BigBallBellyGirl:
While I am supersized, I'm still very much into looking neat and feeling pretty. Clothing are a challenge because I'm short (5'3" and very big bellied. I intentionally gained 200 pounds last year (plus a few more this year, though I'm mostly maintaining). My standing midsection measurement, at the biggest spot, is 98", which is bigger than 80% of plus sized retailers carry. Of course, as is the case with fat, my girth increases dramatically when I sit, so everything has to have a lot of give. The point is, clothing is tricky because of my shape, but I'm excited because I found a freelance fashion designer/clothing maker on Upwork. I sent her measurements and got three beautiful spring dresses. I'm definitely going to order more. Of course I had to wait for them, and they weren't cheap, but I'll be wearing them all season. Going to prove that fat girl summer can be hot girl summer too!

PurpleJade:
Autosexual meaning sexual attraction to oneself, not “self love” which is unrelated. Im curious to how common this is in gainers or feedees since I would think they are attracted to themselves being fatter.

I’m autosexual, but that’s a given since I have hypersexuality stemming from my bipolar disorder.

Munchies:

And it's not just the doms. It's the subs too. They tend to be asolutely insufferable and gross. I've seen many a woman choose to leave rather than deal with the rampant harassment, disrespect, and entitlement.


Fuui:
I have had major, MAJOR issues with subs/male feedees on here. Not painting all with the same brush, but some of them can be terribly entitled, yes. One of them body shamed me, even after I said that totally wasn't okay with me. I get a bit nervous being on site again.

Ligr77:
If everyone embraced gluttony the way the feederism community did, it wouldn't really be sustainable for even a modern society.


AskDrFeeder:
I'm thinking of it less as a religion and more of a Joseph Campbell finding-your-bliss kind of thing. Not everyone is required or expected to practice it.

AskDrFeeder:
I'm about the least spiritual person you'll ever meet, so I will not argue this point. I'm just putting it out there to see if anyone thinks it's possible. Part of finding your bliss and all that.

If it is possible, how do you do it?

Ligr77:
Honestly, if you look at religions as a societal construct, I find it hard to believe that it'd be practical. If everyone embraced gluttony the way the feederism community did, it wouldn't really be sustainable for even a modern society.

But if you're talking about a spiritual level, there are some beliefs of devourer deities in mythology. That said, they're almost always antagonistic, and usually neutral when they aren't.

Bottom line, I think for humans, it might be possible, but it'd be impractical.

Munchies:
I mean ... the broadest sense of the word, if you consume sustenance, you are on a diet.

That said, weight gain diets have always been popular with certain flavors of feedists.

You and I subscribe to hedonistic feedism. Basically, you eat whatever you want whenever you want so long it's pleasurable to you. But not every feedist is into it.

The min/max crowd is obsessed with results. They are willing to do whatever it takes to get fat - even if it's unpleasant.

Some BDSM feedists enjoy diet control. A fattening diet can be lots of fun for them.

Feedists looking to jumpstart their journey or push past a plateau often look for new diets. to get the ball rolling.

And lastly, the group that OP seems to belong to, bored feedists. Sometimes, you get stuck in a rut. Ironically, a diet plan can get what gets that spark to come back.

HRHB15:
Damn, I’ve been in all these shoes at different stages…

ILuvChubbyChix:
This is my opinion. Ultimately, it really boils down to what you'd like to achieve, and what lengths you are willing to go there.

I'm sort of in-between, which is while I do want results, I also want to enjoy the journey there.

The key, important thing is to find what works for you. One can attempt to try to over-analyze everything, even down to calorie efficiency based on what you eat, calories burned by physical activity, etc. But I recommend throwing such notions out of the window.

Don't worry about calories burned from physical activity. Actually, some light activity will likely help immensely. And here's another thing.. the number of calories burned from such activities is minimal. Ever wonder why so many burn out on overexercising while trying to lose weight? That, combined with a sad, boring diet is why.

There are ultimately two very important things to remember, and if you do that, everything else will eventually fall into place. Are you ready?

1. Eat more calories than you burn.

2. Be consistent.

(1) should be obvious. You should probably get some idea of how many calories you need to eat just to maintain. There's a myriad of web sites out there that will attempt to estimate this. All of them are likely to be slightly wrong, but if you try many of them, and average them out, that should give you a pretty good idea.

