Hmmmm. My daughter spends a lot of time watching queer-themed movies, and I've seen a number of very good ones with her, including some big budget successes like *Boys Don't Cry*. I think sexuality has made huge strides--there's still a very long way to go, but a lot has been accomplished since Stonewall. []en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stonewall_riots]



The big difference between us and all the other issues is that we have the numbers on our side. We need to find a way to say out loud, in public, what we always bang on about here: most people in the US are fat, and other industrialised nations are catching up at impressive, though varied, rates. The world is fattening. We are not just a 'minority'.

Now if only we could figure out how to ACT like that and demand equal space, both figuratively and literally.

I'm intrigued that there is a gendered divide, and a fat divide, in the responses here. OK, it's not a statistically significant sample, not even of our quirky membership, but still, I feel 100% as chubbyhoney does, and I find Max and Seth's approach cavalier, somehow. Maybe it comes from living on the wrong side of pressure, either from being female or fat or the combination?

@Seth: if you tried to make Avatar using the tech you have available at college/university, it would be impenetrable. That's not a great way to judge what's possible, though I take your point about subtracting being easier than adding.

Given basic principles of inclusion, though, you'd think it would seem like a reasonable idea to hire fat actors for fat roles.

Here's a link to a thread in General. I didn't want to hijack the thread--I said my piece and left it at that. But I wanted to open a conversation here about fat suits.

Do you find them offensive? why? if not, why not? For example, why not use a fat actress and cgi her skinny when required?

Some years back I knew a student who was writing a Masters Thesis on fat suit uses, andB I was quite convinced by her argument that it can't be pushed aside. But that's me.

Any thoughts?
xxJ

The guys who get answers from me ask me something from my I Seek U. One great one recently, the best in quite a while, said something like 'I don't blame you for being tired of liars and scoundrels. And scoundrel is a word trhat should be used more often.' *This* was a good first pm.

My dears,

For anyone who looked for the Soiree tonight, my sincerest apologies. I have that cotton-brained cold thing happening, and I thought it was Saturday instead of Sunday. Ugh. Truly sorry, and pretty embarrassed.

Do you all want to have the Soiree the next two weekends? I'm happy to show up, unlike this week, and pour drinks, but if everyone's going to be with fam and friends and not online, then we'll wait until the 9th. What say you all?

1) This is not a weightgain topic.

2) Please do not post the same post in different forums. This one appears in General as well. One of the threads should be removed, and I suspect one will be removed by a moderator.

Please don't post the same post twice in different forums.

If I recall, originally it put you wherever your ISP was. I don't know when or why it changed, but there were complaints then, too. I uspect there will always be complaints, no matter what. Not that I love the default setting locations as they are, lol.

I guess I don't think about this matter the same way as some others. I don't think that our preferences are the same in public and in the bedroom--I know mine aren't. For whatever reason, I take space and have authority in everyday life; I haven't always liked it, but I have come to accept it.

Sexually, I prefer not to be in control. I prefer a Daddy, though I don't mean in the ABDL sense. I'm convinced there's a relationship between the two: I get tired of dealing all the time in the everyday, and having someone make decisions for me is a huge turn-on.

But there's one more thing: I think Dom/me/s and Subs exchange power knowingly and freely. It doesn't work if there is a real imbalance of power between two people. If the sub doesn't give permission freely and knowingly, then it's abuse, not BDSM. If you presume that means something more than the purely physical, the boundaries take some thought and exploration.

Just a theory, but it feels right about me, anyway.

What I think is my main fear is never being able to control it. It comes from lots of things in my history, including gaining when I didn't want to, and looooong tedious struggles to lose. But I think it has much deeper roots in issues about control that I think I share with many, many people.