NoMoYoYo:
I am now two weeks into my healthier gain. What a difference. I haven't been perfect, but I have cut out most of the fast food I had been eating and some of the junk too. I've also added some exercise.

Its amazing how quickly I've felt better. I've also noticed my belly becoming much softer.

I will continue this strategy and see where it takes me. I am pretty sure I will not gain any weight this month and thats okay. I'd rather remain fat and be more healthy than to continue the route I was on and get to a point where I had to lose weight again.

Munchies:
Some of that firmness reduction is due to a reduction in inflammation. A lot of junk food causes some level of gastro-intestinal inflammation. When it gets out of your system, much of that inflammation goes away. The same is true for fluid retention.

NoMoYoYo:
Interesting. This is obviously a good thing.

Now I need to find a way to up my calorie intake. Fast food and junk have tons of calories and is super easy to eat. Healthier foods fill me up quicker. I would like to get back up to 3000 calories a day, but am managing low 2000's right now.

My goal of 275lbs is in sight and I would like to get there possibly by the end of the year - about 2lbs a month.

Munchies:
Little things add up over time. Snacking on nuts, using sauces or full-fat dressing on your food, or adding cheese is a good way to add calories to food without feeling too full.

Over time, you'll be able to eat more food. But this is fine for now.

NoMoYoYo:
I eat nuts regularly. Usually mixed, but sometimes peanuts. I like cheese too. I think my problem is now that I've added more fruits and vegetables I feel fuller, quicker.

I think what I need to do is pick a calorie target and try hitting it daily. Then in a week or two add 100 more. Hopefully, by doing it this way I can eventually reach 3000. Or whatever number it will take to gain some weight.

You're right, this is fine for now. I went hard for the better part of nine months. I should probably take it easy for a bit.

My problem is I love gaining. I have to change my mindset and realize I'm fat now. It's okay if I don't gain at this moment. But it's hard.

Munchies:
Definitely give yourself some time to recover. Maybe a month or so. Don't worry about your calorie intake or the scale during this time. Take a "whatever happens happens" approach. At the end of it all, reassess.

NoMoYoYo:
Awwww, but, but, but.......fine lol

Not gonna lie, it's not going to be easy. I worry that if I take my foot off the pedal, I may not want to start again.

Wackaroni:
I hate feeling like I don't know where to find a relationship with somebody who understands me and shares my desires. Sure, there are sites like this, but sometimes its hard to see it in a romantic way when there is a lot of focus on fetishy stuff (no judgement), both here and on Feabie. Maybe I am too sentimental about things like having some perfect story about how I met somebody, idk.

I want to find love in the real world but I always fear rejection, and I am horrified about being honest about my kinks and preferences. Over time I just feel like I am more prone to going online just because I don't know what else to do.

People say love finds you, but I don't think passivity and waiting is getting me anywhere. It just seems like there is my entire life, and then this other part of it that is hidden away and totally separate. It really doesn't feel right to have to be so secretive, but being seen here isn't what I would consider to be the most flattering in the eyes of the many people that I know.

Munchies:
I don't know. There's some truth to love finding you. I met my partner after a five-year dating hiatus. Neither one of us was looking for love, but it happened.

This is not to say you should sit on a stoop and wait for someone to approach you. That's dumb. I think it's best to work on yourself so you are date-ready, put yourself out there, and don't force it.

Wackaroni:
It may be a hyperbole for me to describe my state as sitting around and waiting. I guess I have gotten bored of constant self improvement, because I feel like it is so repetitive to have to grin and bear it all. Like yeah, how many times do I have to clean everything up and work out and take care of my body before somebody else just recognizes me for all of the things that I do? Sure, I can easily find joy in solo pursuits, and I love to experience joy with my family and friends, but this one part of my life always feels empty and it often feels like I am just swimming to keep my head above water, trying to be stronger than it. Like, when can I share some of these things instead of it feeling like it is just for me, and that I always have to be the source of my own validation? After a while it feels fucking insane.

