My boyfriend (who probably weights less than I do right now) used to be over 200 lbs back when he drank and still has a small doughy belly and cute moobs.
He'll often say "I feel fat..." while grabbing his muffin top shamefully or ask "Am I disgusting?" whenever he's shirtless (unless I ask him to take it off he'll usually keep his top on while we're making love).
I find it heartbreaking that he would think that... I reply: "I love all of your body just the way it is and would have felt the same way if I had met you when you were bigger. My own body isn't perfect, we both have loose skin, that's a consequence of losing a lot of weight."
He knows I'm also into girls and, although he identifies as a cis-het male, he has a strong feminine side to him and isn't ashamed of it. I've told him many times I love how his long curly hair and small breasts make him looks androgynous, even more so when I don't have my glasses on (I have very severe myopia).
How I wish I had met him years ago when he was fat (minus the alcoholism... he says he used to drink so much beer he could gain 30 lbs in a month from all the sugar and extra calories) and how I fantasize about going away for a while and coming back to a much fatter version of him, like in the pictures he showed me.
During lovemaking, I think of these and how it would be like if he regained the weight. How winded and sweaty he would be, how heavy his body would feel on me, his belly fat brushing against my own...
This makes me orgasm so hard!
Knowing how self conscious he feels about these body parts, I try my best to resist the urge to touch his drooping belly or moobs during missionary... but it's hard and sometimes my hands will "slip" and catch a glimpse of exquisite softness...
The rest of the time, I grab his butt (which he obviously enjoys), love handles (if he notices he doesn't seem to mind) or the fat on my own belly or thighs (ugh) to trick my brain into thinking I'm touching HIS fat, but it doesn't work as well.
I wish I could tell him how I really felt, but although he says he doesn't mind my recent weight gain (all his former girlfriends were larger than me) and sincerely thinks I looked just as pretty at my heaviest (he's seen pictures), he's made it pretty clear he disliked being fat and feels much better in a thinner body.
(To be continued at a later date.)
1 year
Munchies:
Here's a fun fact. Your lower stomach - specifically the space between your navel and your mons - is an erogenous zone. Try teasing and massaging that area on a stuffed belly. It'll feel amazing.
Effervescentfetish:
Wait what does everyone have that? I thought it was just me XD
Curiouslyafeedee:
Oh wow! Definitely not alone thenn...
Munchies:
Here's another fun fact for you:
Fat people have more nerve ending than slimmer people. This is because they have more mass and thus need more nerve endings to feel things.
And so, if you have a lot of fat around this erogenous zone, you'll also have more nerve endings. This is why some people can come just by playing with their belly.
If that's not something you can do, don't worry. Nothing is wrong with you. Some people just need more stimulation.
Does that mean new nerves grow? I would have thought the ones already there just ... I guessed, spread to the larger area?
1 year
Glitter Jelly:
Haven't been able to lose any weight because I've been sleeping at my bf most nights which means I'm still waking up and eating at night. Will see an endocrinologist in December, I'm almost hoping something is wrong with my health so this can be medically fixed. I feel so uncomfortable in everything, I dread going out of my home now. But staying in means I'm moving even less and I need to start exercising even if it's just walking more... My bf says I need to jog and walking isn't exercise, but I have bad memories of PE classes from being a fat child/teenager...
SumoSized:
To be completely blunt your bf is flat out wrong there, any type of movement outside of your normal routine is exercise. And it's actually better if you start off slow, that way it doesn't shock your system too bad and ruin your moral. I would recommend going on walks throughout your neighborhood (or a treadmill if you have access to one) and time your walks. Each time you do this you want to try to walk for a little longer than the time before. Then once your body adjusts to this start speed walking for sections of it. Speed walk until you physically can't anymore and then walk for as long as you feel safe. Then after this do the same thing but with jogging, and then after that you can try sprinting. And there's a reason people refer to this as a fitness journey. Don't get discouraged if it takes months if not a year to reach the goals that you set for yourself. You'll make progress eventually.
At this point just going outside and face the world in my current body is a struggle. I can walk for a long time but even at my thinnest I get really winded whenever I run. I really don't want to be the neighborhood's out of shape fat girl running... The less attention I draw to myself, the better.
