Pattcaster:
Does anyone enjoy being "a little chubby" ?

My apologies that the question is so vague since "a little chubby" can mean so many different things.

I've been on and off this site for years so I've heard people saying they want to be massive. But not much about wanting to be chubby but not massive.

Some examples of different sizes that may give a visual picture.
● A woman of average height and an average amount of muscle being around 170 lb.
● A 6 feet tall man of an average amount of muscle being around 210 lb.
● A woman of average height and an average amount of muscle being a 16 U.S. dress size.

LuvsChub04:
After my most recent gain my innie belly button has almost disappeared .I have no clue why, anyone know why this has happened.

Iridescent Pearly:
It's been about two years since I joined this community. I've had ups and downs.(mostly downs) but that's expected when you live in a world as lively as ours.

Aside from being an espresso with a D at the start. I guess I wanna kind of give a recap so people don't do what I did and have a smoother journey than me.

DISCLAIMERThis is my story so yours will be different and is not the definitive truth.)

Lets start with the not so great experiences I had and how I learned from it.

MESSAGING)

Starting with being TOO nice. It's great to be kind we all love nice people they are truly a treasure in society. But unfortunately I gave too much of my aces to some very very selfish people, who took advantage of my kindness. Draining my patience and finances. I WOULD literally make posts saying I'd be someones feeder. IT DOESN'T WORK. It does the opposite infact. I had a live in feedee who ended up being 10 years older than me, and I felt like I was raising a child it became very one sided. No were not a thing anymore.

NETWORKING)

AVOID Feabie. If you are unfamiliar with this website. I strongly advise that you stay away from there. The site evolved from community to self promotion very quickly. The mods are NOT inclusive its even a fineprint when you sign up, so my fellow queers you are not welcome. I complained on the site and I got perma-banned. But that was one of the best things that could happen.

IN PERSON)

IF YOU HAVE A BAD FEELING THEN ITS PROBABLY RIGHT. I consider myself lucky because I've had so many close calls. I can't tell you how many times, I've had met the most desperate and touch depriven people that really really wanted to come over to their place only for me to elaborate a clever story on how I need to leave.

WHEN THINGS AREN'T GOING YOUR WAY.)

Don't do what I do. I complain and whine. No one likes whiners. Things are hard but it isn't impossible. Don't obsess over why you got blocked, or someone isn't responding. Some people handle rejecting others differently than others. I mean hell I've had people make straight up mean comments on why they don't like me. But I'm still here. WHY? I have no Idea hahaha.

GAINING WEIGHT)
I WISH I COULD TELL YOUNGER ME THIS (even tho its only been 2 years ). Don't rush the weight gain. It will come, like all things in life its a process. I found that when I turned 24 my metabolism decided to go on vacation and my weight shot up 60lbs in the past 1.5 years. You wont magically become 300lbs if you eat 10 cupcakes (even tho it feels that way) enjoy the process of gaining . Now I gain weight unintentionally I don't think about it you can see my progress in my own profile pic.

I originally was gonna post something about complaining how I am going to be a loner forever. But at least I can speak my mind on this site and not get banned.

Thanks for reading!

-Zoe

SkinnyFeederSub:
I think in the right relationship I'd be willing to try having an extremely greedy feedee deprive me of my food consistently so she has more to help her grow bigger as I get skinnier so the contrast is immensely huge and any kind of facesitting or laying on top would completely trap me maybe even sitting on my chest gorging herself full as I'm starving. I think that would be a sexy but dark type of feedism relationship

Morbidly A Beast:
Homie is 19. If that’s true ggs you have a metabolism still I didn’t seriously start packing weight until I was 25-26 that’s when I shot from slightly chubby to out right fat a few years later that’s with crash dieting and yo-yoing just following my appetite

Not to discourage if you really are young

Food Enjoyer:
Well—better late than never!

I think the number of people deliberately eating themselves to death for erotic purposes is probably small. But the proliferation of overt fantasy material about it is definitely interesting, and I think you're right that more often what is going on is fantasizing about prioritizing gaining and indulgence above any consequences rather than, say, the direct eroticization of literal self-destruction. Maybe in some cases the kink can help people arrive at a sense of existential peace about living and dying on their own terms but I think that is also probably more rare than people stopping and reevaluating when they first run into serious health problems. I know that was the case for me.

Then again, confronting that reality didn't change my sexuality or my attraction to fat and gaining in any meaningful way; the allure is still there alongside a better appreciation for the cost. (And maybe a little added seductive appeal to the fantasy of self-destruction.) Moth to a flame, etc.

I think the escapism of it all is an important point. It drives a lot of reckless behaviour and probably a fair amount of the entitlement. When a model (or anyone) eases off gaining it shatters the fantasy, and lots of people aren't emotionally equipped for that experience. Hence the OP's description of people decrying models who lose weight as "traitors" etc. Our fantasies have a way of organizing our realities and many of us are very attached to our illusions.

SumoSized:
Oh I agree people really have no idea what they're getting themselves into when gaining that amount of weight, hell I question if I even know what I'm doing half the time. I'm more or less interested in what the median weight of feedees is and what the cut off is. I wonder if there is a specific cut off weight where people tend stop or if it has more of a gradual drop off. I also want to know if there's a consensus on an "ideal weight" for most people. Like beyond x weight too many issues start to arise so this would be the perfect cut off

Munchies:
From what I've seen, if you are thin starting out, 200 - 250 seems to be when most either stop or reverse course. This is the fattest they can get without negatively impacting their everyday lives. This number is smaller if you are short (160 - 180).


If you were chubby or "small fat," most stop in the 350 - 500 lbs range. This is around the size people experience moderate to major health issues.

SumoSized:
Damn that's concerning because I started off really skinny and I'm hoping to well exceed 250 lbs

SumoSized:
Oh I agree people really have no idea what they're getting themselves into when gaining that amount of weight, hell I question if I even know what I'm doing half the time. I'm more or less interested in what the median weight of feedees is and what the cut off is. I wonder if there is a specific cut off weight where people tend stop or if it has more of a gradual drop off. I also want to know if there's a consensus on an "ideal weight" for most people. Like beyond x weight too many issues start to arise so this would be the perfect cut off

SumoSized:
I would actually be really interested to see a chart of the weight of all the people on this site who are actively gaining. And if the chart was updated year by year I wonder if it would trend upward as people gain, or if it would stagnate from extreme gainers/feedees deciding to maintain/lose weight and from new people joining the community. I guess really what I would want to know is what percentage of people who claim they want to be extremely obese bordering on/being immobile actually achieve that