Munchies:
Oooookay ...

I see why she wants to "cure" you despite how misguided she's being.

Are y'all in marriage counseling?

31BCooter:
Nope we just moved across the country and still getting settled.

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

Munchies:
Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?

31BCooter:
Yes, she has helped me a lot (I went through a lot of trauma my whole life) but she thinks that it can be resolved with therapy and no longer be a desire.

Munchies:
Okay... that's not how that works. Does she have a background in sex therapy? Because the science behind fetishes makes it very clear that's not how that works.

I see that your profile says you are a feeder. How were you hoping to engage with you wife concerning this fetish?

31BCooter:
She is an abnormal phycologist and I just want her to love her weight, be down to even do micro gains, and just sometimes overendulge.

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

Munchies:
Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?

31BCooter:
Yes, she has helped me a lot (I went through a lot of trauma my whole life) but she thinks that it can be resolved with therapy and no longer be a desire.

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

31BCooter:
Hello all, I am a married man and my wife knows about my kink. However she refuses to even try it and I have made it last for 4 years however I cannot help but realize I am growing more and more depressed due to the absence of my kink. It has been a main staple of my life since I was young and I am realizing I cannot be without it romantically. Basically I am looking for advice or pretty much anything.

Nofbar:
Now and then I see posts here about which antidepressants cause the most weight gain. That's great, but it ignores the primary purpose of antidepressants. Could I get a conversation going about combating depression? I don't want to be depressed. If an antidepressant causes me to gain a lot of weight, that's great, but I'd like to hear from people about what meds actually helped beat back depression.

Letters And Numbers:
Talk to your doctor. 1) even the people on the site who have a lot of knowledge about medicine don’t have access to your chart. 2) it’s just a very individual, trial and error thing. Even if you get advice, you need to see how meds work with your individual brain chemistry, which isn’t going to be like anyone else’s.

I’d also say that most modern antidepressants cause very negligible weight gain, if any.

Ninjaturtle94:
There’s just a lot of wasted potential with her hands not being on this body haha

Ninjaturtle94:
I’m just really looking forward to gaining

Highway:
Almost everyone gains weight during the holidays. If it were me, I would just use that excuse and continue to gain. You never know your wife might like it, and this problem would be solved.

PolyPinoyPuppy:
This has already been suggested. Furthermore, OP has already said their wife has shown discomfort with the extra weight OP has.

This isn't solving the problem. This is ignoring the problem and hoping it goes away.

Highway:
I don’t remember reading that the OP said his wife had a problem with his weight or his appearance. The OP stated that his wife had a problem with the fetish. All I’m saying is that the holidays are a great excuse to gain some weight and who knows His wife might How the extra weight looks on him. It’s not like he’s a small guy. He already weighs over 300 pounds so I don’t think she has a Fatphobia, At least towards him anyway.

Ninjaturtle94:
My wife says she wished I never told her about my fetish. She said it’s all she thinks about now and can’t really cope with it. She says she isn’t into it but doesn’t feel like it’s right to keep me from indulging in my fantasies.

We had sex a few nights ago and she said it was different because she had thoughts in her mind thinking I was thinking of how attractive our bellies are. She also asked that I dont have my hands on my belly around her to because it makes her uncomfortable.

I told her we should abstain from sex until she feels better and the shock of the news starts to wear off. She says she’s worried if she can’t give me attention like that I’ll go on “an eating bender” to get her attention.

I assured her I will not do that and to take her time. I don’t want to be huge I just want to gain a little

Munchies:
I said it before, and I will say it again.

Y'all need couple's counseling. And it sounds like she needs individual therapy because this is a trauma response.

I am not sure abstaining from sex until she feels better is the right move here. It seems you saying that makes her feel rejected by you. It would have been better to ask her what she needs from you as well as what makes her feel good in bed. You got to tell her what you need sexually. Reciprocity would have been good here.

Look, this is a two-person problem, but you are putting the onus on her for a solution. That's not fair. You guys are a team. Act like it.

Ninjaturtle94:
I misspoke my bad, We mutually agreed on abstaining. I asked her in the last conversation what she’d like and she says she just likes it when I go down on her other than that nothing in mind.

I think counseling would be great. I feel like it would be uncomfortable to add another
Person to the conversation but most definitely worth it. Maybe I could learn a way to change my mindset and not want to gain.

Enas:
AI is one of these topics that make me think that human talent is BASED.