Hi Zelda,

It's completely wonderful if the thought of your crush instantly arouses you. This is the stuff that songs and movies are made of. In the mainstream it's the thought of how "hot" (thin, symmetrical) the crush is, and in our fetish it's the thought of how fat the crush is, or will become, or will make us get.

Constant lectures by strident harridans run amok have unnecessarily shamed you for your totally acceptable and in fact delightful feelings of sexual attraction.

The fact is that seeing someone "as a person" includes seeing their body. I mean, their clothed body if you aren't past that point with them, but most really fat people will appear really fat at a glance. Their fat is part of who they are "as a person."

And if I am to see you "as a person," that includes your fetish where certain bodies are unspeakably attractive to you. Your strong sexual attraction to certain fat men is as much a part of you, to be respected and celebrated, as literally any other aspect of who you are.

This website should be lifting you up, supporting you, helping you having fun with your newfound kink.

Shame on anyone whose hideous self-righteous carping has made you think that this fetish makes a relationship impossible. Quite the opposite is the case.

Mutual sexual attraction, including in the form of compatible fetishes, or one fetishist and someone compatible who is (to quote Dan Savage) giving and game...is one of the big factors in building a strong relationship. It's the lack of sexual attraction that's far more likely to make a relationship unsustainable (though not always, shout-out to the aces).

Here are some ideas for you. Note that each of these ideas has also been suggested by many non-fetishists in totally mainstream contexts as well. So anyone who wants to kink-shame me for suggesting these can suck an ice cream cone.

- ask your crush what they did over the weekend, then ask follow-up questions to learn more about anything you're curious about, such as what they ate

- bake cookies to share, in a context where your crush might be one of the people sharing them

- ask your crush out to dinner. For example, if there's a new restaurant that you want to try...

- pay attention and remember things about your crush, such as any likes or dislikes, how many cream and sugar they like in their coffee, and so on, so that if you get the chance to offer something they like, you'll know how

Oh, there's no recipe.

All I do is I take whatever recipe is in the current issue of Bon Appetit or Southern Living, or maybe I just Google something and find an AllRecipes or Food Network recipe...

...and then I secretly dial down the vegetables until there's barely a teaspoon of actual veggies per serving....

...and I secretly add extra butter, extra eggs, pour a few glugs of beer or wine, if it's a dessert then obviously more sugar, more heavy cream....

...and then I lie. That's right, I tell falsehoods. I deceive the unwitting. I say, oh yes, I got this recipe from Southern Living (or wherever), and I followed it to a T! Did it not turn out like this for you? I'm sure I don't know where I went wrong! 🤥 [Pinocchio emoji]

Why thank you! I will gladly take a seat.

*settles into large comfy chair in the family living room for conversation time*

My family has a lot of potlucks. The fat-loving family members ask me to make the casseroles because they know I'll add tons of eggs, cheese, butter and other fattening stuff that tastes good... and I always add one healthy ingredient (tiny flecks of broccoli or spinach) so the dieting family members will eat it, too.

I'm sure the occasional casserole calorie bomb won't cause significant weight gain...

...or will it?

Congrats! If I'm understanding right, she doesn't want you to gain on purpose. So you need to know, what if you gain by accident?

When you two are having conversations about your long life together, for richer, for poorer, and all that ... ask her how she would feel if someday you happen to lose a lot of weight. What if you took up a really intense physical hobby and became a very thin and fit person, would she still be attracted to you?

And then ask how she would feel if you happened to gain a lot of weight. What if you got depressed, and went on a medication that caused you to gain, and that's the only way you can keep the depression at bay is to stay on a medication that causes you to weigh 400 pounds, would she still be attracted to you?

I bet she would say yes. And I bet every time you're really hungry, she won't refuse you food. And when you want a special treat and you promise it will make you very very happy if you could eat just this one thing, how could a loving fiancee or wife say no to your happiness?

When you need bigger clothes, you act just a bit ashamed and sorry that you're fatter than you ever meant to get, and you hope she can still love you at your new fatter size... Remind her that she promised to love you for thinner or for fatter, and she'll reassure you that she still loves you.

That's good to know, thanks!

I guess it doesn't work for me because I don't have cookies enabled, and that's a good thing.

I have reposted my first story, "FFA in bed with a BHM" in honor of its seventh anniversary.

Also, I was today years old when I realized you can still see the most recent stories. You just have to click "search," and select "most recent." And you have to keep doing that, because it will always default back to "recommended."

You're lucky to have such a fat girlfriend.

Are you still thinking about eventually marrying her?

A lot of women suddenly want to lose weight before their wedding because the focus will be on her as the bride.

You could start now looking online for engagement photos and wedding photos of couples that look similar to you and her...and especially bridal photos of beautiful brides as fat as your girlfriend, or just a little fatter. Show them to her and tell her that's what you dream of for your big day.

It depends on body shape. If someone builds up a lot of fat in their side boob near the underarm, and if they have fat upper arms, that will push their arms to stick out.

Radio silence.

Someone check on pdt.

His feeder needs to let him out from under that funnel long enough to give us an update.