Fantasy Feeder

"soft girl"

AskDrFeeder:
Been reading about the "soft girl" trend. I know it's not "soft" in the sense that fat bodies are soft, but I wonder if there's any overlap between soft girls and feedees. Anyone?

JN_TumLover56:
I think I have heard that it’s a long the lines of being a softie compared to someone who has a strong face and sturdy. If that’s one way to say it?

Munchies:
Eh, no. My comment gives a brief overview of the soft girl lifestyle. It has nothing to do with facial features or body shape. You can have a strong face and sturdy body while having a soft life. On the flip side, you can have softer features and a willowy body without being part of the soft life.

JN_TumLover56:
That wasn’t what I was referring to. I was talking about more of a personality type way. As in that you have to be tough and boss-like in a world where people want to bring you down. Or perhaps being such a technical strictly person that always has some sort of edge to them.

Strange metaphor but yeah.

You mean like a type A kinda person?

7 months

Munchies

Do you find the physical limitations of weight gain a turn on or a turn off?

Canuck:
wow, this thread has a long history! my previous response is apparently 4 years ago - so time for some new perspective, i think.

i gained a bunch of weight since my last post and over that time i've experienced some new limitations, and i am also with a new partner, which has changed my perspective, too. i gained up to a top weight of about 475, although i've lost some weight since then (about 450 now).

there are a lot of limitations that have been hot. little things, like being to wide to get close enough to the kitchen counters to reach the upper shelves. i get teased about that regularly, which is kind of hot.

my partner is pretty fit, and the contrast between us is really nice, and her ability to easily dominate me, just by being more flexible and limber than me, is very hot. the limitations it has created in our sex play has actually been very hot, too.

the limitations in standing, walking, not fitting in chairs, and just getting through the day are the nuisance problems which i can live with by i don't enjoy them at all. i've had to lose some weight for health concerns recently, and i am definitely not enjoying the food limitations (mostly missing beer!).

Munchies:
When it comes to health issues and physical limitations, I think there's a bit of a disconnect between fantasy and reality. Sure, it's sexy to be too fat to move normally. But that's also really inconvenient.

MottiF:
Yeah, not to mentioned the fact that it could be really problematic if your partner let’s say leaving you or something, then what would you do?

Not just that. Illness, job loss, death ... the list is long.

Hell, these past due months has seen an uptick in natural disasters, war, and terrorism. Not saying people need to live in fear. Just be aware that things can go tits up without any notice, and you need to be prepared

7 months

Munchies

Reccomendations

Ahhdipose:
Well so far i started out the day with a huge stuffing 7 sausage biscuits so around 3500 cals and grazed on star cruncehes throughout the day like 5 so about 1400 and then had two plates of spaghetti about 2000 cals and am planning to polish it of with a brownie sundae 1100 cals thank you all with the advice and reccomendations

Stuffings are fun, but as SumoSized said, they can backfire. It's common to lose your appetite the day after a big stuffing. It's best to keep stuffings as a treat, not the main method.

7 months

Munchies

Interesting fact about fat fetish

Munchies:
These are two different things.

I'm talking about liking the actual person. You are talking about liking the body said person inhabits. These two things are very unrelated.

AskDrFeeder:
When I'm interested in a relationship with a woman I want both. The fact that you have a thing for her size does not mean you can't appreciate her on other levels.

Of course it is possible for a man to fetishize a woman for her size and not love her or even like her, and she should reject such a man (unless she just wants a roll in the hay!). But having a preference for curvy women certainly doesn't eliminate the possibility of liking or loving her.

Like I said. These are two completely different things.

I'm in community with a lot of plus-sized women who are not feedists. I've heard horror story after horror story of these women getting into relationships with fat fetishists (either knowingly or unknowingly), only for things to go sideways.

Examples include attempts to manipulate them into the lifestyle, losing their minds if they decide to lose weight, or being more interested in their bodies than anything else.

It wears on a person to be objectified like this. So, instead of continuously taking a chance on fat fetishists, they'll swear them off entirely just to be safe. And considering what I have seen from fat fetishists in the community losing their God damned minds when dating a non-feedist, I get where they are coming from.

This is not to say it can't work out. Sometimes it does.

That said, women who want to be in relationships want to be valued for out personhood first and our body second. It is dangerous for us to be with someone who prizes our bodies too much.

7 months

Munchies

Interesting fact about fat fetish

Munchies:
Women do not want a "superior" partner. Women want a partner that's on our level. We don't want a partner we have to parent, and we don't want a partner that treats us like a parent. This holds true for traditional and feminist women.

I basically agree, though I think there are exceptions.

I think Weetabix is somewhat right, though, in that there are some people (of any gender) who are so down on themselves they won't respect anyone who likes them, and thus reject people who might be great. But I certainly wouldn't generalize that to all BBWs.

Munchies:
I, a woman, understand women better than both of you.

AskDrFeeder:
Ah yes, the often fallacious "Argument from Authority".

Munchies, if there were an Understanding Women test and we both took it, you might very well score higher. But I bet I'd get some of the questions you missed. Just because you're a woman doesn't mean you're always right in any discussion with a man about women, especially particular women.

I'm not saying men can't understand women. I'm saying that you, specifically, do not understand women as much as you think you do. This is evident by how you are discussing women.

You may not realize this, but you are not looking at women as if we are people. You are looking at us like we are a different species. And it is laughable when you say to a women who is in community with other women that I don't know what I'm talking about.

7 months

Munchies

"soft girl"

AskDrFeeder:
Been reading about the "soft girl" trend. I know it's not "soft" in the sense that fat bodies are soft, but I wonder if there's any overlap between soft girls and feedees. Anyone?

JN_TumLover56:
I think I have heard that it’s a long the lines of being a softie compared to someone who has a strong face and sturdy. If that’s one way to say it?

Eh, no. My comment gives a brief overview of the soft girl lifestyle. It has nothing to do with facial features or body shape. You can have a strong face and sturdy body while having a soft life. On the flip side, you can have softer features and a willowy body without being part of the soft life.

7 months

Munchies

"soft girl"

AskDrFeeder:
Been reading about the "soft girl" trend. I know it's not "soft" in the sense that fat bodies are soft, but I wonder if there's any overlap between soft girls and feedees. Anyone?

For those not in the know, the "soft girl" trend is a Gen Z lifestyle/aesthetic that is a response to and rejection of the girl boss lifestyle/aesthetic.

While the girl boss is all about being cool, dominant, and self-sufficient, the soft girl is cute, preppy, and pampered. The idea behind being a soft girl is that life sucks, so it's best to find someone to take care of you instead.

To answer the OP's question, I will say that some feedees certainly ascribe to the soft life, either in whole or in part. But that has less to do with being a feedee and more to do with traditional gender roles.

7 months

Munchies