Me and this guy have been FWB for a few years now and I think the reason he apprehensive about us becoming an official couple is because he wants to lose weight, specifically his stomach and he know I love his body and don’t want him to change. I even told him that I would cut my hair for him cause I know he likes Brush Waves just to show I’m not one sided, it’s not all about me, and I’m willing to look like his preference
Keep it real, am I wrong for refusing to dating someone lean? I’ve friend zoned a lot of men and women because I felt like they were too small? Am I being to extreme and rigid? And overthinking?
Have any of you been in this situation before and if so, how did you handle it?
10 months
Feedies, what feels better? Being stuffed or being inflated?
Feeders, which belly feels better? A Stuffed belly or an inflated belly?
10 months
Bigandbloated:Essentially what I'm asking is if it's possible to be like Bob from Tekken
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Part of the problem I'm facing is there are activities I like to do and want to get better at like dance and obstacle running, that are making me hesitant about committing to this kink. Right now I'm building muscle anyway, so it feels nice to indulge in it since I have to be in a calorie surplus (just call it a dirty bulk). Only question is whether I'll have to eventually decide to cut when it starts to interfere with my performance too much.
Yes it’s possible. That was literally me for a while. Sleep Apnea runs in my family and if it goes untreated it can cause weight gain. When I was teaching martial arts classes at the YMCA I was 216lbs and I could literally move just like Bob. To be fair, I’ve been a martial artist since I was 3 so the experience and muscle memory was already there.
1 year
Ahhhh……
The Lovely Jazzmine L. 😍😍😍
She was my unofficial girlfriend and the first big girl I ever stepped to. I was 11 and she was 14. It was a torrid spring and summer romance…. Ahhhh ☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾
1 year
Arame:
Arame is a Brazilian Portuguese for “Wire”
In Capoeira, we Capoeiristas are given a code name based on a characteristic that stands out. My temper is my most notable trait so I was given the name, Wire because of how “High Strung” I am
JN_TumLover56:
Oh that’s interesting. I’ve heard about certain cultures that do that. Especially when it comes to whatever handle people call you based on personality and whatnot.
Well I can’t speak for other cultures. But in Capoeira, the whole reason we get code names is because practicing Capoeira was illegal. So if a Capoeirista was arrested and interrogated to give up the rest of the group, he/she would give the police the group member’s code name so the cops could never find them.
1 year
Arame is a Brazilian Portuguese for “Wire”
In Capoeira, we Capoeiristas are given a code name based on a characteristic that stands out. My temper is my most notable trait so I was given the name, Wire because of how “High Strung” I am
1 year
Bigbellylvr1:
If anyone has any experience getting fat while eating healthy let me know what are some of the best healthy foods that’ll get you fat in no time
Arame:
Well Speaking as a ISSA Certified Personal Trainer, there aren’t really isn’t a such thing as foods that will get you fat. It’s all about calories consumed vs calories burned. Meaning:
In order to lose weight, you must in a caloric deficit aka burn more calories than you have consumed.
In order to gain weight you must be in a caloric surplus aka consume more calories than you have burned
In order to maintain your weight, you be at caloric maintenance aka you’re consuming the same amount of calories as you’re burning.
Unhealthy foods tend to be higher in calories thus why it’s easier to gain weight from eating them. However, I should note, you can absolutely lose weight on unhealthy foods. I’ve personally done it. Literally got ripped from eating Corned Beef Sandwiches
But at far as healthy foods? Well, raw fruits and vegetables are always a winner. Can never go wrong with those. Complex carbs instead of simple carbs meaning wheat bread instead of white bread, whole grain pasta over regular pasta. Healthy essential fats over trans fats meaning extra virgin olive oil over canola oil. And and lean meat of your choice is coo
JN_TumLover56:
Very interesting point. Kinda makes sense as to why I am still very much skinny despite what I eat. 😅
But one thing I’d like to ask is what about them nutrients? Especially when you actually cook the fruits or vegetables? Just as a curiosity.
Yes you can cook them. And even season them to taste. Just be aware that green vegetables are most nutrient dense when they are at their darkest. If you cooked them to the point where they’re light green, you’ve basically cooked the nutritional value out of them.
1 year
Bigbellylvr1:
If anyone has any experience getting fat while eating healthy let me know what are some of the best healthy foods that’ll get you fat in no time
Well Speaking as a ISSA Certified Personal Trainer, there really isn’t a such thing as foods that will get you fat. It’s all about calories consumed vs calories burned. Meaning:
In order to lose weight, you must in a caloric deficit aka burn more calories than you have consumed.
In order to gain weight you must be in a caloric surplus aka consume more calories than you have burned
In order to maintain your weight, you be at caloric maintenance aka you’re consuming the same amount of calories as you’re burning.
Unhealthy foods tend to be higher in calories thus why it’s easier to gain weight from eating them. However, I should note, you can absolutely lose weight on unhealthy foods. I’ve personally done it. Literally got ripped from eating Corned Beef Sandwiches
But at far as healthy foods? Well, raw fruits and vegetables are always a winner. Can never go wrong with those. Complex carbs instead of simple carbs meaning wheat bread instead of white bread, whole grain pasta over regular pasta. Healthy essential fats over trans fats meaning extra virgin olive oil over canola oil. And and lean meat of your choice is coo
1 year
Plushie:
Are you only interested in feeder/feedee for getting off or do you try creating an actual relationships with these individuals?
Like, when talking to a feedee or a feeder is it only to talk with them to like get off or do you try and pursue an actual long lasting romantic relationship with them?
Is it just for the fetish or is the fetish a lifestyle?
I've seen many feedees talk about their feeder as just a feeder and not so much as a committed romantic partner... and it sort of puts me off. Like I completely understand having an agreement but agreements is all I seem to see. Like, don't get me wrong I love me a good arrangement... but there doesn't seem to be like any romantic aspect to these agreements and its all sexual.
I don't really see many willing to go out and about with these... I guess I will call "play" partners for the lack of a better word.
It seems to me like a lot of feeders seem too embarrassed to ever actually be seen with a fat partner, in case like friends or family see them out or something.
(sorry if all jumbled and incoherent. or like misspelling and poor grammar. the dyslexia is asking up today lol lol)
No, this is an excellent question in my opinion.
The only thing I respectfully disagree with is that the feeders are only in it for an arrangement. I see waaaay more feedies/gainers, usually the females trying to use feeders, usually the males as tricks and simps. But I can see it from your perspective too. Yes, there’s still a lot feeders, particularly males that still lie about liking big women let alone feederism cause of the way society views big women.
Now, to answer your question, I’m absolutely here to find my bride. Everyone that knows me, knows that I like big women. All the women my area on this website seem to be taken though haha.
1 year
Stockylove:
I was just wondering if there were a lot of people who admitted to having these fetishes or kinks to their parents, families, friends, or work colleagues. How they reacted. Did they discover it or did you tell them? How do you live this experience?
For my part, no one knows. I simply don't assume it, especially since I have a lot of kinks around gaybears and bellies in general. If I told them all about my weird big weirdo's kinks, they'd be sent to the psychiatric asylum.
Me, personally?
I reject the term fetish cause I don’t think this is a fetish. People like what they like. If you notice, it’s only a “fetish” when it’s not the norm. If a short woman prefers a tall man, it’s never accused of being a fetish. If a man wants a slim woman, it’s never accused of being a fetish. Because we like people with extra body fat, now all of a sudden it’s a fetish. It’s a joke to me. But! That’s just my opinion.
But to answer your question, yeah everyone knows I only date big people. Some don’t like or agree with it but they know better to than to say something disrespectful to me about it.
1 year
