Coworker getting fat

Boops Boops:
Flirting is now harassment.


It can be, and I am shocked that you were unaware.

I remember this one job I used to work at. This was in person before the plague. We had a high turnover, so there were a lot of male new hires who came through.

I got hit on a lot. It was gross. It was creepy. I felt so unsafe. One time, a supervisor in another department started hitting on me because he liked how I filled out my clothes (I was dressed modestly, but I am still a curvy woman.)

I reported him to HR, and he was fired shortly after. I found out through the grapevine that he would hit on his subordinates a lot. Several women had reported him, but nothing was done until he stepped outside of his department to hit on me.

I've worked in HR before. Once in a call center and once in a University. I can promise you that you can be disciplined if you hit on someone and they report you to HR. I've seen demotions, suspensions, and terminations.

Please tell me that you aren't doing this to your coworkers because that is classifiable as sexual assault.

And yes, this happens to men too. I had a work buddy who's female boss kept hitting on him. Woman would not take no for an answer. It nearly became a lawsuit for creating a hostile work environment, so the company fired her.
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Coworker getting fat

Freo:
In my workplace people are generally fit, and I never found someone really attractive; however, today I noticed how a female colleague who has always had soft curves is really getting fat, and this is turning me on; she is actually getting much more beautiful than before! 

Have you had similar experience? How would you softly encourage this?

Munchies:
You don't. You keep your inside thoughts inside, mind your business, and leave that poor woman alone.

And if you can't find it in your heart to be a decent person, then do it for self-preservation. Because she can report you to HR for harassment and that may end up with you being promoted to customer.

Freo:
I hear you, although I don’t understand why you would label her a “poor woman” or why you would consider any possible behavior like "harassment." Especially because encouraging is not deceiving, and the fact that someone finds a colleague sexy and beautiful does not imply they will tease her or act inappropriately. FYI, she looks happy and confident about herself.


The issue is you looking to "subtly encourage" her gains.

Do not do this. Unless you have the other party's enthusiastic consent to indulge your fetish with them, that is harassment.
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Goals for anti-dieters

AskDrFeeder:
One of the best parts of being a feedee is never having to diet.

It seems to me if that's your motivation, your goal should be to get fat enough to qualify for bariatric surgery but not _too_ fat for bariatric surgery. Not that you should necessarily have bariatric surgery, just that it's nice to have the option and it's nice to know if you reach that target you'll never have to diet.

Fat enough for bariatric surgery would be 40 bmi. Too fat is 450 pounds. Someone 5'7" tall, for example, should have a goal weight between 256 and 450 pounds.

Is this a crazy idea? I don't know, somehow I like it.


I see where you are coming from. But I do want to add some nuance to this. This is not a critique of you - just something I've noticed during my time in the community.

The real "anti-dieters" (if you can call them that) are that ones that eat for their enjoyment. I've seen many a gainer/feedee approach weight gain in a way that makes crash dieting seem more pleasant.

I call them the min-maxers. It's a video game term where you try to get the max amount of results for the minimum amount of effort. But when you translate that into weight gain, you end up with sick, miserable people.

They will eat some of the least appetizing combinations while constantly pushing themselves to the very limit just to get fatter. And when they do gain weight, they are too preoccupied with gaining more to even enjoy their progress.

I'd suggest that these people are definitely dieting. It's just that the numbers on the scale go up instead of down.
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Coworker getting fat

Freo:
In my workplace people are generally fit, and I never found someone really attractive; however, today I noticed how a female colleague who has always had soft curves is really getting fat, and this is turning me on; she is actually getting much more beautiful than before! 

Have you had similar experience? How would you softly encourage this?


You don't. You keep your inside thoughts inside, mind your business, and leave that poor woman alone.

And if you can't find it in your heart to be a decent person, then do it for self-preservation. Because she can report you to HR for harassment and that may end up with you being promoted to customer.
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Is there any furries here ? :0

Strayguard:
never knew there was a crossover. Would be cool to hear how that works.


Yup! They are called fat furs. They're a pretty large subgroup.
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Supplements for feminization without boobs

GorgingOnSteam:
Are there any suggestions for supplements you take for feminizing supplements (wanting female fat) without growing cone shape boobs? I live with family and am just starting growth journey, they would be able to easily see breast growth. Can I take pueraria mirifica, saw palmetto, and others without boobs growth?

Munchies:
I have a question. Why are we wanting to avoid cone-shaped boobs?

