Magodamilion2:
Yes I relate strongly, I've been trying to put it into words. People sometimes say they get a lesbian vibe from me and I've always throught it was to do with my fat fetish.
But what it really is is that I'm a top. I'm a cis het woman but I'm a top. My fantasies are all centered around degrading men and making them as helpless as possible.
It's a certain kind of madness that lots of men have, that thirst for another person's humiliation and gradual destruction. Iykyk
I've had people in real life wonder about my sexuality before too but in those cases I chalked it up to other things. Maybe I do give a vibe though? It's really not about power for me at all but I'm a bit more like one of those stereotypical males who probably spends a little too much time daydreaming about the bods I like.
11 months
Fat Dreams:
Do any other female fa's and feeders deal with the feeling that their specific interests somehow make them more masculine? I've personally wondered about this for myself because I'm very fascinated by and fixated on the fat male form. The messages I've always received though are that female desire tends to be more responsive and less spontaneous.
I'm writing this from the perspective of a cis-gendered woman but all who identify as female are welcome to contribute.
Munchies:
Not really. I'm a woman doing gender neutral things. Some people attach masculine gender roles onto being a feeder or an FA. These people are wrong.
Being an FA or a feeder might let you tap into a masculine headspace, but it isn't in and of itself gendered. The reason is that both are associated with power and authority.
Mind you that submissive feeders and FAs exist, but people keep forgetting about this.
Speaking as a sadistic domme feeder and FA, these things make me feel incredibly feminine. My feedee worships me as his queen. It's a power thrill knowing his pleasure and pain are at my whim.
Some people might say that sounds masculine. And to that, I challenge you to reexamine the traits you assign to masculinity and femininity.
That's interesting. I hadn't even thought about power dynamics when I wrote this. I'm neither particularly submissive or dominant but I can see how gender stereotypes could play into that as well.
11 months
Do any other female fa's and feeders deal with the feeling that their specific interests somehow make them more masculine? I've personally wondered about this for myself because I'm very fascinated by and fixated on the fat male form. The messages I've always received though are that female desire tends to be more responsive and less spontaneous.
I'm writing this from the perspective of a cis-gendered woman but all who identify as female are welcome to contribute.
11 months
Johnxyz:
I think men who have big rear ends have more estrogen in their systems than an average male. They would likely have breasts too.
That's what a lot of people say, but as a woman with a lean apple shape and healthy hormones, I'm skeptical of the amount of weight (haha) that gets placed on this factor. Of course sex hormones do affect this, but pear-shaped men (like apple-shaped women) don't necessarily have imbalances.
12 months
Fat Dreams:
I'll start with one I just learned recently: "executive." I love how it connotes both power and opulence.
Nymf:
Not gonna lie, I have always been a sucker for "Fluffy" personally
Fluffy is a great one too!
1 year
It's weird because ever since creating this username I've been having more literal dreams about this kink. Last night I dreamt that someone described me as fat and at first I thought they were joking because I've always been slim. I couldn't see my own weight gain but everyone else apparently did and expressed more and more concern about it. An ex even disgustedly told me I was borderline obese. Then I asked the guy I was currently dating (in my dream). He was clearly into my body and was like, "you're chubby, so?"
1 year
Munchies:
Doing a checking educate, my friend.
Fat Dreams:
Sorry, what does that mean?
Munchies:
It's just a funny was of saying I learned something from you.
Word. It's usually the other way around!
1 year
Munchies:
Doing a checking educate, my friend.
Sorry, what does that mean?
1 year
Fat Dreams:
I'll start with one I just learned recently: "executive." I love how it connotes both power and opulence.
Munchies:
Never heard of using executive as a euphemism for fat. How does that work?
Apparently in men's fashion "executive-cut" and "executive fit" is sometimes a synonym for plus size. Maybe it has the same roots as the term "fat cat" but that's just a guess.
1 year
I'll start with one I just learned recently: "executive." I love how it connotes both power and opulence.
1 year