Then I have moments where I surrender to it and accept that this loneliness is just a part of who I am, and I guess that is okay in the sense that I can see that I don't need to be stoned outside of the town wall for it. In the spirit of being 'real as fuck' though, it sucks. It is exhausting to deny the fact that I feel miserable.

I have been working to be in a state where I feel like I can put myself out there, but its always just around the corner. Maybe I need to see that this "corner" I am coming around is more like a roundabout where I am just running in circles, following this infinite edge.

NoMoYoYo:
I am now two weeks into my healthier gain. What a difference. I haven't been perfect, but I have cut out most of the fast food I had been eating and some of the junk too. I've also added some exercise.

Its amazing how quickly I've felt better. I've also noticed my belly becoming much softer.

I will continue this strategy and see where it takes me. I am pretty sure I will not gain any weight this month and thats okay. I'd rather remain fat and be more healthy than to continue the route I was on and get to a point where I had to lose weight again.

Munchies:
Some of that firmness reduction is due to a reduction in inflammation. A lot of junk food causes some level of gastro-intestinal inflammation. When it gets out of your system, much of that inflammation goes away. The same is true for fluid retention.

NoMoYoYo:
Interesting. This is obviously a good thing.

Now I need to find a way to up my calorie intake. Fast food and junk have tons of calories and is super easy to eat. Healthier foods fill me up quicker. I would like to get back up to 3000 calories a day, but am managing low 2000's right now.

My goal of 275lbs is in sight and I would like to get there possibly by the end of the year - about 2lbs a month.

Munchies:
Little things add up over time. Snacking on nuts, using sauces or full-fat dressing on your food, or adding cheese is a good way to add calories to food without feeling too full.

Over time, you'll be able to eat more food. But this is fine for now.

NoMoYoYo:
I eat nuts regularly. Usually mixed, but sometimes peanuts. I like cheese too. I think my problem is now that I've added more fruits and vegetables I feel fuller, quicker.

I think what I need to do is pick a calorie target and try hitting it daily. Then in a week or two add 100 more. Hopefully, by doing it this way I can eventually reach 3000. Or whatever number it will take to gain some weight.

You're right, this is fine for now. I went hard for the better part of nine months. I should probably take it easy for a bit.

My problem is I love gaining. I have to change my mindset and realize I'm fat now. It's okay if I don't gain at this moment. But it's hard.

Wackaroni:
I hate feeling like I don't know where to find a relationship with somebody who understands me and shares my desires. Sure, there are sites like this, but sometimes its hard to see it in a romantic way when there is a lot of focus on fetishy stuff (no judgement), both here and on Feabie. Maybe I am too sentimental about things like having some perfect story about how I met somebody, idk.

I want to find love in the real world but I always fear rejection, and I am horrified about being honest about my kinks and preferences. Over time I just feel like I am more prone to going online just because I don't know what else to do.

People say love finds you, but I don't think passivity and waiting is getting me anywhere. It just seems like there is my entire life, and then this other part of it that is hidden away and totally separate. It really doesn't feel right to have to be so secretive, but being seen here isn't what I would consider to be the most flattering in the eyes of the many people that I know.

Wackaroni:
I should also apologize if I am just inserting myself in this discussion crudely, but the context helps. I guess that in itself is daunting to me, as it is difficult for me to imagine myself showing somebody something new and then them embracing it or coming to enjoy it. For me, I think I am open to new things, but I am pretty dead-set on what I consider to be my favorite in this context so I imagine that other people would be the same. Then again, I come from a past of a lot of rejection, people-pleasing, comparison, etc.

Stockylove:
Good luck. This is not a situation I would want to be in. But I don't think that will happen to me.

PurpleJade:
Oh it’s not a problem. A few bad apples made it hard to feel comfortable with making my partner gain. Exes that were vulnerable and obsessive, gaining weight solely for me against their own will to feel wanted by me. It made it hard it hard to apply my fetish to anyone but myself.

I’m sure I could be a feeder after all that if the circumstances were all right. I just would rather stick to gaining. My partner may be into it by how they act around my newly found belly, but I trust their judgement to tell me and I won’t be the one to expose it.

