Can confirm. I was naturally underweight for a while. I'd gorge myself comatose on as many calories as I could fit inside me and still never gained a pound. Things didn't start sticking until I was 23.

One of the things I do is help people find their balance between reality and kink. Many people hate it when I "rain on their fun," but I'm not. There's a way to enjoy this kink - even the extreme parts without sacrificing their lives - their personhood - to this kink.

There are posts from users asking how to develop a food addiction so they can get fat. They ask this in ignorance, not understanding how devastating an addiction truly is.

It's not a hard and fast thing. I know several people on this site who weigh 400, 500+ lbs and used to be skinny or in good shape. However, this came with sacrifices on their end. Unless you make an effort to keep up your fitness and flexibility, you won't be able to do as many of the things you did at 160 as you can at 300.

My partner used to weigh about 200 lbs and play water polo. Now, at 400 lbs, he'll laugh if you suggest such a thing.

From what I've seen, if you are thin starting out, 200 - 250 seems to be when most either stop or reverse course. This is the fattest they can get without negatively impacting their everyday lives. This number is smaller if you are short (160 - 180).


If you were chubby or "small fat," most stop in the 350 - 500 lbs range. This is around the size people experience moderate to major health issues.

This is hilarious. OP has an aging kink. This isn't an older people in kink space appreciation post.

I don't have the numbers, but based on the thousands of people I've spoken to over the years, I'd imagine that number to be quite low. There are several reasons:

1. Lack of resources
2. Lack of a feeder/caretaker
3. Responsibilities getting in the way
4. Fear of getting fat(ter)
5. Reality being drastically different from fantasy

I think that last one is the biggest reason most never become immobile. I've seen a lot of feedees start strong. They will eat as much as they can stand as often as possible. They eat high-calorie, low-nutrition slop, are as sedentary as possible, and do nothing but think about their fetish 24/7.

Suddenly, they start feeling bad all the time. Some start here. Some keep going.

When money starts getting tight, some stop, some pick up extra shifts for additional jobs, and some become content creators or e-begging.

Their health starts to decline. Most stop here. A lot of feedees either think they will avoid health issues or, at the very least, they won't be so bad. But when your body betrays you and (especially in America) those medical bills pimp slap you across the face, you reevaluate your life choices.

Mobility loss is the final hurdle that stops most people from becoming immobile. The constant pain, boredom, dwindling freedom, and feeling like a burden take a toll on people. Most settle for limited mobility or lose enough weight to regain it.

I've gotten a lot of flak over the years from people wanting to be immobile or at least extremely fat when I inject reality into their fantastical plans. Without fail, I'll see them lose the weight to reverse the damage they did or hit me up to get my advice.

Often without so much as an apology.

But hey? What can you do except ignore them?

You make a lot of salient points, Food Enjoyer. It's a shame we are only now interacting, but oh well.

I hadn't considered the death feedist situation, but now that I have, I see that you have a point.

There aren't a lot of true death feedists out and about, but I've noticed an uptick in people flirting with the idea. I won't call these people suicidal, but I've noticed a sense of dispair.

To paraphrase one person I talked to about the situation, it's less about wanting to day and more about wanting to take the fetish to the upper limit without any regard to the consequences. Another person said something to the effect of "Life sucks, and I am going to die anyway. Might as well go out doing what I love."

Another thing I've noticed is that these people either do not stay in the community long or backpedal after the first serious health scare.

A lot of people will throw themselves into kink as a form of escapism. And that's all well and good up until it clashes with reality in ways you didn't sign up for.

You've asked this before

fantasyfeeder.com/forum/posts

Honestly, I am geniunely worried about you if you cannot see what's going on.

It started off with her being unhappy with her weight. John says in the first sentance he kept underplaying her weight. Why? Because he had plans to make her as fat as possible.

His accomodating her size without her realizing it isn't him looking out for her needs. If it was, they would have had an open, honest conversation about his kink, her body goals, and if she wanted to indulge his kink. Instead, he is making things easy for her knowing she struggles to slim down and would take the path of least resistance. It's not that she wanted to be fat. He used her personality against her to get what he wanted.

And speaking of the path of least resistance, let's talk about her declining mobility. He talks about how he helped her with her mobility at first. Then when she got too fat to move around without a wheelchair, he convinced her to use the wheelchair. This means she was not happy with her waning mobility.

He should have had a conversation with her. Talked to her about her mobility goals and did whatever she decided. Instead, he convinced her to go the route he wanted for her.

All I have seen in his posts is a man systematically manipulating an insecure, weak woman into living out his fetish. I am a sadistic domme extreme feedee. I love torturing my partner and causing him pain. But I only do it with his ENTHUSIASTIC consent which he can revoke anytime.

I fattenened my partner to 500 lbs. It was too much for him. Instead of convincing him to power through and keep going, I helped him lose weight so he could be comfortable.

If John's partner was one of those feedees that enjoyed losing mobility, he wouldn't need to convince her to use the wheelchair. Have you seen those kinds of feedees? They are excited to be that fat. Turns them on. This woman is just quietly accepting her fate.

I feel that you have missed the point I was trying to make. I am not saying that men do not face discrimination. I am saying that women are uniquely vulnerable to discrimination.

Legitimate concerns like the increasing commercialization of our fetish with the rise of Only Fans and the TikTok invasion a while back flattened into "All women are money-hungry gold diggers." "Don't give your money to internet strangers" flattened into "Never give a female feedee money because they are all scammers."

Things have gotten better in this regard, but it is still a prevalent thought. And it is a dangerous thought, too, because often, a specific flavor of men will publicly blast a woman for being a "scammer" only because she rejected his advances. This can severely damage that woman's reputation and open her up to harassment.

Thankfully, more people are asking questions and not taking these accusations at face value. But it happens all the same.