Ensure drinks

First of all, are you sure? I think you may have read the label incorrectly.

Ensure Plus, and any of it's related knock-off products, are about 350 calories per bottle, which contains 1 cup (8 fluid ounces, about 237 mL).

There is something called Boost VHC (Very High Calorie) that's 530 calories per 1 cup bottle, but it's extremely expensive for what you get, at a staggering more than $2 USD per bottle. I'm about 99.99% sure there is no product of a similar type that has a higher calorie density than that.

What you described would contain 580 calories per cup, which so far as I know doesn't exist. If you can provide a link to the exact product in question, I would be very curious. I feel like if such a thing were to exist, I would already know about it.

That said, I do like Equate Plus, which is Wal-Mart's knock-off brand of Ensure Plus. I know Wal-Mart doesn't exist in the UK, but the point is I'm familiar with those types of products. For any American readers, Kroger also has a similar knock-off product called Fortify Plus, which is almost as cheap as Equate Plus.

Not really an answer, but more of an idea. One very simple recipe is to mix 1 cup of Ensure with 1 cup of heavy cream (or double cream in the UK). Stir with a straw, then enjoy. It tastes kind of like a melted milkshake, except thicker and less sweet.

The catch of doing so, is it can have an effect of suppressing appetite, which is why I say to only have it before going to sleep.

It's also a pretty high fat diet, so you might not want to do that every day, although I think you'll find yourself skipping some days.

I also must emphasize, for anyone reading, that most of your calories should not come from these sources. Also, for some reason, it seems to work best shortly after you ate something. So for example, drinking this after eating say, a couple double burgers or a proper meal yields better results.

In 2023, I gained about 20 lbs. While I don't know if I can credit this exclusively to these shakes, but they likely helped.

Anyway, if you drink these straight, not mixed in with anything, at least the chocolate flavored ones, can taste a lot like chocolate milk, though might be slightly oily, and quite sweet, maybe almost too sweet. I don't know how many of those you can drink in one sitting, though I'd expect anywhere between 2 to even 4 of them shouldn't be too hard.
1 year

Do you just appreciate the community?

Indeed I do. I like the discussions, the chat, reading about others' experiences and thoughts, even the content. I don't often read the stories, but sometimes I like to.

It's what keeps me coming back year after year.
1 year

Signs?

I don't know if this is exactly what the OP is looking for, but there was one interaction I had with a couple at a bar a few years ago that kind of made me wonder and think.

She was kind of chubby/curvy, though not very large by any means, but her boyfriend was quite fat. And they seemed to be talking about restaurants a good bit.

The woman didn't really say so in so many words, but I got some sort of vibe almost as if she thought I needed to eat more. Granted, that was probably around 50 lbs ago for me, and I never saw them again. I don't know what would happen if she were to see me now, and if she were to remember me.

Both of them were also quite drunk, which of course a double edged sword. While some might end up saying things they might only think but would never say in person under ordinary circumstances, at the same time I kind of think being drunk is a bit of a truth serum which I actually appreciate. Either way, I'm reluctant to read into that too much.

Still, it kind of makes me wonder a bit. Was she a feeder, or an FA? Was her boyfriend always a large man, or did he gain a substantial amount of weight since they started dating? If the way she was talking was any indication, I'd say it's quite possible the latter took place, though not necessarily.

Perhaps a better idea might be to mention food, either just randomly or even when the context isn't necessarily related to food at all.

For example, if you're at a bowling alley or arcade, I expect they might have pizza, nachos, hot dogs, etc. something that's relatively high in calories. Maybe suggest getting some.

If you watch a movie, either at a theater or even at home, suggest snacks.

If you're shopping and running errands, maybe suggest more snacks or getting something from the drive-through just because, even when it's not really one of the main meal times.

If and when you do go out to eat, suggest appetizers and dessert.

You can maybe try to gauge the kind of reactions you get. All sort of little ways that you might be able to suss it out a bit, without being really weird. Just don't be really pushy and push it into being weird.
1 year

Wanting to date a fat guy but i’m scared of peoples opinions

Lillyraesmith49:Another issue is finding a guy who’s my age, tall, and both overweight, and attractive facially. I am into fat guys, not ugly guys but finding someone who checks all of the boxes and also isn’t actively trying to lose weight is nearly impossible and whenever I do find someone and build up the courage to talk to them they think I’m pranking them or something even tho I’m not.


As for this, I think you might struggle with this for a good while.

A lot of them, for a long time, will be cautious and yes, that lingering thought of whether it's a prank or another act of humiliation may persist for awhile.

