MarieTrans:
I could tell it was a joke yea

X_Larsson:
To sum it up, the many interventions by moderators are that some people are "offended" by something, even if it is not personal attacks or denigrating statements?
Alternatively, shut down preventively by moderators before anyone complains?

So discussions are not really discussions, more of somewhat uniform flow of inputs, morally approved, in the "virtues" currently "in fashion" of more conformistic parts of the society? And avoiding to potentially "hurt someone" is consistently more important than discussing the topics? (There are clearly some people that should be more protected than others.)

It is good if the contents of these applied (but not always stated) rules are clear, which they obviously are not, by looking at the numbers of stopped discussions (as I referred to in my initial question).

Again, this is posted as I see that many discussions (that I not posted in) develop in very odd directions.

Munchies:
Who hurt you?

X_Larsson:
Haha, the oh so predictible ad hominem! I am not hurt, and I have posted one question, the same as now is posted by @Letters and numbers; "When a thread gets locked, say why."

I do not care about politics, and I have only had one topic of mine shut down (obviously without any stated reason).
But in the interest of retaining some dynamics and interaction, having clear examples and justification would be good.

MarieTrans:
My name is Marie and I'm trans, ta-da

M05Padding:
Are you sure? I think we need more context.

Munchies:
That's cringe of you.

M05Padding:
Me? No worries, she know I was joking. 😀

Thepiggygirls:
The way we combat this is by sitting in the shower 🤣 then you only have to worry about getting up once and don't have to stand the whole time!

MarieTrans:
My name is Marie and I'm trans, ta-da

M05Padding:
Are you sure? I think we need more context.

X_Larsson:
To sum it up, the many interventions by moderators are that some people are "offended" by something, even if it is not personal attacks or denigrating statements?
Alternatively, shut down preventively by moderators before anyone complains?

So discussions are not really discussions, more of somewhat uniform flow of inputs, morally approved, in the "virtues" currently "in fashion" of more conformistic parts of the society? And avoiding to potentially "hurt someone" is consistently more important than discussing the topics? (There are clearly some people that should be more protected than others.)

It is good if the contents of these applied (but not always stated) rules are clear, which they obviously are not, by looking at the numbers of stopped discussions (as I referred to in my initial question).

Again, this is posted as I see that many discussions (that I not posted in) develop in very odd directions.

Ligr77:
Currently trying to write a Dragonfable fanfic with some stuffing content in it! I'll post it on Tumblr first, but I'll post a link here if anyone's interested!

Munchies:
Not my fandom, but it could be fun. You could post it as a story if you wanted.

Ligr77:
I might have to take you up on that, too!

EDIT: Scratch that, I did!

fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

Ligr77:
Currently trying to write a Dragonfable fanfic with some stuffing content in it! I'll post it on Tumblr first, but I'll post a link here if anyone's interested!

Munchies:
There's a difference between teasing in love and teasing in disdain. For example, if I call my partner a "gluttonous fatty" it's a term of endearment. He knows I like that aspect of him, so he loves it when I say that to him.

However, if a rando on the street called him that, it wouldn't have the same connotation behind it.

In your situation, this guy was belittling you. It's clear he's fatphobic. And since he's also a client, he was probably on a power trip too. He sounds like he's fun at parties /s

Otacon0205:
Funny thing is that the guys is chubby himself, so I’m like, why are you judging?

Munchies:
There are a lot of bigger people with internalized fatphobia. I wouldn't be shocked if he was insecure about his size. So when he saw you, 40 or so pounds heavier, it was his time to shine.

You also see it a lot from people who are significantly bigger than the people they are fat shaming. The other side of the coin is when they are "concerned" about your wellbeing. There's usually some unsolicited advice mixed in.

You hate to see it.

Otacon0205:
For as much as I would not to, I am afraid is bound to happen. Too many rude people around that think you have to listen to their opinion. As they say, opinions are like an asshole, everybody has one. To counter that, whenever I meet a big person, I always make sure to treat them with the outmost respect and make them feel welcome and confident around me. I strongly believe we should stick together and change public perception.

Morbidly A Beast:
That’s so inappropriate at work and it kinda stinks that there’s no repercussions for behavior like that if it’s a client like what’s your boss gonna do drop him? Doubtful.

Otacon0205:
Exactly, given our dynamic at the time, he knew he could got away with it. Or generally I don’t think he realized how inappropriate what he said was. Some people are very oblivious about their fatphobia, they just think it’s the norm unfurtunately.
For this reason I always rejoice when I read that at least in the US we are getting fatter than ever as population every year with more than 40% being overweight, soon we will be the standard.