Your hormones may influence whether or not you have boobs, but the size and shape comes down to genetics. And if you want to feminize your body with natural hormone therapy, you risk getting boobs.

You can wear things to squish them down or at least minimize their appearance.

GorgingOnSteam:
The only people who have cone breasts are early-transitioning MtFs and men with gyno. I would rather have no breasts than half-developed ones.


Well, that's not true. Anyone with breast tissue may have cone-shaped boobs. This includes cis women.

But you may need to make your peace with that and make modifications later on.
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Supplements for feminization without boobs

GorgingOnSteam:
Are there any suggestions for supplements you take for feminizing supplements (wanting female fat) without growing cone shape boobs? I live with family and am just starting growth journey, they would be able to easily see breast growth. Can I take pueraria mirifica, saw palmetto, and others without boobs growth?


I have a question. Why are we wanting to avoid cone-shaped boobs?

Your hormones may influence whether or not you have boobs, but the size and shape comes down to genetics. And if you want to feminize your body with natural hormone therapy, you risk getting boobs.

You can wear things to squish them down or at least minimize their appearance.
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Drinking heavy cream

BallinBot:
Hopefully a long term heavy cream drinker could tell you, unfortunately a lot of people seem to lose the energy to keep drinking heavy cream after 2 weeks, or lose the energy to keep reporting on it. Ive been going on 5 weeks so far and the last 3 weeks stuff keeps coming up to disturb me. It seems the sharp short term gain happens to everyone, I'm going to assume that it goes down and the plateaus into a lower constant weight gain?

Hamp:
Thanks for the answer.
Yes I feel it now at it has started to come up more and more, and I’m relly unsure if I will continue drinking. But I have feel I have been more jiggly and that’s a positive


I will add that you should be careful not to overdo it on the heavy cream and not to go for more than a month straight.

In my experience as an extreme feeder, overdoing it on the heavy cream can cause digestive issues and make you feel sluggish. It's also not good to have elevated blood triglyceride levels for extended periods.

This is purely anecdotal, so take this next part with a grain of salt. I've noticed that when gainers or feedees push themselves to gain as much as possible, their bodies start to have issues around the two-week to one-month mark. I am not sure why that is, but I've seen it a lot.
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Conflicted with the kink.

CuriousMe:
[quote]Munchies:

Hey sis! Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate your kind approach. I have talked to my fiancé about my fetish, and he is supportive of me doing what I feel is best for my body and what is most honoring to God.

I totally understand what you mean about thin not being super healthy either. There is a balance.

One thing I have done recently is put away the scale, eat when and what I want. I do half-day fasts occasionally to edify my spirit. There is a verse that talks about how the flesh is in opposition to the spirit. Meaning earthly pleasures can be in opposition to the spirit. Gluttony is one of the 7 deadly sins. I say this as someone who struggles with it. No judgement at all on others.

There is a bit of a deviant nature to wanting to watch someone fatten up or to wanting someone to fatten you up. Self control is one of the qualities of the fruit of the spirit. And intentionally gaining seems in opposition of that.

On the other side, people can obsess about calorie counting and exercise obsessively. Equally unhealthy.

I think you are right about striking a balance. I feel peace about maybe intentionally filling out a bit before the wedding day. Just to what feels right in my spirit.

I still struggle with lust of the flesh (literally) and being on this site indulges that. But I’m trying to not repress the impulse and to try to get to a balanced place.

Once my fiancé and I are married, I feel like it will be healthier to express my urges because we will no longer be abstaining from sex.

And we both are eager for that day!


Alright, sister. Be blessed. I wish you well on your endeavors. Also congrats on your upcoming wedding!
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What is the sexiest outfit to outgrow?

BigBallBellyGirl:
I've been maintaining around 570 throughout the warm weather months, so my brain actually forgot I'm still 80 pounds heavier than I was last fall. So imagine my surprise when I pulled out my winter clothes, which range from ill-fitting, to painfully tight, to unable to cover my gut, to not fitting at all. I'm also too fat to zip the winter coat I bought last year. That makes sense, considering I blew up during the holiday season and then continued to pack on some pounds in early spring.

Super-sized folks (and significant others), any brands/makers you can recommend for warm coats in the 9XL and 10XL range?

Morbidly A Beast:
You might have better luck finding something nice in the big and tall for men I’m not sure what 10 xl women translates to for men but it might be somewhere to start


Plus ... superior pockets.

My partner recently sacrificed one of his hoodies to me (he ain't getting it back) and I am obsessed with the giant pocket.
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