And I wanna try different positions, it sometimes feels limiting. I know there is a post with fat positive sex positions but all felt more or less the same but at a slight angle, leg raised, or straight up didn't work for us.

Munchies:
Oof. That sucks. I'm sorry you went through that.

My first feedee was a people-pleaser. It was nice at first. He said that he was dedicated to my pleasure and would do anything he could to fulfill my fantasies. That didn't end well. It turns out that when you put your partner on a pedestal as an object of worship, your relationship goes south fast.

My current partner has a strong sense of self, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

I think the way you are handling your partner's possible fetish is the best way to go about it. Your partner already knows about your kinks. He's more than likely figuring his own out. He'll come to you when he's ready.

Wackaroni:
I just can't imagine keeping things to myself. My parents had an extremely strained relationship because of their sexual incompatibility. It just caused chaos in our house, as they had very different expectations. Both of them felt unfulfilled and unable to satisfy one another, but in the end I guess they were pretty good at the whole financial and material aspect of things.

I just hate having such strong feelings only for me to keep them to myself. I feel like a massive aspect of my fetish or whatever is the desire to please another human being that shares what feels like an alienating interest. I desperately yearn for private intimacy with somebody who just gets me. I am tired of only being able to relate through lifeless screens, and only feeling temporarily but artificially pacified by seeing pixels of somebody that doesn't care about me and doesn't even know I exist.

XFat:
I feel like I cannot compete with the super large stuffings of many people here, but I feel like I've had a good stuffing day so far and wanted to share. Anyone else proud of their successes even if they don't match the feats of other gainers here?

Today I ate:
1 x xl crossaint breakfast sandwich with bacon, sausage and extra cheese
1 x chocolate chip muffin (costco size)
1 x classic glazed donut
1/2 a lumberjack sub (the super big ones from the grocery store)
3 x Shortbread cookies
1 x xl mocha with extra whipped cream
1 x 6 piece nuggets
1 x double cheese burger
1 x med coke
1 x large hot fudge Sunday
1 x large piece of lasagna (approx 5" x 5" x 3"
1 x pint Ben and Jerry's half baked
1 x 500ml coke

I know that's not much for an all day stuffing, but I'm proud of my progress 😊

Stockylove:
Good luck. This is not a situation I would want to be in. But I don't think that will happen to me.

PurpleJade:
Oh it’s not a problem. A few bad apples made it hard to feel comfortable with making my partner gain. Exes that were vulnerable and obsessive, gaining weight solely for me against their own will to feel wanted by me. It made it hard it hard to apply my fetish to anyone but myself.

I’m sure I could be a feeder after all that if the circumstances were all right. I just would rather stick to gaining. My partner may be into it by how they act around my newly found belly, but I trust their judgement to tell me and I won’t be the one to expose it.

And I wanna try different positions, it sometimes feels limiting. I know there is a post with fat positive sex positions but all felt more or less the same but at a slight angle, leg raised, or straight up didn't work for us.

NoMoYoYo:
I am now two weeks into my healthier gain. What a difference. I haven't been perfect, but I have cut out most of the fast food I had been eating and some of the junk too. I've also added some exercise.

Its amazing how quickly I've felt better. I've also noticed my belly becoming much softer.

I will continue this strategy and see where it takes me. I am pretty sure I will not gain any weight this month and thats okay. I'd rather remain fat and be more healthy than to continue the route I was on and get to a point where I had to lose weight again.

Munchies:
Some of that firmness reduction is due to a reduction in inflammation. A lot of junk food causes some level of gastro-intestinal inflammation. When it gets out of your system, much of that inflammation goes away. The same is true for fluid retention.

NoMoYoYo:
Interesting. This is obviously a good thing.

Now I need to find a way to up my calorie intake. Fast food and junk have tons of calories and is super easy to eat. Healthier foods fill me up quicker. I would like to get back up to 3000 calories a day, but am managing low 2000's right now.

My goal of 275lbs is in sight and I would like to get there possibly by the end of the year - about 2lbs a month.

Babyberry:
I've been thinking about gaining with heavy cream, but it turns out that they don't sell it here. Are there alternatives to heavy cream with similar effects to the delayed gain?