It sounds like to me you would classify as the "Mutual Gainer" category.

To feel the extreme closeness of this adventure with your boyfriend eating and gaining together and teasing each other about your new plump soft fat bellies in the beginning.

Then Planning and going out to some intensly fattening dinners followed by massive amounts of deserts and noticing before long how your appetites become out of control and weighing in on a weekly, monthly and longer basis how fat you are both getting by the numbers on the scale growing at a rapid pace.

Until one day down the line your boyfriend is close to 300 Lbs. with a huge fat gut and you grew more than your wildest dreams and now tip the scales at 230 Lbs.

This may be a bit extreme in weight for your desires but I thought I would run with it.

How do you see your fantasy picture turning to reality with regard to the weight of both of you etc.?

Tough topic!

I for one would never think of myself becoming immobile or even my wife.

With that said however I can't stop and think about it being similar to my thought's just in different varying degrees with regard to my wife gaining.

I want my 5' 3" wife who is around 155 Lbs. and very curvy to be at least 180-190 Lbs. for starters. She thinks she is fat currently and would be totally disgusted if she knew I would like her to be 190 Lbs. let alone the 250 Lbs. that I kind of dream about.

So I guess what I am saying is the general public would look at my wife and call her fat currently or at least heavy and I look at her as being kind of skinny in my eyes from where I would like her to be weight wise. Same thing with someone who either wants to be immobile or wants someone to be immobile they look at the person at 350 Lbs. and views them as being skinny and can't wait for them to be 600 Lbs. or what ever weight will allow them to remain at rest only in bed. Obviously there are other things emotionally etc. involved but I to would never want my wife close to being immobile but I certainly would love to see the differances the extra weight changes with regard to her moving differantly, walking with more of a sway or waddle and I really enjoy after she has gained a lot of weight and her appetite has increased I almost watch how much more she can eat and get very turned on by watching and monitoring.

So being an FA and very into weight gain especially on my wife makes for a very difficult situation. She does not want to gain weight even though she sometimes does becaue she tends to overeat and she can't resist treats and desserts. She does not like talking about weight gain that much other than third party stories but not role playing or anything or at least I have stayed away from it for several years becuse it used to bug her. I am confident enough and have been for a long time that if she became pretty fat I would show my appreciation and always be proud to show her off in front of my friends etc. Which in today's world is similar to being gay.

I can't imagine and am very blessed that I don't have the need or fascination to want or have someone immobile it would be hell!

I kind of got into gaining myself at certain times a while back from the lack of weight gain on my wife when I would buy her extra snacks and treats for the house.

All of a sudden after several months of us both eating Ice cream, cakes, cookies etc. I developed a really huge appetite for regular meals as well and didnt sop the treats. Long story short she gained around 5 Lbs. in this time and I gained 15-20 Lbs. unintentionally and became really turned on....Mostly because the void of weight gain on her and I decided to try and intentionally gain until she noticed or said something to me.

Over another couple of months I totally got into it because I was not only lazy but I started being able to consume so much food it was easy to see myself grow out of pants waist bands and other clothes. I ended up putting on another 12-15 Lbs. I was hoping she said something and teased me and told me she liked the extra weight and eventually she would start getting really fat but it didn't happen she never mentioned my 30 Lb gain. even though my big gut was so noticeable and got in the way all the time.

To this day I still can't figure out the reason she didn't say anything.

I am 6' 3" plus and 225 Lbs right now and my 36" fit slightly snug currently.

Crazy thing is I am trying to reduce a bit for the first time in a long time and even if I tend to eat lighter, work out and do massive abs I have not lost any weight and or size in my waist other than been getting the 4 pack back. I would have though I would be down to 215 Lbs by now. I feel as though if I let myself it like crazy right now I could probably gain 20-30 Lbs pretty quickly.

When I was 247 Lbs. 40" was quite snug and while I ate they were pretty uncomfortable.

When I start eating a lot my belly takes the initial size difference and then it settles around a bit....but my belly feels huge!

I happen to prefer a Pear shape on a woman!Large hips, Lovehandles and Huge butt and thighs

Big fat slightly hanging lower belly with a good amount of protrusion along with some width and fatty softness above

Although I like the Pear shape....I also love really large big full fluffy soft breasts

I am also into some full soft fat upper arms with just a hint of cellulite on them

For what it's worth:

My wife...from the female side of weight gained then lost and re-gained!

