The fa and the shrink: did you ever tell?
anFAinPA wrote
How did my therapist react?
Well, he thinks that I've "settled" and that my attraction to fat women is a manifestation of my own low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, etc.
I argued this with him off an on for several sessions, and now I think he "gets it." It was when I used the gay/straight analogy, and asked him point blank that -A- have you ever had a gay patient? and -B- have you ever told him or her that their sexual preference is a manifestation of their own insecurity, etc?
His opinion of the subject is squashed, and now he's actually helping me figure out what to do, where to go...it's certainly a crossroads if my wife is repulsed by my preference after 10+ years of being enthralled with it. Luckily, we have no kids so if worse comes to worse, it's just us that have to manage.
How did my therapist react?
Well, he thinks that I've "settled" and that my attraction to fat women is a manifestation of my own low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, etc.
I argued this with him off an on for several sessions, and now I think he "gets it." It was when I used the gay/straight analogy, and asked him point blank that -A- have you ever had a gay patient? and -B- have you ever told him or her that their sexual preference is a manifestation of their own insecurity, etc?
His opinion of the subject is squashed, and now he's actually helping me figure out what to do, where to go...it's certainly a crossroads if my wife is repulsed by my preference after 10+ years of being enthralled with it. Luckily, we have no kids so if worse comes to worse, it's just us that have to manage.
That is exactly what i would be afraid of and part of me would probably belive what he said.
Congratulations on the way you handled it, very well done.
14 years