(2) this should be more obvious, but is less so. You will NOT see results overnight. In fact, if you can consistently gain 1-2 lbs a week you will be doing very well. Life is NOT a weight gain fic. The closest thing to a real life weight gain fic is probably a cruise ship or all-inclusive vacation resort of some sort.

Big stuffings can be fun, but if that means you eat almost nothing the next day because you're nauseous or still too full, you would have wiped out any progress from the stuffing.

The key is consistency - consistently eating more. If that means eating not as much today, to be able to eat the same amount tomorrow, this is better than a big stuffing.

Other Advice

Don't try to eat the exact same thing every day. Even if it's technically the most economical. That will get boring quickly, and you will probably burn out - not fun.

Do try different food on occasion.

Do have fun. The more fun you have, the easier it is to keep going.

Do occasionally try to push yourself to eat more, but not until the point that you're sick every day, or worse.. throwing up. That overly full feeling, where most folks might think "I ate too much" is a pretty good target.

If you try to eat more, take small steps. One more slice of pizza, or just a few more nuggets or chicken strips. But avoid big leaps. If you tap out at 4 slices of pizza, don't suddenly try for 8 slices for the whole pizza.

Try small minor changes that might add calories. Maybe you'll like them, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll develop a taste for them. For example.. extra cheese on a sandwich or pizza, or slightly more mayo. Or cream and sugar in coffee (I don't like that combination but a lot of folks do).

You WILL have plateaus from time to time. Don't worry about it and just keep eating. I've actually noticed that often times it'll seem like nothing is happening and then suddenly, I notice an additional 2-4 lbs or so.

Do NOT go crazy with soda or anything that contains HFCS - that will mess you up bad and cause diabetes, which is NOT fun. And it's not even that high in calories.

Do NOT neglect vitamins - whether from vegetables, multivitamin pills, or even nutritional shakes (which can have lots of calories). You'll regret it if you do.

Heavy Cream

Lot of folks here will swear by heavy cream. It CAN work, if you use it properly.

Be consistent.

Don't try it on an empty stomach. It's best when combined or right after other food, often something carbo-loaded like bread.

You might find there's only so much dairy fat you can handle at one time. I can't tell you what that amount is, so you'd have to experiment. This amount you can handle might increase over time, but if you do, increase the amount each time slowly.

Do mix it with other things for taste. Do NOT mix it with anything that contains maltodextrin. That powdery stuff isn't that fun anyway, but even if you aren't bothered by that, I should note it's often used as a thickening agent and can cause dairy fat to clump, resulting in an extremely thick, undrinkable mixture.

That's all I can think of for now.

Bigdoug:
Happened to stumble across this. Very hot 🌋! As a fat man with a fat wife I can appreciate how my body has become more “feminine” over the years as I have gained weight. Although gaining weight has not made my wife more masculine, it has made our bodies more similar, almost like we are now a third gender “fat sexual”.

Amazingem:
I am glad you found something in it that resonated with you!

Personally I have always associated softness and jiggly flesh with femininity, but I understand what you mean.

Deadass427:
It started out as lactose intolerance, but now it feels like any high calorie, fatty food that I put into my body really messes me up

Munchies:
I've had vegan cheese before. It tastes like sad.

Letters And Numbers:
A lot of it’s fine, some of it’s good. Cashew based nut cheeses can be really tasty, especially when you treat them like a soft cheese with fruit and honey and stuff like that mixed in. Kinda heavy though and not the easiest on the stomach always.

Some of the potato starch based cheeses are more like American cheese, but pretty good American cheese and they melt well. Very much not bad.

Munchies:
The vegan cheeses where I live are either soy or olive oil based. Perhaps you live in an area where the pickings are better.

Letters And Numbers:
When you have a weird diet you develop a sixth sense for finding the weird stuff you like.

Cashew cheese you can make with a food processor, though. It’s literally cashews, water, and a pinch of salt. You can use it like a ricotta but it is heavy so a little goes a long way for some folks.

Deadass427:
It started out as lactose intolerance, but now it feels like any high calorie, fatty food that I put into my body really messes me up

Munchies:
I've had vegan cheese before. It tastes like sad.

Letters And Numbers:
A lot of it’s fine, some of it’s good. Cashew based nut cheeses can be really tasty, especially when you treat them like a soft cheese with fruit and honey and stuff like that mixed in. Kinda heavy though and not the easiest on the stomach always.

Some of the potato starch based cheeses are more like American cheese, but pretty good American cheese and they melt well. Very much not bad.