She gained a good amount of weight during and after being pregnant multiple times back to back. Sheis 5' 3" and had a curvy figure to begin with but she become wider and more curvy after she lost the weight. Even after she was pregnant she had a large lower belly that really stuck out almost as if she was a fat pregnant woman now. Her ass and thighs were big and heavy and pretty toned with some cellulite.

She lost most of the weight through potion control and some dieting....which I was bummed about! years later she gained some weight back and it was softer and more jiggly everywhere especially her belly. It was very wide on her hips and her belly did not stick out so much but was ultra soft and hung over her waistband. Her thighs and ass are softer and more jiggly and not ass thick and big.

I think the weight comes back slightly different until you gain more to get that extra new fat which is firmer and sticks out more. I am sure in her case if she gained more weight like 30+ Lbs. she would really start filling out rather than just wide and soft......just my thoughts on the matter!

I have been into women gaining weight all of my life especially my significant other.

I have always thought that was the ultimate having your girlfriend or wife fattening up in front of your eyes. As an added bonus her talking about and teasingly discussing how fat she was getting while she stuffed another snack in her mouth.

Right after college I accidentally had a mutual gaining relationship with a girl I thought I would marry. It took me to a level I never dreamed of with regard to weight gain intensity. I never before could gain weight and all of a sudden I got fat after moving in with my over weight girlfriend at the time who became very fat while we were living together. It was very sexy and intense and I loved both of us being fat when we were together but was kind of ashamed and embarrassed when we were not together and I was off at work or with my friends.


I would love for my wife to gain weight. In fact I would love for her to get huge but would even love the modest 20-30 Lb. gain. We don't discuss it anymore because she does not like to but at times when she starts over eating and starts to gain some beautiful Lbs. on her already curvy plump figure I am in heaven. It's these times when everything is perfect she starts teasing about how fat she is getting and because of her growing appetite pig's out all the time in front of me and comments how fat she is going to get.

I have been trying over the course of the last month to have plenty of Ice cream and treats around which she has been consuming but has not really gained. I on the other hand have gained and now I have decided to see how fat I can get for a while. I have tried another time to fatten up to get a rise from my wife and she never said anything. This time I am going to try and gain double what I did last time.

I don't want to subtly ask her I really am interested to just eat like a pig in front of her and show her by being able to see how fat I am becoming. I am not sure but I think I want to see if I can gain a total of 40 Lbs. which will be a little more than an extra 20 Lbs. now. She visible has to have already noticed but has not said a thing. I have been having her make me double the amount of food by asking her to give me more. I follow that but eating huge amounts of ice cream, candies right in front of her. She has to be thinking "damn, when is he going to stop eating" or maybe she is just waiting for me to pop.

I think she has definitely noticed my huge gut but has not said anything I am anxiously waiting to see how she will say it. I have never gained this much before since I have been with her if I achieve this 40 Lb. gain. In fact This is probably the biggest gut I have had that she has seen on me right now.

A few questions:

1. Is it common even with a 20 Lb. gain to feel totally differant with regard to sitting down, my belly totally getting in the way with most things I do?

2. My belly feels full all the time but I get hungrier much quicker and can even eat more at one time even though I may have just ate an hour ago and already feel full?

3. I take longer deeper breaths and slightly struggle to breath doing things when my belly getting in the way (while bending over, getting up off the couch, I got slightly winded taking a shower the other day before going out for an amazing fattening dinner)?

4. At this rate if I keep up pace I will have gained 40 Lbs. in three months. Is this to much?

5. How will my wife finally call this to my attention? will she say it in a joking way or a concerned way? Knowing my wife I am even unsure, I guess it depends if she waits till I get to the 40 Lb. gain!

6. Should I keep gaining on purpose after she calls it to my attention?

7. I guess this what happens to us FA's who like weight gain eventually if our significant other doesn't fatten up for us or fast enough. anyone else every go down this road with a similar situation?

Thanks in advance for all comments and answered questions!

My wife and I just got back from a vacation almost three weeks ago.

I thought it would be great to really have her relax and consume a lot of great food and dinners. I even stocked our smaller fridge in our hotel with plenty of ice cream sweets and other fattening treats. She definitely was consuming plenty of food along with tons of treats.

