thoughts for only good things to come in 2025!

Karen,

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! I wish you ALL the best in achieving your balance. You're so right about the reality of actually being unable to leave your bed and house. For those who can truly find happiness with that life, I have zero judgement and wish nothing but love, joy, and light. However, the reality involves a LOT of sacrifice, and it's not one I want to make either.

I'm going on my own fitness journey in 2025, and by "fitness", I mean, getting my blood sugar and blood pressure back down, walking daily and lifting weights, and being able to drive again. I gave myself some leeway in November and December and gained about 35 pounds, putting me at 607. The gain has made me feel very lethargic and has made me feel unsafe driving , due to lack of mobility and difficulty turning a steering wheel. I haven't driven in six weeks. I don't want to be skinny. My goal weight is 500, as I feel fairly comfortable around that size while still being a reeeeally fat BBW. At my request, my husband's Christmas gift to me was a package with a trainer who specializes in adaptive fitness for people with mobility issues. I see taking care of my body as a way to get the most out of being fat.

Here's to us both in 2025!

LOVE her. And she's still got a powerhouse voice. My parents always let me stay up and watch her annual Letterman performance when I was a kid. It was good to see her on The Tonight Show this year!

All the vintage Christmas music... Darlene Love and such!

You as well! And an amazing 2025!