It saves so much time and energy. I hate empty profiles for that very reason, I want to know who I'm talking to beyond your height or weight. I'm so sorry this happened to you, no one deserves this kind of heartbreak.

It is an issue that can only be resolved with patience, as much as I want to live the feedee experience. They always show their true colours once things begin to get real, and in my case they always run. I'd rather give up this kink for a healthy relationship than settle for something mediocre that only pleases the other person and places all the work on me.

Rocking myself when getting out of bed, feeling breathless when I need to tie my shoes, high slopes being the bane of my existence, not fitting in small or tight bathrooms, chairs with armrests digging on my thighs, not finding nice fashionable clothes... And much more. Yet I want to be bigger and create more problems for myself 😅

I just had this experience, and I'm feeling both amused and annoyed. The closest I've been to meeting a feeder was this man who was from the city I'm living in but resides in another city. We spent around a month talking about meeting, what we would do once we met and plans for the close future. But then he started showing disinterest and withdrawing, clearly bored from our interactions. He had stopped replying and so did I matching his energy, and I deleted his contact and chat from my phone. This last week he returned, crying about how I stopped writing him and that he still wanted to meet me. I ignored it and deleted the messages. He wrote two more times, each one more desperate than the last. But today he sent a long paragraph about how he bought another house and he wanted me to go live with him hours away, that he would treat me well and make me happy. Just pathetic, but this one guy had said something that rubbed me the wrong way back at the beginning, that he would finance my gains through a "disability pension" on my future morbid obesity. Yet he now tells me he bought a house, and if I were to believe him, this would be his third property. But the gains would be on my state pension. I'm sure this is just a desperate guy who doesn't know what he wants and is lying out his ass or being unhinged. Of course, I deleted that message and I won't block him for now, let's see what he brings next.

I did send an email to the hospital mentioned in his LinkedIn, sadly I couldn't screenshot the messages because he deleted them and blocked me after I called him out on other red flags as well, he didn't like that I was always contradicting him and "being a belligerent piggy". He lived in another country and I never got a response.

I had a feeder telling he would make me fat with his cum, but I just interpreted it as a weird fantasy of him, but never thought someone would think of it as real.

In two different occasions, two different feeders wanted me to gain through either 1) drinking daily a mix of heavy cream, molten butter and boost and 2) using prescription drugs for psychosis/schizophrenia just because it helped with hunger and gaining. The first one I find absolutely disgusting, and the second one was just extreme and so dangerous. He once paid for a meal, and his full name showed up on the transfer, so I looked him up and he was a psychiatrist. Quite the horror setup.

As someone from a country with a very outdoors culture and usually going out to have drinks at bars, usually the chairs are what I dread the most. Small, tight and uncomfortable, the armrests pressing at the sides of my legs and becoming torture after a while of sitting. But if there's a sign that my size is pretty noticeable, is that for the first time a waiter offered me a bigger chair with no armrests before I even sat. My friends only saw it as a sign of nice service, but for my gainer mind it definitely felt quite remarkable and kinda sexy. It didn't help that the waiter was a really cute guy.

I would pay it no mind, if I were you. It's normal to enter people's profiles whenever they pop up on your notifications, I'm more annoyed at the fact that most are empty and faceless. As a gay guy there are more girls and straight guys visiting my profile that gay/bi men, but because this is a heterogeneous platform that's the norm. Don't mind the gender of visitors and build your profile towards what you're looking for.

There are some trans women I've seen around, but it's a gay platform. There's also Chasabl, but focused on chasers. It's the biggest platform for gay men out there, although biggest doesn't mean the best.

In my experience, most feeders talk a big game, but when it comes to the moment of truth suddenly it's silence or stuttering. Grommr is full of unreliable feeders and begging gainers, and most of the interactions I get are "big belly" and nothing beyond that, it's honestly disheartening. I can only speak about gay/mlm sites, but I guess it's the same everywhere else.