Mathing gonna math - lol

I'm giving my MVP trophy to Munchies for not only doing the money conversion, but then the metric one, too!

Love this post - thanks for a great reminder and examples!!!

I'm so glad it was a good day - especially given your experiences with holidays. Holidays tend to be big emotion days - for some this is happy emotions, positive association. For others, it's not happy, or even terrible - negative association. I try to be sensitive to anyone who typically doesn't enjoy the holidays for whatever personal reason, as often the widespread commercial version of the holidays make them seem all positive and cheery.

I'm happy that you were able to make it a positive day - in whatever way you wanted to celebrate or not celebrate! (And glad you got some good food at least!)

**Sorry - slightly long post warning!**

Happy post-Thanksgiving to my United States, China, Brazil, Japan, and other friends here! And to those of you who didn't celebrate the holiday yesterday - know how thankful I am to be a part of this community, and thankful for how each of you help to support, celebrate, and encourage the visitors of this site.

On to topic: This was the first year that I was feeding myself for Thanksgiving dinner.

I've had a few of these holidays in which I was piling food onto a plate for a feedee, but this year the feedee was ME.

It is an AMAZING holiday to be stuffed - dear Lord. I am STILL full.

Loaded mashed potatoes, buttered squash, turkey covered in gravy, buttered dinner rolls, STUFFING. Oh, man - it was an incredible experience to be secretly aroused at the dinner table while I just kept encouraging myself to take another bite, and another, and another.

And then, when you can't eat another bite of the main courses and sides...

The desserts. I pushed my way through three different slices of pie and a cheesecake.

(I managed to get my first family friendly comment - "You look like you have a little room in there for another slice." I was super turned on accepted the challenge.)

I have ALWAYS loved this holiday - feederism aside - because it gives us time to be grateful for things in our lives, and for time (hopefully) spent with good company. As a feeder, I've loved this holiday for the immense amount of food choices that I could tempt a broad audience with throughout the day.

But to be completely stuffed - just packed up so tight that it's a little hard to breathe - and for it to be celebrated?

It just hits different.

How was everyone else's experience?

Hahaha! I thought this was about the Department of Motor Vehicles, and was realllllllly curious as to what the heck weight gain and license plates had in common.

This is heart-warming! I'm so glad that you found someone who can listen to you and can be supportive of your effort to live your best life!

I agree that it can be awkward at first to bring it up with a therapist - when I first started discussing it, I asked if it was okay to discuss body image, fat positivity, and sexual kink because weight and fat and sexuality topics often contain potential triggers for people - even with therapists. (A good therapist should be able to separate their therapist-self from their own personal beliefs and phobias, but they're still human beings. A fat-phobic therapist might find it very difficult to help you with fat-positive intentions and goals.)

It has been so helpful for me, though, to discuss my feelings, frustrations, and physical/mental outlook with them, though. I was fortunate to have someone who is very understanding and has been able to work with me on how to cope with the potential mental drawbacks of getting and being fat.

For example, my therapist will often ask me if my kink is:

A. Helping me with - or getting in the way of - my overall happiness and positive mental outlook on life.

B. Causing me any personal harm physically, mentally, and/or emotionally - including any physical effects due to added weight. If my blood pressure skyrockets, for example, then is that effect something that will negatively hold me back from other things I want to do?


C. Interfering with or supporting my relationship and life goals?

Highly recommend! I can't stress enough how much having someone who is not a stranger on the internet who can listen objectively and then help clarify my own thoughts.

I love your connection to Dexter here, though I don't see it as a "dark" passenger - it's more of a truth about myself that is constantly ringing. Sometimes the bells are soft - other times really loud- but it's always a calling to my authentic self that becomes like an "alternate me".

For me, it's less about the size and more about the mentality. Whether a person is class 3 morbidly obese or underweight, if they feel sexy and get turned on by fat, weight gain, and/or getting someone else fat - then they are the perfect size in my book.

I've dated all different sized people - including someone who was severely underweight, but was completely sexually confident with their size and were WAY into weight gain. I truly felt like that person was perfectly-sized. Another I dated was beautifully fat with a gorgeous fat belly, love handles, squeezable fat arms and even a cute double-chin just beginning to make an appearance. But they HATED it, and detested themselves, and no amount of positive reinforcement from me would change their mind, so.... NOT perfectly-sized.

I think it'd be adorable to arrive home a d be surprised by a "mini-bake sale". There would be a whole bunch of different baked goods arranged on the table with little price tags.

The feeder plays it off like they are running a practice bake sale, and they need their feedee to provide input about each of the products and if the prices are set accordingly. "Here - try these gooey brownies. Would you pay $5 each for them?"

The feedee has to provide input about each dish and of course sample them all... multiple times.

this makes my heart happy