Everyone always misses the point here. Someone who is hell bent in losing weight, DOES NOT have the same personality as someone who is staying a BBW or gaining. So, it's just not a matter of physical attraction. It is a matter of growing apart, and not being anythng like the person they married. It would be different if his wife got sick and lost weight. Her personality would be the same in that case.

Plus, I have known many people who have either died from WLS, or has become disabled from it. So, I can't blame anyone not only not wanting to see a loved one becoming less attractive to them, but foolishly mutilating their bodies to attain it.

My worst one, would be all asterisks. I said hello to someone, and got a string of obscenities.

Sometimes I think that if a body is getting a steady supply of food, it has no need to store it. I know one woman who tried to lose but gained a lot. She finally liked the idea of gaining, and is eating more. Her weight is staying the same now.

This thread again?

Best to keep it a secret from friends and family. And usually best to find a partner who is already into it, because not many are willing to start.

Flex in England is an extension cord in the US.

Lift in England is an elevator in the US.

Bonnet in England is hood in the US.

If you have a connection with someone, it is easy to find out what they are into without making a big deal about it.

For example, go out for ice cream. Make some joke. Something along the lines, of "I dated one woman who liked ice cream so much, she gained 30 pounds in a year." The wait to see what your date says. "I think that is gross," or "I've gained 30 pounds in a year, and I don't mind."

You don't need to spill your guts out. But as someone pointed out, happening to find someone who jsut happens to be a feedee is very rare.

Arielle by Dean Friedman. This is an old song, and I still get a kick out of it every time. It's very funny and clever

Even if the post is 2 years old, it goes back to the old thing. If someone doesn't want to gain weight, you can't force them. Just because someone likes to see a woman gain, does not mean they want to gain themselves. Just like if someone wants a dom, does not mean they want to be a dom.