When we got home I was sure that I would see some weight gain on her figure. I didn't really notice much at all although she has continued to eat and snack a ton. I have been loading up on tons of Hagen das and she has been eating almost 4-5 of these quarts or pints a week before bedtime. Crazy thing is I was for sure she would have blown up by now and would be straining most of her clothing, not so yet.

During the course of buying her treats and ice cream I have found myself eating a bit bigger portions and a few treats after dinner. I weighed myself a couple of week's ago and couldn't believe that I had gained 10 Lbs. since before our trip. I was sort of discouraged that I have not seen her fatten but I felt a wierd urge to over eat myself to see how much more I might gain.

My belly is noticeable bigger and I am the one straining my clothes especially after a big dinner I struggle moving aroung with my bigger distended belly.


I typically see gaining happen on me after two plus weeks of extreme over eating. So, strangely I have felt really hungry lately which I have experienced various times before but before I would finish a huge dinner and not be able to finish much desert. last week on two occassions I almost finished an entire gallon of ice cream following a huge meal. I felt like such a glutton who was stuffed to capacity but still wanted to get more stuffed for some reason to see if my big gut would stick out further yet. I weighed myself today and couldn't believe that I have gained 7 Lbs. in the last seven days bringing me to a 17 Lb. gain, usually like I said after this much eating it usually takes 2 weeks or so to show up on the scale or on my body. I am anticipating the next couple weeks to see how much more I will have gained from this over eating that has been done.

I certainly hope that my wifes belly starts getting really big and fat....so that we can feel all of our big bellies together at the same time!

Thats a tough one: You need to find a way to uncover her issue! Try a change of pace thing, like a romantic getaway.

In my past experiences every time my wife gained a good amount of weight, She was definitely more sexual and had a softer/sweeter easy going flow about her. Every time she gains weight I can't keep my eyes and hands off of her and she is so much more receptive to my enthusiasm, that is until she gains to much and then she turns grumpy ans says she is a fat cow and needs to go on a diet! Thats where the frustration begins.

I hope you get it figured out so you both can enjoy all her new soft Lbs.

A little bit of input through a story on my end: Kind of long just trying to get it all down!

I have always loved fuller figure/curvy girls and women. I also am very into them gaining weight especially my wife. As the years have gone on I desire more weight and fat on there figures. My wife is very aware that I like fuller figures(Fat)on women although I don't think she would imagine me loving her at 300+ Lbs. which I absolutly dream of and would love.

She happens to be a very curvy hour glass/pear figure @ 5' 3" with big round breasts, when she gains a good amount of weight she turns more into a full pearish figure with huge hips/thighs and a big lower belly along with big breasts and fat upper arms but her back doesn't get much bigger. Currently she is around 155 Lbs. At her heaviest she was just over 200 Lbs. She looked amazing at her heaviest in my eyes. I actually have dreams of her fattening up and getting really big.

Here's where I think I can relate to your post and possibly shed some light. I don't really discuss gaining with her anymore because she gets bugged and it puts her in a bad mood. She was chubby and heavier as a kid and always thinks of herself as being fat even though I think she is skinny and I tell her that. I never bring up or discuss her gaining weight anymore, I just kind of realish in the times where she starts piggin out a little more and I can see her gaining weight. These times seem to get fewer and fewer these days and she tends to look skinnier in my eyes because my interest in fat on her and in general has gone up over the years, like I said previously.

So there has been several times over the last couple years where all of a sudden I felt hungrier all the time and was eating fast foods, drinking lots of soda etc. and my appetite seemed to really increase. All of a sudden I noticed my pants were tighter, my t-shirts started really being tight on my belly and I became really turned on. I was so turned on something switched in me and all I wanted to do is pig out on fattening things and constantly have my gut bulging out and to see how fat and big I could get.

Now my wife mentioned to me a long time ago when we were dating and it has kind of stuck, that she was disgusted by guys with big asses. I don't have a big ass not even that big when I was ever at my heaviest but she has also alluded to liking a more cut look on guys back in the day. Ever since she has known me I have been pretty mucsular and at times somewhat cut up but not totally cut up and at other times when I am lifting heavy I get pretty big and muscular with a little belly and a thicker layer of fat all over. She has never really commented other than when I am to big muscularly and she has also commented in a positive way a bit when I am thinner and more cut up. Don't get me wrong if she told me she would get nice and fat for me if I dieted down and get as cut up for her if that would excite her.

