Here's the thing, ALL relationships are selfish. Yes, all of them. If you are getting zero value from a relationship, you will probably lose interest and leave. (Unless you are convinced they're the best you can do).

As an example, you could be dating a guy who looked attractive to you, had ambition, confidence, a good career, and everything going for him. Then one day he loses his job, falls into a depression, lets himself go and stops trying in life. I'm guessing you would lose any attraction you had to him, and would consider moving on if he didn't turn his life back around.

So the real question is, are feeders only interested in sexuality to the exclusion of all else? Well, some are and some aren't. Just like the general population.

Some people want to have relationships that are only physical. Of course if the sex stops being good, then there's nothing left keeping them together, and they'd both be happy to move on to the next casual relationship. As long as they're both honest about what they want, there's nothing wrong with that. Same thing with some feeders. (And no, I don't think most feeders are dishonest about their intentions.)

Some people want to settle down and spend the rest of their life with someone they love and raise a family together. If the sex were to end, it might not be as big a deal, because they would still love each other and have the life they built together.

It's no different for feeders. Just as I've heard stories of feeders taking off once the gaining stopped, I've also heard stories of feeders who were supportive of the weight loss because they wanted to be a dad more than they wanted to be sexually satisfied.

That being said, fulfilling sex is kinda important for every relationship. Nobody wants to live their life with sexual frustration. For some feeders, hearing "I want to lose weight" is the equivalent of saying "We should both try chastity together".

The movie 300 was actually based on the graphic novel by Frank Miller. Zack Snyder (the director of the movie) has stated that his only intention with the movie was to accurately adapt the comic. So I think you have to blame the comic book industry for this one, rather than Hollywood. The funny thing is though, that when Frank Miller was writing 300, he spent a good deal of time in Greece extensively researching the history. Then he dramatized the hell out of it.

Elliott: I'm the victim of a nocturnal rapture. I have to release my lowest instincts with a woman.
Holly: *Punches him in the crotch* Release your instincts in the bathroom!
Elliott: Are you nuts? You tryin' to turn me into a homo?
Holly: Wouldn't be too hard. If my father discovers you here, he'd cut off your little nuts and eat them. He can't stand you.
-Troll 2

I did not hit her! It's not true! It's bullshit! I did not hit her! I did not. Oh hai Mark!
-The Room

Stewart: You vindictive son of a bitch. The best thing for the firm is me. I'm the best thing this firm has, and you f*cking know it. This is f*cking reve-- *Will pisses on his shoes* What are you, crazy?!
Will: No, I'm just marking my territory, and you got in the way.
Stewart: Nice. Real nice. Suede shoes.
Will: Asparagus.
-Wolf

Deak: Do you have any idea what we are gonna do to you if we find one itty bitty scratch on 'em?
Shep Ramsey: Let me guess. You're gonna pound my face, break every bone in my body, then you're gonna drag me across a gravel road and feed my remains to a warthog. Is that about right?
Deak: What are you, nuts? This is the 90's. We're gonna sue you.
-Suburban Commando

I have come here to chew bubblegum and kick ass... and I'm all out of bubblegum.
-They Live

OH NO! NOT THE BEES! NOT THE BEES! AAAAHHHH! OH, THEY'RE IN MY EYES! MY EYES! AAAAAAGGGHHHH! AAAAGHRGHRBLURGHLL
-The Wicker Man

Sands: Are you a Mexican or a Mexican't?
Cucuy: I'm a Mexican.
Sands: Good. Then do as I say.
-Once Upon a Time in Mexico

The only miracle is that these guys even got popular in the first place. F*ckin juggalos, how do they work? Seriously, I'd like to know how ICP ended up with such a following without having any talent. Somebody explain it to me.

EDIT: Just found a link to an article on Cracked.com. It's wicked mad dope fresh. Let's get some science up in this bitch. WOOP WOOP

www.cracked.com/blog/learn-your-mother***in-science-with-the-icp/

Note, the URL contains a swear, so it gets automatically censored when I link to it, and redirects to a blank page. Oops.

A long time ago, when my mom first found out, her immediate reaction was that I must have really low self esteem because subconsciously, I must believe that that's the only type of woman who'd accept me. Yeah, my mom is awesome. When she says something insensitive, it's insulting on at least 3 levels. Anyway, after that awkward conversation, she decided to just leave well enough alone and accept it. She told me that I could fall in love with trailer trash if I wanted to, and if it made me happy, she'd be happy for me. She's not a bad person, she just has no idea what is or isn't appropriate to say.

The only reason the thread got locked was because people were beating up on Dazed. As long as you don't single out anybody in the future, you can debate the original topic of this thread to your heart's content, and it probably won't get locked again. People probably aren't going to see your post several pages in, so the simplest way to get people to change the subject in the middle of a discussion is just to make a new thread.

I'd rather be the one getting dumped any day of the week. That way, there's no agonizing over how to break it to them gently or when it's the right time. You don't have the opportunity to put off the inevitable for months while you try to ignore the problem. Literally all you have to do is come up with some bitter quip to throw back at them, and then it's done and you can get on with your life. Plus, you get the chance be angry at someone else instead of being angry with yourself. I think that's healthier somehow.

Dethklok - Crush My Battle Opponent's Balls

Yeah, that's right. My cell phone is the most brutal phone ever.

My first reaction was that this looks a lot like FEED, but in play form. They didn't vilify the feeder too much in the blog, but I could easily see it going in that direction as the story unfolds. He looked about ready to turn into a psycho at the end of it. The truth is, although many gaining couples fantasize about immobility, very very few of them actually make it that far. So the reality of feederism and the fantasy scenario depicted in the play are two very different things.

But even so, there was really nothing wrong with their relationship. In her posts, she seemed just as excited about the weight gain as he was, and it didn't sound like she was gaining for his benefit at all. She had several feeder boyfriends before him, and was disappointed when they backed out on the commitment of long term gaining. In fact, she was even the first one to suggest the goal of 1000 lbs. It sounded like she knew exactly what she wanted, and he was only too happy to oblige her. He didn't sound aggressive or manipulative, and he always did anything he could to make her happy and comfortable, meeting all of his responsibilities as her caretaker and husband. She kept raving about how awesome he was and couldn't get over how lucky she was to have him. In other words, it was a happy relationship between two consenting adults.

The problem arose when she suddenly got scared of the reality of her situation and changed her mind. Most normal people would have talked to their husband about it and worked it out as a couple. He didn't even give any indication that he would have been unreasonable. Instead, what she did was run out on him without even a word, while he was out of town buying her a present. So yeah, of course he freaked out, called the cops, and tried to track her down. Anybody would have.

I read some of the playwright's blog, and it sounds like he wants to give a fair and accurate presentation of feederism. He said he doesn't want to pass judgment, but show a character driven love story set in this community. He spoke at length with people on Dimensions, and held workshops in order to get community feedback. He said he kept rewriting the play until everybody was satisfied. Even so, I remain a little skeptical. I REALLY want to see this play for myself, but that's going to be impossible. I hope they eventually release a DVD, or at least someone can sneak a video camera into the theater.