There is the scene in The Beatles Magical Mystery Tour where the waiter serves spaghetti with a shovel. A little light on the candle light and romance, but... One also has to remember songs like "Boy, You're Gonna Carry that Weight", and "Savoy Truffle".
12 years
Now that you're 230, and well into obesity, you will find your weight gain accelerating. All that belly fat is excreting hormones that will cause any excess blood sugar to be stored as fat (insulin resistance). Even if you cut back, you will find that your weight will continue to increase. Only draconian steps can keep your weight stable now and losing will be very, very hard. Let's face it -- you're going to get very, very fat.
12 years
Alvinolagniac wrote:
I suppose I would identify as a 'feeder', but I am wondering if I may also be a heteroromantic asexual.
If you can be aroused when thinking about feeding someone, then you are not asexual. Romantic feelings are a separate issue. It us quite possible to fall in love with someone and even to experience elements of physical attraction, without arousal. Finding someone with whom you can experience romance as well as great sex can be difficult as a feeder or feeder. Happy hunting!
12 years
AmateurArt wrote:
I have lived through this from an FA perspective, being completely in love with a person around 170. Then a girl about 250 became a possibility.
I ended up best friends with the 170 lb person who is honestly the only one who makes me feel alive. My love for her grew to a category of soul mate, but friend.
It completely depends on the individual/your bf. For me, the fetish is so strong that I knew I wasn't going to be fair to her while I fantasized about other girls.
I'm attracted to larger women and there's nothing I can do about it.
It's bothered me greatly, but my kink is so precise that I can't imagine living out my whole life without fulfilling fantasies.
Why not go for someone who I both love and can have great fulfilling sex with?
Many of us with feeder/feedee sexuality have to face these choices. Personally, I believe there is more middle ground here worth exploring. Sexuality is after all something that takes place as much between the ears as between the sheets. Would things have worked out with your soulmate if she had plumped up over the years? Weight gain is a natural product of the aging process. I'm wondering because building lasting relationships is ultimately about more than just fulfilling sex; there are a million and one little things that partners need to work mesh together on. So that makes me wonder if it isn't easier to add the sexuality element to a soulmate relationship, particularly one where there is good communication, than to try to make a hot sex partner into a soulmate.
12 years
Agree on talking to him about it. It doesn't sound like this is a sound diet. If he is not getting enough protein and not doing any weight-bearing exercise, a lot of the weight he is losing will be muscle, not fat.
13 years
Back when I had just finished graduate school and hadn't found my life's work, I was anxious about my weight as well as my career and kept myself very thin. Then as I began to focus in on what I wanted, my concerns about my body gave way to a focus on achievement and the pounds piled on. The result was that I ended up weighing MUCH more than I ever thought possible, but also ended up more successful than I'd imagined. Looking back, I would never go back to the 'lean days'. Fat suits me, I think.
13 years
Thinking about an FFA fattening me up against my will gets me horny, yes.
13 years
