Munchies:
Being a woman is very hard in online feedist spaces. Female FAs and feeders have a unique challenge because so many feedists see being an FA or a feeder as a masculine thing and being a feedee as a feminine thing.

I am not saying this to say that female FAs and feeders have it worse than female feedees. God knows the kind of abuse I've seen them go through. I'm simply saying that we have different struggles.

I have lost count for the number of men who cannot believe a woman can be anything but a feedee. Some of them have tried their hardest to "convert" me to become one because "that's what women do". They have threatened, harrassed, and attempted to manipulate me just because I don't fit into their weird gender expectations.

I know why they think that way. When online feedist spaces first started, nearly all feeders and FAs were men and nearly all feedees were women. Even though times have changed, some things still linger.

Think about it. Why are men FAs and not MFAs? Why do some people think it's weird if a woman refers to herself as an FA and not an FFA? We've made great strides as a community, but we still have a ways to go.

Most female FAs and feeders are not crazy. If they don't feel welcome, they will leave. I don't blame them. Hell, some days I feel like I'm still here out of spite and not a desire to be around like minded people.


DMVGrower:
You know, that is sort of interesting if you think about it. Considering how the idea of a woman "fattening up her man" whether out of desire or to keep other women off him, or because she likes cooking for him is such a common thing. And even our collective folk tales feature men being the ones who get fat, like Hansel and Gretel.

J8o8h8n:
Eating a "2 can dine" from Popeye's and only feeling a bit overstuffed has me realizing that I'm getting pretty close to eating food meant for two people as my typical meal. If I keep doing that, I'll probably end up the size of two people 😅.

Morbidly A Beast:
Also in my experience it seems straight ffa’s are more into already fat guys as opposed to ones who are skinny or want to become fat, i could stand corrected on this but it seems to be the general consensus

Munchies:
There are a good chunk of FFAs who prefer a "blank slate" so to speak. A thin man that they can fatten as much as they'd like. And then there are FFAs like me that don't care about the start weight.

Morbidly A Beast:
I think the later is a bit more common in female fat admirers than the former compared to men who are fat admirers, but there’s no data to compare the figures

Munchies:
Mayhaps, but the female FA scene is more ... underground. Sure, some are vocal, but most keep it on the DL until they can make sure the guy isn't a creep. They mostly talk about their preferences with other women.

Dolkite:
What about gainer shakes or even just some heavy cream and/or ice cream before bed?

Morbidly A Beast:
Also in my experience it seems straight ffa’s are more into already fat guys as opposed to ones who are skinny or want to become fat, i could stand corrected on this but it seems to be the general consensus

Munchies:
There are a good chunk of FFAs who prefer a "blank slate" so to speak. A thin man that they can fatten as much as they'd like. And then there are FFAs like me that don't care about the start weight.

Ex Jock:
Anyone feel this way? Would you agree if that’s where I am? Feel like weird middle ground where haven’t fully committed to one, or in between limits but really just going with the flow.

I know you can’t please everyone

Morbidly A Beast:
In nihilism, nihilism can’t even be true because its inherent contradictions words have no meaning there is only the will to power.

In order to have a discussion you need to presuppose reason and logic which don’t exist in the nihilist worldview

BroadswordBabe:
can u give me an example of such inherent contradictions?

In any case, it's just a philosophy, and philosophy exists to seek wisdom and truths about ones self. So. Lol. I'm not sure what you mean by "in nihilism nihilism can't be true." That's kinda the point of both, that and absurdism. It's not saying what is or isn't true. It's saying it doesn't matter.

J8o8h8n:
For the past 3 weeks or so I've been on a month long gaining challenge and at first I'd go all out and try to pack as many calories as I could for a day or two and take a day off. My mindset has slowly changed as my capacity has increased and as I've gained 10+ pounds. Now instead of taking a break here and there, my break days consist of me still eating thousands of calories because I'm like, "what's another X-number of calories?" or, "I've already gained 10+ pounds, a few more isn't a big deal" and before I know it, I'm at 3000-4000 calories on my days where I'm not pushing as hard.