Oh yes! The reason bodybuilders use peanut butter in their shakes and snacks is because of the calories. Fats are 9cal per gram compared to carbs or protein (4g). It's more that DOUBLE the calories.

Stick to peanut butter, oils and heavy cream and you'll be a blimp in no time.

My wife is not an active gainer and has always resisted it in her mind. But what is slowly accepted, grows daily and is undeniable is her passionate love affair with food.

And she knows that will never go away. She looks forward to it more. She rewards herself more. Every week she comes back from the store with more. Wants to eat out more.

And so there's just an acceptance that she's going to have to be bigger if she wants to live this lifestyle.

I think we get so hung up on the fat/body/sex part here and forget the root is always an overwhelming love for food.

I have noticed most BBW models do get bunny trails once they get quite heavy which I think is hot. As long you shower and have clean laundry, we 're all cool.

This.

I tell my wife to take a load off, I'll do it. And I love coming home and looking in the trash to see all that she ate while I was out being busy.

And then SHE acts like the one that is tired and "did so much" - when she just sat around eating for 2 hours.

In your mind you tend to always think about what you "used to be". After a couple job changes, I think it finally clicked with my wife that nobody knows her as a thin girl. All of our neighbors and all of her coworkers only know her as a bigger girl and love her all the same. No need to be clinging on to this old image that only exists in your mind.

It's all mental. And then the older you get, you always know someone way larger than you.

Every pregnancy is different. My wife was skinnier after our first child. But holy smokes, the 2nd. She had it mentally in her mind that this would be our last kid and needed to "enjoy" the pregnancy. She piled on 75lbs in the first few months.

And that was the snowball that just kept going. As long as you have an excuse for being fat, most girls go with it and adopt it. "I'm just a bigger girl now".

We have friends talking about their "baby weight" even though it's been 10 years and they've added 150lbs since their pregnancy.

I have a younger newlywed latino coworker who refuses to turn her camera on in our Zoom calls. I haven't seen her since April.

We finally had a team happy hour recently and I was blown away. She's put on a good 35-40'ishlbs. Almost is unrecognizable.

She used to eat nothing but fast food for lunch but was one of those high metabolism, gym bunny girls. The gyms closed and she said she cancelled her membership. We ordered a ton of appetizers and she basically claimed a large nachos as her own, polished it off. I couldn't believe how fat, plump her hands were grabbing those chips!

She was one of those girls you would never imagine or expect to get fat. I'm very curious what she'll look like next time I see her.

It's wild how your perception of your body can change like that.

Two summers ago my wife would only wear a one-piece swimsuit because of how much she had gained that year.

She then gained another 30'ish lbs that upcoming winter. She frantically worked off 10lbs for our vacation the next summer and confidently flaunted a skimpy 2-piece the entire vacation even though she was 50lbs heavier in that 2 year span.

Yep. My wife came from her dad's previous marriage. So her fat step-siblings she grew up with always viewed her as a semi-outsider and always had some weird axe to grind.

My wife's siblings were all overweight since early teenage years. And they've really blimped up in their 20's. My wife was bone skinny until after marriage. And their parents had accepted that.

So I honestly think there was an unspoken jealous "we figured your starving @** would finally let yourself go" kind of attitude toward my wife's gain.