I think people have to realize that people are here for different reasons. And it's good that people who want sex place sex ads. Because if a woman is looking for a relationship, they can rule out the men who place sex ads. If a man only wants a certain size or shape belly, then he probably is not looking for a friendly compassionate woman. So, if a woman is friendly and compassionate, those traits would be wasted.

If someone who is a "douchebag" places a "douchebag" ad, then be glad. When the "douchebags" start placing nice ads, then it is time to worry.

And I can't understand women who leave this site because some of the men are "douchebags." How many men do you want? You only need one good one.

I think this belongs on the "gross" discussion

You just have to keep going. I dread when people ask me for a picture. Because the next thing that happens when I am Yahoo IM is "so and so signed out." Another conversation ruined by my picture.

One reason there seems to be so many creeps, is because they flitter around over and over again like butterflies, and tend to annoy every woman because they keep looking for someone who will aceept their creepyness.

The good ones will zero in on women who interest them, and then stay for a while. So they may not contact as many women.

How do you get cheeseburgers for breakfast? They never serve me lunch until 11:00 AM.

I told that to my wife, and she got really mad.

Like I said, the terms are made by the reasearchers. If there is an epidemic of a "disease," they get more money. They also said obesity is contageous. So they get even more research money for that.

The doctors want to hurt and embarass their patients as much as they can. Especially the obesity researchers who get more grant money, the worse they can make it sound. They are also using the term "malignantly obese."

There are such fine lines, it would be impossible to know. When someone overeats knowing they will gain weight, are they gaining weight on purpose? When a parent tells a child to finish his plate, are they feeders? When someone offers someone a candy bar, are they a feeder? If someone encourages someone who is 105 pounds to gain to 115, are they feeders? Is a man who fattens a woman "so that no one else would want her," a feeder?

Going back, I think it was a woman named Betsy who first came out in the open and declared she wanted to become obese on purpose. I think Kellygirl made it very popular.

For those of you who are old enough to imagine life before the Internet, there really was no way for people with unusual and secretive interests to contact like minded people. So those who had the interest to gain on purpose or help someone gain on purpose, didn't even know that there were others who shared that interest.