How do you deal with it?
rogue wrote:
I know how you feel. It used to affect me a lot! I would start crying as soon as they were not in sight anymore, then I'd go home and cry a lot more, feel completely worthless, really hate myself and be really depressed for days etc.
Now it still bothers me but only momentarily. I had to develop a sort of defence mechanism where I would keep repeating in my head "it doesn't bother me. I don't care. Forget the whole incident and especially the comments!". After a while this process started happening automatically. Comments like that go in one ear and out the other. I must admit that it became easier the more I was accepting myself and the fact that nobody is for everybody. Fat or thin, tall or short, gay or straight, man or woman, etc.
I don't know if it's called getting a thick skin, but I find that as long I'm ok with me and who/how I am, it doesn't affect me all that much what strangers might think of me. I've started getting to the point where not even family's/friend's "disapproval" affects me anymore.
Love YOU unconditionally* and that love will help "bounce" most of outside negativity straight off
* I had to do that when the realisation hit that no one can or will ever love me as much as I wanted/needed... but I could. So I did.
P.S. Maybe you should ignore all the above and just watch this ->
Great video, trouble is when ever anyone says something cruel, it's always 10 minutes later when you think of something witty to say.FluffyMcMittens wrote:
And by -it- i mean being insulted in public and loudly by passers by about your weight. I would have been more up front but the title has a word limit.
I had this happen twice to me today and for the first time in AGES I feel terrible about myself. I've noticed people staring ever since the first incident and i'm really not coping with the reality that's just hit me of how i stand out to people who in turn judge and insult me.
So what do you guys do to get past it? =/
And by -it- i mean being insulted in public and loudly by passers by about your weight. I would have been more up front but the title has a word limit.
I had this happen twice to me today and for the first time in AGES I feel terrible about myself. I've noticed people staring ever since the first incident and i'm really not coping with the reality that's just hit me of how i stand out to people who in turn judge and insult me.
So what do you guys do to get past it? =/
I know how you feel. It used to affect me a lot! I would start crying as soon as they were not in sight anymore, then I'd go home and cry a lot more, feel completely worthless, really hate myself and be really depressed for days etc.
Now it still bothers me but only momentarily. I had to develop a sort of defence mechanism where I would keep repeating in my head "it doesn't bother me. I don't care. Forget the whole incident and especially the comments!". After a while this process started happening automatically. Comments like that go in one ear and out the other. I must admit that it became easier the more I was accepting myself and the fact that nobody is for everybody. Fat or thin, tall or short, gay or straight, man or woman, etc.
I don't know if it's called getting a thick skin, but I find that as long I'm ok with me and who/how I am, it doesn't affect me all that much what strangers might think of me. I've started getting to the point where not even family's/friend's "disapproval" affects me anymore.
Love YOU unconditionally* and that love will help "bounce" most of outside negativity straight off
* I had to do that when the realisation hit that no one can or will ever love me as much as I wanted/needed... but I could. So I did.
P.S. Maybe you should ignore all the above and just watch this ->
I do also sometimes wonder when I see a fat girl I fancy, just in passing in the street, whether she thinks I'm just looking at her with disdain, when it's actually admiration.
12 years
