As someone who dealt with disordered eating in my adolescence (when society's views meant more to me than my own) I'm going to go out on a limb and suggest that perhaps information isn't a terrible thing to provide someone who's curious enough to ask

CuriousGuest, I'm going to trust that you know yourself and what information you can and cannot handle in a way that is comfortable and healthy for you.

I think the truth is the answers are different for everybody on this site. Some people are numbers people, and the scale is part of the enjoyment of gaining weight. I rarely hear people mention it in a negative way. Others are all about the look and feel of the weight they gain. For me, the scale was a bigger deal the first go 'round, but at this point is inconsequential. I can tell you that I did hit my goal weight, and was happy with that. I got to explore other aspects of my interests than gaining. Then I unintentionally lost some weight. It didn't affect my mood, except for the reassurance I felt when I knew I wanted my weight back. The subsequent decision to go about gaining again felt exciting.

If you have other questions you can always send me a message, if you'd like. If you do find any of this triggering, please be responsible about your wellbeing and use the resources listed above.

THIS. Reading this actually inspired me to put a face pic on my profile, and you know what? Nothing but good has come of it

Now that I no longer run the risk of being a raging hypocrite, this is a MUST if I'm going to reply to a message. Un-closeted FA's and feedists are what turn me on

I think there's a lot of wisdom to what everyone above has said about spacing it out and not eating more calories than your body can consume.

However...

The times when I've eaten the most obscene amount of calories are the times I've seen the biggest gains. Part of this is because I have such a slow metabolism, I think, that I digest slower and absorb more calories than a lot of people.

It's natural for me to try and rush my gains, too! I understand the intense internal pressure that comes about once you decide you want to get substantially fatter than you are. But one thing I agree with unequivocally is that you shouldn't eat to the point of being sick or feeling ill. Calorie absorption aside, doing this caused eating to feel like an unpleasant chore, and I had to recalibrate my relationship with food just to like it again.

If you gain weight relatively easily, what I suggest is trying is to drink as many drinks as you can enjoy having in one night. Then wait a couple days and keep a close eye on your weight. If you shoot up a handful of pounds, you might be like me and benefit from "the more the merrier" calorie approach!

Just an FYI, the shake I was drinking was a 10,000 calorie combination of 2 quarts of heavy cream and a box of brownie mix. I'm sure I didn't absorb every last bit, but I'll be damned if I didn't literally wake up fatter the next day For some of us, weight gain just works that way! Good luck and happy fattening

This is it! This is the website I'm going to build! (Just as soon as I learn how to actually do something beyond setting up a domain name... Anyone want to get in on this plan? lol)

More and more I'm seeing people on here who join for the community and have no interest in the fetish aspect beyond wanting to admire and be admired. There's nothing wrong with that, of course, but I can understand how this might be an uncomfortable place to find comfort for those folks. I personally love that this is a fetish site, and fat positivity is an intrinsic part of that, but the positivity is a byproduct of the fetish. It's not the same.

It seems to me like there's a big gaping hole in the internet where that community should exist. I'm interested to see if people post any more sites.

On the far away chance that I ever make such a site, I'll be sure to advertise it's launch heavily on FF so you know it's there! (I want to say that I hope a pro will do it right now, but I don't want that bastard taking my idea...).

I've been living out this scenario lately, so I'll tell you what my experiences have been.

I gained a lot and gained it quickly. There was a moment when I hit a new "level of fatness," if you will, and I began acquiring a layer of super soft fat, almost like padding, just beneath my skin. That was a matter of simply getting fat enough to have that subcutaneous "soft fat" Elanor mentioned.

While gaining I tried massaging my belly in order to make it softer and help my skin stretch. I think it was a futile effort on both counts.

I then went on a maintenance plan. The bloating subsided within a week or two and my belly became notably softer.

Then I accidentally lost some weight, I'm guessing no more than 10 lbs, and my entire body became so delectably soft that I immediately decided I needed to regain the weight and then some so I could lose a few lbs before maintaining and be that wonderfully soft at my ideal weight!

I'm gaining again and, as sure as the day is long, w eek or two in and my belly is bloated all the time, and probably as firm as it will get (the fatter I get the less firm this becomes .

I hope this helps!

30-35 lbs, if memory serves me right...

I think it's worth making a distinction between receiving individual messages and being harassed. Harassment happens when someone repeats an offensive/disturbing/annoying action. That should in no way, shape, or form be tolerated or expected to be on this site. It seems to me that everyone pretty much agrees on this. Right? If you don't, sort your sh*t out and learn to think like a human being.

The other kind of message that I think many of us are complaining about is the offensive, annoying, or disturbing individual messages we receive.

As much as I detest them, I do expect to receive these one-off messages from people that broach topics I do not wish to discuss. Even though I explicitly state I don't want messages of a certain nature on my profile, I don't expect everyone to read it, and this IS a fetish site. And I'm glad it's a fetish site! So while I do find some of these messages offensive, I don't believe they're grounds for reporting someone.

However, that does mean I have no way of dealing with this annoyance, (which would be the same on any dating site), and the onslaught of objectification has caused me to cancel my account before, this overall issue and it's impact on people rapidly withdrawing from FF is really a much larger issue of sexism and society, which we're unlikely to solve at this moment.

Hello lovelies,

I'm looking for a little advice from any fellow big-booty, big bellied fashionistas (aspiring or otherwise). The holidays are upon us, and so are the social events that go with it. This has inspired me to finally invest in a much MUCH needed update to my wardrobe. Weee!

The only catch is that this time last year I started gaining, a lot. I've been purchasing stop-gap items as I've grown from size 14/16 to 22/24, and now that my weight has stabilised (mostly), I'm desperate to get back to my more stylish ways!

I have to shop online (currently looking at ASOS Curve), and could really use some advice about how you ladies dress to flatter your favourite parts? Here's what I'm working with: I'm reasonably curvy and pretty proportional, save for my bigger butt and thighs. I have a long torso and my belly is rather prominent beneath my waistline. My style is classic with an edge, and boho/alternative twist when I'm at home. I'm trying to find clothes that will be good for both, because clothes are frickin' expensive. My goal is to rock my curves and keep my belly as comfortable and classy as possible - in case I need a little more room to grow

For the record, I feel like a bit of a knob for describing myself in such a way, but like I said, I'm desperate.

Ladies of FF, what do you like to wear? Styles, items, cuts, stores, size advice... bring it on! Gentlemen, feel free to chime in, too

Thanks in advance for the advice - any and all is welcome and appreciated!

I've deleted my account in the past for the same reason. If you get enough of the creeps in your inbox it can have a really dehumanising effect...

I've thought about it a lot, and I've tried to do my part to discourage the creeps by making my intentions clear on my profile (which creeps rarely read, but I'm an optimist), and the main one is I put FAR fewer pictures of myself up on here. So I guess there's one argument for how this problem affects the quality of the site - less content for everyone to enjoy.

I think that for a lot of people/men/feeders, this is the only place that they get to indulge in their fantasies, and often wind up treating others as if they too only exist in their fantasy. I've found that, for feeders especially, they can have very little regard for the fact that I actually weigh this much ALL the time. This isn't just my fantasy; it's my life. And having that be ignored or disrespected relentlessly can turn this site into a real source of negativity, and for me it turned into something I wanted no part in.

I do want to give a shout out to everyone who's sent me a message that acknowledges my profile and me as a person. The friends I've made through this site, and the sense of community I get through these forums has made this go-round a much more positive experience!