For someone who REALLY loves gaining, the downsides to gaining can be enjoyable. Not being able to fit in a seat can be quite a turn on. However, if anyone is at the point that they don't feel comfortable at, perhaps it is time to stop, at least temporarily. At that point, you'll either miss the gaining and start again, or not go back to it.

I preferred tall women. But very few of them would date someone their height or shorter. Short and fat is cute. Tall and thin can be cute. But short and thin is not my preference.

Some people just can't gain. Others have a hard time starting, and once they get going, can't stop. Just eat what you like, and eat a lot of it.

Usually dieting will slow the metabolism and cause her to gain more. If she is one of the 3% who loses weight and keeps it off, then you will have some tough decisions to make.

Mental health professionals used to call gay people mentally ill, and their goal was to cure it.