WideJuan76:
I didn't ask about anything sexual but with the tonality of their conversations it was obvious that it turned them on sexually. For them, the fatter the guy was the better because they got off on "pleasing" their men while they ate. My ex actually introduced me to this because she learned it from elder women in her family so for those who took part in it; it came from their particular cultures and they just kept in touch with each other. I have only seen and encountered this here in the south and in Ghana so I think that the niche group is so small that you have to be referred into it.
For these women, they were really open about what they liked while where I live now the women who are in law enforcement and in the military are the closeted ones who hide their attraction to fatter men. The reason that I was even made aware of it was that they were fascinated by my personal philosophy on gaining and that is why I was made aware of them but I found that it was a southern Black thing which is why they didn't really like online situations because these sites rarely in acknowledge that there is a slightly bigger than average love of women who adore obese males in the Black community
OxfordBoy:
Ah yes, “pleasing” your partner while they eat is quite popular on here lol.
I like that your ex dwelt on the philosophy of fat & gaining: it can be such a huge, life-changing decision compared to indulging in other kinks where you turn them on or off. It does kind of need to be thought of differently and more seriously. How else are people going to become mentally comfortable with it? This community could probably use more people like her. I take it she avoids sites like this too, so how did she come to meet you and discover your own philosophy about fat?
Sorry the women are more closeted where you are now. I wonder if there is a higher than average number of female feeders in the police & military? If it’s a dominance thing it would make sense I guess. Do you meet ladies mainly on here these days, or do they have their own secret feedist communities too?
I met her while I was studying for my Masters degree and she actually approached me and that was in my chubby stages. I have always been told that I have a very handsome face no matter my weight so she told me that she wanted a teddy bear and she wanted to get my number. I had always thought about gaining but she showed the existential aspect of it.
I meet people all over the place. Some online and others offline. But mostly women tend to make the approach me more in the southern states which is why I always travel there.
4 years
WideJuan76:
I can only give information that I deduced from our conversations; I wanted to just be there and take it all in. Asking the type of questions you're asking in that situation would have been too imposing but I can only give you what they gave to me openly.
I have noticed that in the southern United States that there is more of an attraction to fatter men and it comes in two forms. One, being malignant in which they will fatten up a guy with money then have trysts on the side. The other being that there are actually women who actually get off to genuinely fattening their men. I thought at first that they were just making it up but you can just tell from their micro expressions that they loved it. Some of these women met in college and they started their own little coven while others actually came from families who had a tradition of fattening their men especially those who have direct ties to certain parts of Africa. Some others started on Facebook and even older than that Myspace and they kept in touch. They really talked down own these fetish sites due to the lack of social intelligence that they said they encountered online from males on those sites so did it via world or mouth.
OxfordBoy:
This is a great answer, thank you. So were the group all black southern couples then? Given the South’s history I assumed traditional upper middle class had to mean white - shows what I know!
The West African family link is interesting - I was aware of cultural preferences for fat/fattening women in some African societies but not of a male equivalent. And you’ve heard of it existing in Ghana you say?
Love the idea of female college students forming a feeder coven lol. I suppose when you have just a bit more openness about women fattening men (for whatever reason) it makes such word-of-mouth meetings possible. As opposed to all the accounts of ‘I was convinced I was the only one in the entire world until I found this website’ you usually get.
So they are aware of these websites nowadays then, they just avoid them. Can’t say I blame them on the lack of social intelligence thing! I sometimes hear people claim kink sites skew male because kinky women stay away from them, but I always wondered if this was just wishful thinking. But it sounds like it’s perfectly possible for women to form their own communities and indulge their kink that way - they don’t need these sites. So maybe it’s true after all.[/quote]
I have dated women from Ghana who come from tribes where it is frowned upon to not keep your husband fat but the actual tribe escapes me.
It is actually more normal than we realize and that is why I haven't experienced the same type of issues as others because of my location. Women on the east coast here in the states in the south adore fat men.
4 years
I didn't ask about anything sexual but with the tonality of their conversations it was obvious that it turned them on sexually. For them, the fatter the guy was the better because they got off on "pleasing" their men while they ate. My ex actually introduced me to this because she learned it from elder women in her family so for those who took part in it; it came from their particular cultures and they just kept in touch with each other. I have only seen and encountered this here in the south and in Ghana so I think that the niche group is so small that you have to be referred into it.
For these women, they were really open about what they liked while where I live now the women who are in law enforcement and in the military are the closeted ones who hide their attraction to fatter men. The reason that I was even made aware of it was that they were fascinated by my personal philosophy on gaining and that is why I was made aware of them but I found that it was a southern Black thing which is why they didn't really like online situations because these sites rarely in acknowledge that there is a slightly bigger than average love of women who adore obese males in the Black community
4 years
WideJuan76:
I don't know why but there are plenty down there. To them, the fatter that they could make their husband proved to other women from other families that they could take care of their men the best. I was telling my friend NYCBellyBlimp weeks ago about how I am most got recruited into their little group but I was too fearful because the males in the group were to the point of no return and they were no longer the men; they were just the FAT. There comes a time in a male feedees life when he has to make a choice of either he is going to eat so much that he can't have sex because there is too much fat between he and her and it's mostly his fat or he is going to have to stop. Those dudes only scared about the food and I like food but these dudes were Sitophiliacs.
EmilyW:
I am really intrigued. First, because it turned me on, second because I think I would love to write a story about this one day.
So tell me more!
