Partner in tight button downs

Partner pulling out his belly and wobbling it

Partner jiggling his ass (man can't twerk, but this is a close second)

Partner being so stuffed he gets all helpless and needs me to take care of him

Any man with a really big ass

I think this is true in terms of surface level, individual reasons. But the popularity also speaks to feedist culture. As much as feedism is countercultural, feedist still live in a fatphobic world. I do not think a lot of feedists have interrogated these influences as a whole.

I noticed revenge weight gain stories follow a general beat. Mean person is skinny and hot. As punishment for their sins, they get fat. Society rejects them, their life is ruined, and then they get fatter. Bonus points if the mean person joins the other loser fatties or the loser fatty they bullied become skinny and hot.

Notice how this frames fat as bad and skinny as good. There are, of course, variations on an individual level, but this is how the bulk of them go. From where I sit, this suggests feeling ashamed of their kinks and fetishes. They find fat sexy (the porn part) while also negociating some level of fatphobia (the revenge part).

But I suppose it makes sense. A lot of people sexualize what they find taboo.

What on earth are you talking about? People of all sizes have always existed.

Also, can we please stop talking about teenagers in a sexualized way? That's sketchy.

More padding or more calories? 😏

It's always been strange to me how prevalent the whole revenge fattening fantasy thing is. Specifically the whole "You were mean to me in high school. I hope you get fat."

We like fat around these parts. It's like saying "You were mean to me in high school. I hope you get smoking hot." But in these revenge fantasies, it's always a bad thing.

Are we so ashamed of our preferences that someone achieving them is shameful?

I know some people who used to be cocky and in shape. Most of the time, they become cocky and out of shape.

Turns out, being fat does not make you a better person.

Santa Claus a la Tim Burton style.

Maybe not the version in The Nightmare Before Christmas because that guy isn't spooky at all:

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Maybe something that looks more at home in The Corpse Bride?

You right. I was thinking about an unrelated archive site.

That said, the Wayback Machine has been back for a few days now:

npr.org/2024/10/20/nx-s1-5159000/internet-archive-hack-leak-wayback-machine

Plus Dimensions removed their catalog from the Wayback Machine for a few years now.

Interesting. During play, I normally treat my partner like a spoiled, lazy housepet or a glorified pleasure machine. But the helpful feedee thing might be fun foreplay.

Maybe to the taste tester route. You're trying to figure out the menu for Thanksgiving or some other big food event. It's a lot of cooking to do, and you can't afford to mess up when the big day comes.

Thankfully, you have a very hungry feedee eager to help.

When I want to find a feeder, I look in the mirror.

But in all seriousness, there isn't an easy, centralized place to find female feeders - lesbian or otherwise. Most places are oddly hostile towards us. And as far as I know, there isn't a lesbian version of Grommr.

Your best bet is to look where feedists in general hang out. FF, Feabie, WooPlus, Fetlife come to mind. I know there is a decent feedist community on Tumblr. But Tumblr isn't a dating site.

You may need to be the first to approach. Alternatively, you can take a stab at personal ads. Either way, you'll need to be patient. Lesbian feeders are out there looking for a lesbian feedee.

I wish you well.