Growing Rolls:
I got a funny comment about my weight gain yesterday, delivered with a wink and a grin:
'You're getting fat!'

The person who said this is a native English speaker. What I'm wondering is whether there’s an implication that she thinks I’m going to get even fatter with this wording? Is there a difference between this and saying:
'You gained weight/fat'?

Are there any English speakers who can help me out?"

Newenglander:
Let's not forget the site specifically recommends members reach out to others in fairly close geographic proximity or newly registered.

The algorithm doesn't seem to take into account either member's preferences.

C00kie:
When you go to the profile section, you'll see several prefilter categories. By clicking "See More," on these it allows you to see all profiles matching those prefilters such as: Newest, Online, Local, Feeders, and Feedees.

If you click the "See All" button at the bottom of the profiles page without selecting any of the prefilters mentioned above, it will display all profiles in order of last online, without applying any other search filters.

Of course, you also have the option to customize your own profile search filters to refine your results even further. I’m not entirely sure what you’re describing with your experience, though, as the algorithm doesn't prioritize new profiles or local ones by default.

Newenglander:
What I described earlier is in the header atop the main landing page. There are home, mail, and bell icons.

Under the bell icon, it shows who viewed my profile. It also shows suggestions to contact others who are in close geographic proximity, regardless of whether or not they viewed my profile.

These suggestions feature members whose orientation and interests often differ from my own.

Adiprose:
Like many here, I first identified as a feeder, had "weird" thoughts imagining myself being fat, and tried to reject/suppress these feelings for years. The urges always come back...and now I know I'm really committed.

While fighting these urges, I attempted to bulk and gain muscle. I'm very thin, and I wanted a conventionally attractive, "bodybuilder" body. However, I failed consistently: I worked out during most of this time, but I could never eat enough.

I didn't have the motivation to eat so much clean food to give myself a body that *others* wanted, but I did not want.

Now, I have realized that I won't gain anything if I become muscular. I don't want to be thin and muscular. I want a soft, unique, unusual body that is huge.

The thought of eating anything that I want doesn't feel like short-sighted recklessness anymore, it feels like a perfectly valid choice for my body.

But the biggest shift for me is realizing just how much safer I'll feel knowing that, even if I wanted to, I could never become fit and muscular with no bodyfat. It would grant me so much release to know that letting it go was all that I could do and was absolutely the right choice. The permanence of it would fill me with warmth.

Does this resonate with anyone else?

Murdoc4283:
This account have probably scamed me. I bought a video from her and she blocked me in all socials right after

Growing Rolls:
Lately, I’ve been eating more than usual and have noticed that my stomach has become noticeably softer. I keep touching, squeezing, and shaking my belly—it’s almost become an obsession. I’ve also been wearing some pants that are now too tight, which have pushed my stomach upwards.

What I’m wondering is whether part of this change could be due to my skin stretching. Could it be that my skin has become looser rather than me gaining more fat? Is it possible for skin to stretch from something like this?

Stockylove:
wow, I have a colonoscopy on Thursday morning, and I know that there is a good chance that it will go well, but I can't help but be anxious and anguished despite this, lol 😁

Have you had a colonoscopy in the past?
How did it go?

Letters And Numbers:
Are you worried about the prep or the actual procedure?

Stockylove:
The procedure, I hope I don't wake up during the operation, because I know it's happened to people. I'm also worried about the outcome, I hope I don't have colon cancer.

CelticBlimp:
In my experience, most feeders talk a big game, but when it comes to the moment of truth suddenly it's silence or stuttering. Grommr is full of unreliable feeders and begging gainers, and most of the interactions I get are "big belly" and nothing beyond that, it's honestly disheartening. I can only speak about gay/mlm sites, but I guess it's the same everywhere else.

Buffetlover:
Go to bbwwikistories it's on there along with alot of other stories from dimensions

FAMGM:
I’ve never had much time for so called feeders. For the most part they obviously only contact you when they are horny.

The best interactions I’ve had are with mutual gainers. They understand what is involved, and they are much less transactional.

CelticBlimp:
This is a frustrated rant, but I do believe this is a good question.

As I gainer I've never had any experience with a feeder, not in person nor online, so my expectations come from what I see others tell about their own experiences. In a way we're sacrificing our bodies, health, mobility, clothes, furniture, job possibilities and social relations. All for a body size we find desirable, yet also making life harder. Is it unfair to expect a feeder's job has to reflect that sacrifice we make? They face monetary loss, that's true, but if I break up with my partner after he fattened me, he walks away with less money, but with his mobility and health intact, while I have to deal with the downfall of not having access to many jobs, fitting clothes or an outside life.
I say all this because in every conversation I had with a feeder the focus has been on what I have to do, what I have to eat, what I have to buy. Some time ago a feeder said that he would care and fatten me, that we would get a disability pension to expend on my gains. And it clicked, that way he didn't loose anything, but I did. He would gain sexual pleasure from fattening me and taking advantage of what I had, but he wouldn't give anything. I'm giving my body to you, but you won't even reflect that? What is the fairest exchange I can expect from a feeder in this regard? On my current weight and without intentionally gaining I don't expect anything from anyone but the basic respect and dignity as the humans we are, yet if making me fatter is the conversation, can I expect from my feeder that his material input reflects what I'm both giving him and giving up?