While not exactly the same, but once upon a time when I was 12 or 13 years old, some other kid was friendly and even patted me on the back. Turned out she taped a "Kick me" sign on my back. That messed me up for years and I was very suspicious of too much friendliness and was even just a bit more hostile, distrustful, and reserved in general. I got over it, but not right away.

Maybe they've dealt with similar latent trauma, or even worse.

It's also about what seems plausible and possible. It's the same reason why I'm unlikely to believe that someone who could possibly double as a European runway model from France or Italy with photoshopped images, and appears to have a $250K+/yr. job could ever be interested in me. I suppose it's possible, like how winning the lottery jackpot is possible, but it's not plausible. I'd have a very hard time ever believing it.
1 year

Wanting to date a fat guy but i’m scared of peoples opinions

Lillyraesmith49:
and I explained he was the guy I really liked and they all started making fun of me and him so I ended up ghosting him which I still regret to this day. Since I have a very large social circle and alot of connections and friends, its really hard to keep things quiet. I just recently started being more open with my friends about my preferences but I feel like most of them dont really care but some of them especially my conventionally attractive guy friends like to make fun of me for it.


Added the bold and italicized emphasis, to point out the problem.

What I'm about to say might not be the easiest thing to hear, and might have the vibe of an older person who "doesn't get it," but I most certainly do "get it."

I looked at your profile, and I see you're 18 years old. I was 18 once upon a time as well. In a way, I even had it harder. Broadband was picking up steam over the dirt-slow dial-up of the 90s, Dimensions Magazine and a few Yahoo Groups (back when that was around) were the only game in town, and no body positivity movement; no Instagram either. Big box stores and department store only had thin mannequins at that, too. If anything, it was actually a miracle I even found Dimensions back in the day.

In short, I felt completely alienated and frightened that anyone might find out, probably even worse than you do right now.

Anyway, though I'm primarily echoing the sentiment of the other responses, but eventually, at some point, you might have to make a choice, even if it might be difficult, for the sake of your longer-term happiness.

It's not high school anymore. "Rep" that rewards conformity just isn't as important anymore. You may need to pay some mind to that when it comes to professional reputation, both in job interviews and at the workplace, but that's professional life, not personal. But they won't care if your boyfriend is fat, only whether you can behave professionally and what value you can provide them.

I'll tell you something else. Ask anyone you know, aged 30+, or for that matter, 25+, how many people from their childhood or teen years they're still in contact with. The odds are very good they will answer one of two ways, either 1) they aren't in contact with any of those people anymore, or 2) they are in contact with 1, 2, maybe at most 3 or 4 people from that time in their life, and that's it.

People change, life plans and situations change, and sometimes they drift away. If resisting this feels forced, it's not meant to be. If a genuine connection exists, it won't matter, through thick and thin (or thick and thicker?). It would never feel forced, imbalanced, and you'd stay in contact regardless.

Personally, aside from my parents, I don't still know anyone, or remain in contact with anyone I knew when I was 18 years old. In fact, at that time, I remained in contact with some toxic people, just because I was afraid of being all alone. It's not worth it. In fact, my life got measurably better when I cut them out a few years later. I get it, it's scary.

So my question then, is this. Who, exactly, are you trying to impress? What value does this provide you? You said it yourself, that most don't give you any crap about it.

As for random strangers at the bar, restaurant, shopping mall, bowling alley, whatever.. they won't care, and if they do, so what?

As for your parents, obviously I don't know them, but you might be pleasantly surprised? Assuming they're decent people, I'd think they would be more interested in whether he's a good man and is treating you right.

My parents are kind of into health stuff, and my mother in particular has sometimes said negative things about appearance, even fat-phobic things. But every time it's because the person seemed like a bad person she doesn't like, but she ran out of bad things to say about the person, so it's back to the default. She never says those things about people she likes, even if they happen to be fat. Hopefully you may have a similar experience?

I myself have gained a considerable amount of weight over the past few years. My parents don't love me any less over it, though I don't think I'll tell them I'd like to gain another 60-70 lbs on purpose. I also doubt they'd mind much, if at all, if I were to bring over someone who's chubby or even unequivocally fat.

The longer you put it off, the harder and more painful it will be, and the more it will suck. Before you know it, a couple decades passed, you weren't happy, and the people you thought you'd impress are gone from your life anyway. Life is simply too short to be worried about this sort of thing and spend a significant amount of that time unhappy.

Phew! Wall of text but I think all that needed to be said.
1 year