I agree. I've gone after mostly fat men. If there's one thing I've learned is to leave these emotionally constipated little boys alone. Their issues have issues, and they'll try to make it your problem.

That said, if you date a fat man that's emotionally mature, it's a magical thing. They are some of the kindest, most empathetic people you will ever meet.

No.

Some users will probably chime in and say things like "heavy cream grew my ass and thighs" or "try fenugreek to grow your breasts"

Your milage will vary with both. And even then, your overall body shape won't be much different.

Your profile says you're trans. Are you on HRT?

Pretty much

I was my mother's primary caretaker for many years. She was bedbound, but not immobile (don't worry, she's okay now). On top of everything else I had going on in my life, I had to feed her, groom her, make sure she had her medication, help her to the bathroom, etc. etc. It was exhausting, and I had help from family members.

We didn't have a caretaker because those are mad expensive and even then, you can't let just anyone take care of your mom.

It was exhausting. Don't get me wrong. I love my mom. And she hated having to ask me to take care of her. But it really wears on both parties, and there were days we resented each other.

A lot of feedists into immobility keep it to fantasy because most people cannot handle the reality side of it.

And what's going to happen if he gets sick, has to go out of town, or is otherwise unable to take care of you? You're trapped. And he can't rely on you when he needs help because you can't move. And unlike people who are paralyzed or movement impaired, you'd be too big for any mobility aide.

It comes down to how gender roles work. Men are seen as inherently providers, and feeders are seen as a masculine role. So men in general will have people asking them for money - especially male feeders. However, feeders in general get asked for money too. I'm a woman, and I get the occasional ask/demand for money. Usually they backpedal once they realize I'm a woman too.

It's weird.

But yeah. Women like that have bought into the patriarchal lie that men are providers and women will be provided for so long as they satisfy male urges.

This is extremely dangerous because when they come across someone who subscribes to that ideology too, that person tends to be abusive. This is why such women tend not to stay very long in the community assuming they don't get banned.

Question. Even though you know he wants you immobile, do you trust him to respect your boundaries?

Yeah, that's shitty of them.

The longer this post goes on, the clearer it is what the real issue is.

This isn't about fetish commodification. This is about feeling entitled to women and our bodies.

You see a woman, you want her to be your feedee girlfriend/wife. You approach her only to have your dreams dashed] upon the rocky shore of disappointment! Not only does she not want to be in a relationship, but she also wants money to indulge your fetishes! She might not even be into this kink!

Angered at it all, you fantasize about her body being "ruined" as karmic revenge.

You don't care all that much about the commodification of your kink. If you did, you be asking yourself what you can do to make FF more of a community and less of a marketplace.

How about optional gravy? I'm assuming you mean fries. Gravy on fries isn't really a thing here unless you live near the Canadian border. And if you like crisp fries like I do, gravy on top sounds like a bad time.

Personally, I want groceries to be inexpensive and no food deserts. I also want grocery stores, restaurants, bakeries, and the like to be able to give their leftovers to the homeless/food insecure instead of throwing them in the trash.

A world where everyone can have whatever food they want whenever they want it would be great.

As for fat laws, I want places to cater to obese people - especially the 400+ club. Fat people should be able to find clothes, furniture, space, etc, just as easily and cheaply as their smaller counterparts. No more searching for clothes that fit or furniture that won't shatter when you sit on it. No buying an extra seat on a plane or needing to buy a seatbelt extender.

And no medical fatphobia. It breaks my heart every time I see a feedist post about how they are too scared to go to the doctor because the doctor might fat shame them. And certainly no dismissing health concerns as "you're just too fat." Sometimes the health issues have nothing to do with their weight. Medical gaslighting kills people.

Not to be rude, but I am confused by what your point is.