I dated a normal sized guy for 10 years but before that and after its been larger guys.
My rule in dating is the guy has to weigh more than me and be taller than me.
I'm short so that part is a given.

Never quite tripled my starting weight but have doubled it twice.
Started off at 115 and ended up at 388 lost some weight and gained a lot of it back all over a 10 year period.
I am at 315 now so officially double my original weight again.

There is acceptance here and yes its about fat fetishes too.
Good points Murphy.
I get lots of messages and some are kind of on the nasty side but most are positive.
I'm not a gainer either in the classic sense but some here try to push their fetish a bit too far with their comments.
You can always block them too.

Nothing wrong with not wanting to gain at all that is your choice.
I agree on the bigger guy thing I have always dated bigger guys its just my preference.
Some push the getting bigger thing here and if you say you don't want to get big they should respect that.
I think you look fabulous just the way you are.

As long as you two are on the same page thats all that matters.
Let him work at his own pace.

Each person is different and to say X number of calories = one pound of fat is a bit ludicrous.
Some people are just into stats and formulas but remember its just one person's theory and not a fact.

Let me get this straight guys think that because they gain and grow moobs it changes their sexual preference?
Growing moobs they think will make them gay?
Who thinks like that?
A large man with moobs is normal is it not?
Guys sure have a funny outlook sometimes.

I've been skinny and very very over weight and losing weight was not all that hard but I would rather stay in between chubby and sort of fat.

Just play with them a little and see how he reacts.
Maybe if you are kissing around his chest try putting your mouth on a nipple and see what happens.
It could be something he has never experienced and enjoyable for him.