Yeah, there's no quick and easy answer and it really depends person by person. You have to listen to each other and be honest.
Some people are clearly fat because they're miserable, and miserable because they're fat, and once they bust out of the vicious cycle they've fought back their lives. Some people are damaging their health, but don't mind because it's what they enjoy and they decided there's more to life than just running out the clock.
By sheer accident though, I ended up finding The Feeder Unicorn. Neither of us realized it at first. Someone whose health improves with extreme weight gain. Even if it makes her life a lot less convenient.
2 years
Gaining hundreds of pounds of weight really helped my wife's self esteem.
She hates being short, and she will never grow taller. But she can definitely grow wider and heavier. Now she's got a confident and powerful attitude. No longer "the little one" but almost always the most massive person in the room.
In fact, it's reached the point where she's so much shorter than all her friends standing up, but taller than all of them sitting down.
2 years
I've gotten some wonderful anonymous replies on Confessionpost.
Just describing my wife's obesity has made people tell me they're disgusted.
It made me realize she's like a living work of art. Like so much good art, she's not just lovely, but has the power to shock and provoke.
2 years
Yeah, the last time Lisa went for a health checkup they told her she needed gastric bypass surgery right away.
Not because of any health issues, but just because she's so big. Happily, she's so comfortable and not so easily swayed that she shrugged them off completely.
I'M the one that got really mad about the invasiveness and bodily destruction of the idea.
2 years
Yeah we used to be able to bathe together.
Not anymore at her size!
The big milestone was when I heard the distinctive sound of soft flabby flesh rubbing against the sides of the tub, followed by "Honeyyy!" in a sweet pouty voice.
I had to pull her out of the bathtub, and she started laughing because she thought it was funny and kinda hot.
2 years
UomoGrasso:
I was just on a flight where I could not put down my tray table for my drink and snack. Had to lift my belly to rest it on top to get a little bit of space for my drink.
Yes!
The last time Lisa and I flew, the staff had to actually come over and help buckle her seatbelt by folding it in between her rolls. Then they patted her right on the belly and said "There, that's better!" in a sweet voice.
Rather than being embarrassed, she said it was so nice of them!
2 years
Yeah!
She's a head shorter than me, and almost 200 pounds heavier!
2 years
For us it's just sort of emerged as a practical difference in our bodies.
I could never get as fat as her, my heart's too weak and I would literally die before I could enjoy my new life. She has the opposite condition, she keeps getting bigger and bigger no matter what, with no problem. So now I need to hold myself against the furniture just to get her out of bed, she 's so huge!
2 years
She eats so much that even when she's in the mood, she's too full. She used to be ashamed, but I told her that her appetite is more important than anything else!
After all, I've got my mouth, fingers and teeth...
2 years
She's a balance of both. Pretty active once she gets up from the couch... but it's taking her more and more effort to get up from the couch.
She doesn't mind, she told me up front she wouldn't be upset about becoming completely immobile!
2 years