WideJuan76:
I am from the North East near DC but raised between there and NYC so I had no idea about how southern women treated their male counterparts and I am talking about in traditional middle class to upper middle class areas as well as some working class environments in which catering to their men by fattening them was seen as a status thing to show off to other women in their group. I was only seen as a fetish for government types who didn't want friends to know they lusted after fat men in DC but in the South to have a male in some groups with a hanging gut made her the spouse of the month in places like New Orleans, South Carolina and some areas like Concord, NC. We would meet up once a month and the males who all meet up in the tv room to watch and talk about everything from sports to what shops to go to to get tshirts to fit their guts but I noticed over time that those dudes went way further than I did and most of them will never see the smaller side of three hundred pounds again.
OxfordBoy:
This is absolutely fascinating - an unusual experience even on here. This kink can be very isolating due to it's unacceptability in the eyes of broader society, and although we can meet others like us via sites like this we're still basically refugees from social judgement. Our community (IMO) feels very new and modern and jargon-y.
Yet you've found a much older culture of relationships that are kind-of feedist, or are even full-blown feedist. A culture of traditional - even conservative - wives & gfs fattening their partners. No kink jargon anywhere, no shame - and no internet forums!
How widespread do you think this old culture is in the South - it sounds like you encountered it in multiple places? I'm guessing that the group you became part of was like an exaggerated version of this culture, where the women wanted to keep fattening their men beyond where other wives would stop. Women who would perhaps identify (secretly) as feeders if they'd grown up somewhere more fat-phobic in the NE. Did they admit that this was sexual for them in any way? Did you ask them? Or am I completely barking up the wrong tree lol?
Having get-togethers when they lived in different states sounds more like a self-selecting community, more like ours - rather than friends from the same town. How did they find each other, if they don't use sites like this? I wouldn't know where to begin without the internet! Did you meet the lady who introduced you to this whole other culture online - or did she just approach you in a bar with a very open attitude towards appreciating fat guys?
Sorry for all the questions, but you've kind of opened the door on a whole different world! A version of feedism that has deep roots and a history.
I can only give information that I deduced from our conversations; I wanted to just be there and take it all in. Asking the type of questions you're asking in that situation would have been too imposing but I can only give you what they gave to me openly.
I have noticed that in the southern United States that there is more of an attraction to fatter men and it comes in two forms. One, being malignant in which they will fatten up a guy with money then have trysts on the side. The other being that there are actually women who actually get off to genuinely fattening their men. I thought at first that they were just making it up but you can just tell from their micro expressions that they loved it. Some of these women met in college and they started their own little coven while others actually came from families who had a tradition of fattening their men especially those who have direct ties to certain parts of Africa. Some others started on Facebook and even older than that Myspace and they kept in touch. They really talked down own these fetish sites due to the lack of social intelligence that they said they encountered online from males on those sites so did it via world or mouth.
4 years
Ditzy:
425 lbs was when I reach the point I was too fat.
Things that were easy to do became very hard to do.
Things like tying your shoe laces,walking up stairs, getting in and out of your car.
When it came to the point I had to sit in a chair just to unload my clothes dryer I decided I needed to lose some weight.
I know this feeling all too well. 460 was my limit. My knees started to hurt and I had to start cooking while on a stool and that's when I knew that I had to get a hold on this.
4 years
You're still young so you can experiment with slight gains and see how folks react but I had a chance to leave my area and start anew with a female who liked really fat men and I was always chubby so I gave it a chance in my early twenties and gained without folks actually knowing who I was so that was freeing but eventually you get over the fear because we have a tendency to over-catastrophise and eventually for me my folks just had to deal with it because this was what I wanted to do and you learn alot but to able to see if you really want this is a liberating experience.
4 years
Chubbyfeeder16:
I've heard so many people say they want to be immobile but I feel like it always falls short. Is there anyone who actually wants to eat themselves to immobility? What about it appeals to you?
I have always been fascinated by what it would be like to be like that but I never had the courage until I graduated from college and met women who liked fat men so it gave me a chance to at least gain. It gave me a chance to also meet males who eaten themselves to the point that they needed help just to get dressed. I wanted the chance to just experience what it would be like to totally give in to the hunger and not care would it would let me waddle to even if that meant that I needed some assistance.
4 years
For me, it was that I could drive to new locations pretending like I didn't just stop at another fast food restaurant about a half an hour ago and then by then after getting addicted to the thrill of sneak eating; that was when I realized that I was addicted to fast food. 🐽🐽🐽🐽
4 years
NYCBellyBlimp:
They fail to account that in some households its not the "enablers" but it is the homebound fatties who are the actual breadwinners as the checks, credit cards and bank accounts are all in their name.
They fail to account that some 'enablers' whether they be friends/family like to see the homebound fatty happy even if they are making things harder.
They give off too many vibes of 600 lb life episodes mixed with "What's Eating Gilbert Grape".
You're spot on, most fatties that I met had whole financial setups that made their obese life possible in the first place. And I have been lucky to have met women who actually had to convince me that they weren't running some con because it was hard for me to fathom that those women actually got pleased by making me happy. I took me years to fully grasp it and My 600 Pound Life makes it more dramatic than it is. The truth is, that most of the situations that I have seen like that are way more structured than you realize and not made up to be so pathetic. But I do know of several who manipulate too.
4 years
Bozzy227:
It's were I want to get to. How does it feel when you get to that point?
You become enamored by how much you have grown. I have always had big thighs so when your gut starts hanging is where you get the sensation of being weighed down by your gut and fupa. The fatter I got, it made me lean forward so I actually felt shorter because of the hang because mine hung to the middle of my thighs at my highest
4 years