The reason I feel through these few times where I was interested in myself gaining was because of the lack of fattening that I was seeing on her, a very long "dry spell" if you will. I was acting out in some way to get this fix entered into the relationship and marriage. I so much want to have Gaining entered into my marriage that I was getting the fix through myself gaining.

So, back to getting this out in the open with your girl like the other post mentioned you could do all sorts of things just to see a reaction. I tried several which were actually really kind of exciting from the whole weight gain perspective.

I made a point of eating way more in front of my wife it was kind of easy because my appetite was huge. I would ask for seconds after she already prepared me a pretty good size portion for dinner especially if it was a heavy fattening dinner such as Lasagna. A few times I even asked for thirds just trying to get a reaction out of her, It was a struggle trying to finish the plate and still I didn't get a reaction out of her. What gives she didn't even comment, surely she can see how much bigger I am and now I have eaten a whole have baked pan of Lasagna to myself. To top it off the next night for dinner She gave me the hugest portion of chicken and Pasta and mashed potatoes the plate was literly overflowing and it was an oversized plate. Could it be she wants me fat and she is going to "feed me fat". I was so turned on thinking this way.

I was clearly gaining more weight she didn't mention a thing, I could not fit into any of my dress slacks which rnaged from 34-36" I had to where some more casual Kakhis to work now that I had from when I was bigger, they were a size 40" and they fit pretty good not to big actually sized up perfect. My belly looked big and full all the time now not just when I was stuffed.

I tried several more things to get some sort of a reaction out of her. I was almost wanting and waiting for her to comment and mention my gain. I so much wanted to hear out of her mouth for some reason, "Wow" "someone is starting to get pretty porky"! I was actually dreaming of this moment and thinking of how it would make me feel. Almost like a soft patting and rubbing on my new fat belly when I least expected it in a teasing way.

So I decided to make sure when I was kissing her good bye in the morning before I left for work to really have my newly big distended belly squish into to her while I held her for that kiss. It was completly obvious to me it was kind of difficult to move into her lips with my belly getting in the way but i jus slowly squished it right into her and locked lips for a bit onger than usual so she cold really feel all of me. She mentioned nothing all day.

I was determied to get her to say something. She has to have noticed I have gained almost 20 Lbs. and almost all of it into my belly. I had it planned out for tonight, I was not going to eat much at lunch being that my appetite started slowing down a bit I was going to save up and try and eat thirds at dinner tonight followed with an obnoxious amount of ice cream directly following to have my belly so huge and full with that lone she would have to comment on my eating so much plus all the fattening ice cream. My back up plan if that was not enough to get a comment out of her was to Take a shower after dinner and change into a pair of boxers that dont fit anymore and a smaller t-shirt which most of them all were now.

Dinner and desert were done and I had never felt so full and sick to my stomach from eating as this night. While I was in the shower Gently massaged my huge distended gut to try and comfort it, I was amazed at how big and full it was. After I got out to my surprise I didnt even have to find a smaller t-shirt I jst grabbed an all white one that was slightly shorter and it not onlu hugged my huge gut but was skin tight around my newly formed love handles and back it rose up in the front with ease when i sat down not to mention starined even that much more aroung my huge belly when sitting. I could tell for the first time when sitting with my regular boxers on that my thighs beefed up as well,the boxers were skin tight when they rose up on my thighs. I should not have had to do much for her to notice how fat I have gotten other than sit there on the couch with her and my t-shirt squeezing every square inch of my new huge gut along with it riding up and seeing my lower belly. After several hours of watching TV she said she was going to go to bed, I said me to so we stood up and I walked a couple steps and pulled her in for a kiss which I strained to get to her lips with mine because of my huge gut that was equivalent to a nine month pregnancy belly that evening.

Through all this she did not mention anything. So, depending on how your girl is and how open she is comunicating with you, you might want to ask her rather than leaving it up to not so subtle hints. My wife on the other hand is very to herself but to this day I still can't believe she said nothing. Part of me wants to believe she changed her mind and wants me to get fat for her. Then when I wake up and if I actually asked her about it now, she would probably say something like, "I didn't now you wanted me to tell you you are turning into a *** because that's the last thing I want someone is to tell me when I gain a lot of weight, when I already know I am eating like a pig and to getting fat"