AskDrFeeder:
Been reading about the "soft girl" trend. I know it's not "soft" in the sense that fat bodies are soft, but I wonder if there's any overlap between soft girls and feedees. Anyone?

JN_TumLover56:
I think I have heard that it’s a long the lines of being a softie compared to someone who has a strong face and sturdy. If that’s one way to say it?

Munchies:
Eh, no. My comment gives a brief overview of the soft girl lifestyle. It has nothing to do with facial features or body shape. You can have a strong face and sturdy body while having a soft life. On the flip side, you can have softer features and a willowy body without being part of the soft life.

Canuck:
wow, this thread has a long history! my previous response is apparently 4 years ago - so time for some new perspective, i think.

i gained a bunch of weight since my last post and over that time i've experienced some new limitations, and i am also with a new partner, which has changed my perspective, too. i gained up to a top weight of about 475, although i've lost some weight since then (about 450 now).

there are a lot of limitations that have been hot. little things, like being to wide to get close enough to the kitchen counters to reach the upper shelves. i get teased about that regularly, which is kind of hot.

my partner is pretty fit, and the contrast between us is really nice, and her ability to easily dominate me, just by being more flexible and limber than me, is very hot. the limitations it has created in our sex play has actually been very hot, too.

the limitations in standing, walking, not fitting in chairs, and just getting through the day are the nuisance problems which i can live with by i don't enjoy them at all. i've had to lose some weight for health concerns recently, and i am definitely not enjoying the food limitations (mostly missing beer!).

Munchies:
When it comes to health issues and physical limitations, I think there's a bit of a disconnect between fantasy and reality. Sure, it's sexy to be too fat to move normally. But that's also really inconvenient.

Ahhdipose:
Well so far i started out the day with a huge stuffing 7 sausage biscuits so around 3500 cals and grazed on star cruncehes throughout the day like 5 so about 1400 and then had two plates of spaghetti about 2000 cals and am planning to polish it of with a brownie sundae 1100 cals thank you all with the advice and reccomendations

Munchies:
Stuffings are fun, but as SumoSized said, they can backfire. It's common to lose your appetite the day after a big stuffing. It's best to keep stuffings as a treat, not the main method.

Lonewolf91:
Sometimes I just wish I was dating a more dominant feeder who would force me to drink heavy cream shakes every weekend.

She’d keep my mouth glued to the funnel and as I chug the fattening calories, she’d massage and rub my fat belly to make room for more.

Munchies:
These are two different things.

I'm talking about liking the actual person. You are talking about liking the body said person inhabits. These two things are very unrelated.

AskDrFeeder:
When I'm interested in a relationship with a woman I want both. The fact that you have a thing for her size does not mean you can't appreciate her on other levels.

Of course it is possible for a man to fetishize a woman for her size and not love her or even like her, and she should reject such a man (unless she just wants a roll in the hay!). But having a preference for curvy women certainly doesn't eliminate the possibility of liking or loving her.

Munchies:
Like I said. These are two completely different things.

I'm in community with a lot of plus-sized women who are not feedists. I've heard horror story after horror story of these women getting into relationships with fat fetishists (either knowingly or unknowingly), only for things to go sideways.

Examples include attempts to manipulate them into the lifestyle, losing their minds if they decide to lose weight, or being more interested in their bodies than anything else.

It wears on a person to be objectified like this. So, instead of continuously taking a chance on fat fetishists, they'll swear them off entirely just to be safe. And considering what I have seen from fat fetishists in the community losing their God damned minds when dating a non-feedist, I get where they are coming from.

This is not to say it can't work out. Sometimes it does.

That said, women who want to be in relationships want to be valued for out personhood first and our body second. It is dangerous for us to be with someone who prizes our bodies too much.

Getobese:
Title: MAKING ME FAT! 

 Jun 20, 2023 at 4:35 PM 

“Ok. when I met my wife 2 years ago I was a very fit 150 I'm 5’8, six pac starting to show, since we’ve been married I have gained 35 lbs my wife openly admits she is trying to make me fat! Now she barters for things like, if I eat 3 cookies I get a 2 minute Blowjob or 5 cookies & 2 scoops of ice cream I get a 10 min back rub and a long BJ. I don't get it I want to look good for her. She said she wants me to be fat so that she looks better by comparison. I’m finding it harder and harder to resist her now and afraid I will get huge because of her using sex to entice me to gain weight.

 “ MY QUESTION IS…Is she a feeder or just seriously vain? Perhaps she can’t admit to being attracted to fat.?

Fruet:
In my opinion, the worst part of this fetish is the fact that is difficult to found someone who likes it too in irl. Like, are you going to ask every person you meet if he/she/them are into feederism.

Lillyraesmith49:
This is so true. also finding people my age on here and the total lack of like female feeder representation.

Munchies:
The under 20 crowd tends to be flaky af. They sign only to delete and rejoin later.

And there are several female feeders on here. It's just that most of us keep to ourselves. Too man men run them off - even if they are lesbians.

Espcially if they are lesbians.

The male feeders try to turn us into feedees, and the male feedees are waaaaaaaaaay too desperate.

Getobese:
4% of Americans have a fat fetish – making it one of the most common fetishes in the US.

*** 1 in 14 men has a fat fetish Thats (7%) ***

MottiF:
I wish it could be more common in other countries

Munchies:
It might be. They just may not be aware of the community.

Yojumbo:
After seeing a 2lb sherry trifle (supposed to serve 6) reduced to clear post-Christmas I just had to try it to challenge myself.

I don't know how I did it but I ate the whole thing (on top of a big dinner). I feel huge and i a weird way powerful right now.

Since I'm going to be up digesting this for a while, does anyone else have stories about eating the whole of something meant to feed several people?