1 year
Snackster:
Years ago, a friend gave me a tshirt for my birthday that was way too big for me. I was absolutely drowning in it and could only wear it as a sort of pyjama. Last night I wanted to sleep in it again and realized that it had suddenly got super tight on me. It was stretched tightly across my obvious, water-melon-sized pot belly, and my large butt was pulling at it in the back. I really couldn‘t believe how small this shirt looked on me all of a sudden.
This is starting to happen to me more often. I used to buy men XL t-shirts to sleep in and they fit a little like a dress. No one could tell if I had underwear on or not (I prefer to sleep without them). Now I definitely couldn't wear them without panties and even then they would be much too revealing!
1 year
FattyFat25:
I want to go on a diet now but I think it’ll just lead to greater weight gain again. Stuck being a fat pig.
Fionn:
Same! I try to diet but then somehow rip my jeans a few months later... I’ve given up at this point
You look very thin in your profile picture. I wouldn't worry about it. You probably were too skinny to being with?
1 year
J8o8h8n:
Just bought a couple pairs of 36x30 pants just in case I need them for the month long challenge (I'm a 31/32x30 currently). Rewarding myself with a 3000 calorie lunch lol. Maybe I'll take on the leftover Cinnamon Roll this afternoon.
Did you have to upsize your pants after all?
1 year
Fat On The Inside:
It's a super funny little thing that may seem kind of obvious when you think about it, but I've noticed tags in my pants and shirts which I never noticed before. As I get bigger, I have to cut out shirt tags and pants tags that never bothered me before. This is kind of mundane, but on a fun note, I love the way my love handles jiggle when I walk and the way my breasts weigh me down.
Oh. I've started noticing tags more lately (even in the larger clothes I bought myself). I thought it was because of my autism and feeling more anxious lately, but I didn't know my recent weight gain could explain this change in sensitivity...
1 year
Malicieux:
Turn on. It’s so cute when fat starts to get in the way. Even just bending over you’ve gotta make room for the belly. Or thighs so fat you can’t cross your legs anymore.
Yeah, even before I weighted myself and saw how much I've gained in the last few months, I noticed sitting with my legs crossed wasn't as comfortable...
1 year
Lynne841:
I've always gained in my belly and thighs mostly, noticing more fat distribution to extremities with recent gains. My elbows finally developed a dimple and skin on upper arms 'puckering'? I can see where I might get a little roll someday on inner arm over elbow, but overall my arms aren't very fat yet. Recent-ish gain of almost 20# has made my belly super soft and squishy, especially everything south of equator.
Sagging more freely and even sways now, newest development is actually bulging out if I lift thigh\step forward. The wobble. Shape changing when sitting too, again south of the equator poofs out more when spreading over lap. Not a roll but indents on sides of bellybutton and the fat feels more fluid and jelly.
What I haven't seen mentioned on this thread is a "delayed distribution"... Does this happen to anyone else. My weight has held mostly steady or dropped a tad below 290 for months now. Even staying within same 5 pounds my belly seems to have done a drastic "fwump" in the way it hangs and added another solid inch or so while needle on scale refuses to budge.
A scar near top of my thigh was visible until recently, can't see it from front or side anymore. Belly dropped and spread out to cover it despite fact I haven't gained anymore weight. Same with another old scar I can't reach across belly anymore to cover with fingers. Exciting changes but slightly surprised at such a major shift without additional pounds.
PurpleJade:
I’m currently noticing something similar to this now. I stopped gaining in April and have maintained my weight, but I feel like I have slowly softened up since then. I haven't gained much more than 20 lbs, so I’m not sure how accurate my observation is.
Since I gained weight I'm even less physically active because most days I stay at my place instead of going out to places. This means I walk less, stay in bed later... I'm losing muscle so even if I've lost a 2-3 lbs my clothes aren't any looser. Even my one piece pyjama feels a little tighter.
1 year
I had 2 leather jackets in size XS and one in size S. I can zip the size S but I look ridiculously tight in it so I hope I can sell them all cause they were expensive!
I hope my Arc’teryx coat from last year still fits because I never spent so much on a garment before!
Hopefully it does because I bought it secondhand and I remember having some regrets after buying it because it was looser than I had expected it to be.
Maybe this year it will be the right size...
I dread having to go through my many pairs of pants to see if any look right on me. I already know the legs will be tight because even 20 lbs ago I had big thighs.
I hate cold/winter season. This summer especially I wore only loose shorts and dresses, so feeling tight in pants is going to feel like hell which won't help with my body image and self esteem.
1 year
