Yeah, you did misunderstand. I said revenge weight gain stories have a typical beat, but variations exist. Your story is usual for the genre, with some mild variations. This is common when you are writing in any genre.

An exception would be something drastic that you never really see. For example, the person exacting revenge feels guilty and turns himself in, the revenge victim escapes, never to be seen again, or the person getting revenge is the villain, not the story's hero.

After all, what is a revenge weight gain story if not a power fantasy?

Secretly fattening someone up is abuse. In some places, it's also a crime. This is why the community is so quick to bash these people and shut them down.

But you are right about these stories containing blatant abuse. To be clear, I am not saying writing about themes of abuse is bad. But it depends on how you handle it.

A common theme in revenge weight gain stories is that the wronged party will take away the bully's agency to fatten them up. Common tactics include secret fattening, non-con force-feeding, and coercion, which is often taken as morally correct.

Pair this with the fact that most of these stories involve a socially rejecting man taking revenge on a woman who "doesn't know her place" and her crime is often rejecting the man/being a gold digger.

To be clear, I am not saying these stories are influencing people to go around and do these things to people. And you are not necessarily a bad person if you write such things.

Instead, I think the prevalence of these stories is a symptom of a much bigger issue. In truth, a lot of feedists see fat people as lesser. Idk what the statistics are, but anecdotally, there are a lot.

Also, many feeders and FAs in the online space feel like social rejects who can't find love. They come to places like FF thinking things will be better, only to discover they are not. They soon become bitter and spiteful.

Revenge weight gain stories are power fantasies first and foremost. We all love a good fantasy, but social rejects flock to them like seagulls. And that anger comes out in the stories they write. The more twisted it is, the better.

I've seen a lot of feedists recovering from ED say that feedism helped them. To be clear, I am not saying that feedism is a cure for ED. I've seen many people go from one extreme to the other. Still, there's something to be said about being in an environment that keeps telling you the parts you hate about yourself are beautiful.

It's complicated to be sure. I've had partners with an exhibitionist streak that loved humiliation, denigration, and ruination. From what I gathered, they took a spiteful pride in being something others wouldn't want to be.

Meanwhile, my current partner loves twisted praise. He loves it when I call him fat hog or glutton because he knows we both like these aspects of himself. He is also something of an exhibitionist.

Of course, all of my feedist partners, past and present, are masochists, so take that as you will.

Do not make any major decisions solely based on your kink. That's how you ***rself over.

When it comes to picking or quitting a job, your kink should be a happy bonus. Have you seen the economy lately?

You don't need to give up sleeves. There are so many different styles of sleeves to wear. You have to pick which ones work best for you.

For example, I can't do form-fitting sleeves. Women's clothes were not made with biceps in mind, so I end up looking like an overstuffed sausage with limited mobility and chafing.

You know what does work for me? Loose, flowing sleeves. I got a dashiki ages ago, and it was a game changer.

Look at all these! And this is just a small sampling of options:



All you need to is find what makes you feel good. Don't think you have to give up sleeves because of your body shape.

I'm not looking for conflict either. If I was, you'd have it already.

That said, having read what you wrote, I am not seeing any so-called exceptions. And while I am open to discussing it with you in a non-hostile way, I am pretty sure my thoughts will offend you.

Being a dom means you are in charge. Even if you are a gentle dom, you are still in charge. This requires confidence.

In your case, if you aren't used to domming, discuss it with your partner. Ask them what they like, what they don't, and what are their expectations are. You also need to discuss limits, green lights, and things you are open to trying.

If you are not experienced with domming, you are going to suck. And that's okay. If you are open to learning and listening, you'll get better with time.

Have fun!

Well, how are you domming now?

You're not entirely wrong, but you are not entirely right either.

We'll never get those simpler times back, but that doesn't mean it's all doom and gloom. Community is what you make of it.

I remember how unsafe and unwelcome I felt when I first started being active on here. Sure, there were nice people, but I got harrassed a lot for being a woman, being black, being Jewish, not being a feedee, etc. I'd say the community was overrun by a special kind of asshole back then.

Yeah, I'd report people, but there were so many people like that it felt like wack a mole. One day I had enough and started publically standing up for myself and others. It was scary, but I couidn't live with myself if I backed down.

Well, it turns out I wasn't the only one that hated the status quo. Turns out, I was dealing with a very loud minority. They were so loud that everyone else thought the nice people were in the minority.

When I plucked up the courage to stand up to such people, others started doing it too. That vocal minority got quieter. It's more peaceful these day, and people are nicer.