BromineMoon:
With obesity rates rising worldwide, does anyone else think that fat appreciation will become more commonplace?

CelticBlimp:
Sometimes I think what it would be like being taken by a feeder away from society, far from worries and responsibilities, far from struggle and drama. Just being happy together in a hedonistic life were only love and fattening exists, my body being engorged daily and swollen till only I can see an ocean of fat and my partner perched on top of me and living his dream as well.

BiggerestBelly:
Okay,

Surely after all the time FantasyFeeder has been around and all the time we've had to share and collaborate on gaining...

Surely, someone among us has found the most effective and palatable daily weight gain shake.

Boost? Heavy cream? A particular brand of mass gainer?

What daily supplement or shake recipe has ACTUALLY made a difference for you in your own gains?

Munchies:
Extreme feeder here. I've tried out a number of shakes with the feedees I've had. I don't use them anymore because I find food works so much better. Not only is food more cost effective, but it's easier to fatten up a feedee with delicious food long term. The shakes are better for short-term rapid gains.

BiggerestBelly:
I know regular food is better but I just so love chugging lol

Munchies:
It's not about the fetish. It's about the mentality. And if you don't find a healthy way to approach this situation, your marriage is over.

It's a tale as old as time.

Ninjaturtle94:
How would you suggest we move forward? What could a compromise look like? Or do you think gaining is not really in my cards

Munchies:
It's one of those "It takes two to tango" kinds of things. You both have to be willing to engage with this.

But I'd tackle this in a nonconfrontational way. Wait until you two are just hanging out. Say, "I've been thinking about our conversation about me gaining weight. Your concerns are important to me. However, gaining weight is something that's important to me too. Can we talk about ways for us navigate this?"

Marital counseling and sex therapy may need to be on the table as well.

Invite her to see the kinds of things you enjoy in this community. Show her an insider's perspective instead of an outsider's perspective.

But don't push her. Let her engage with these things at her own speed. Be open and honest with her in all things.

But most of all, be patient. Based on how she reacted, I suspect there's a lot more to this than even she has unpacked.

Ninjaturtle94:
I do feel like maybe she is holding something back. I’m not really sure what it is but I think there may be something else to it. I made sure to tell her I didn’t expect her to engage in it as far as feeding or really have any interest but it was just something I wanted to try

I have asked her before about touching my belly and love handles during sex and just in general and she was not for it and said it was weird and made her uncomfortable. So I figured I could maybe just enjoy this fetish by myself

Munchies:
You really don't. There are two major aspects of gaining - physical and mental. Most people focus on the physical, but it's the mental aspect that gets ya.

You are looking to engage in spiteful gaining. That is the most dangerous kind of gaining because it clouds your judgement. You've already shown signs of it too.

You chugged a quart of heavy cream before your wife could throw it away.

You planned on consuming excessive amounts of heavy cream and maltodextrin in secret specifically because your wife doesn't approve.

How long before you start stuffing your face whenever you two start fighting? How long before you start engaging in reckless, rapid gains specifically because it will piss off your wife?

Next thing you know, getting fat is all you'll care about to the detriment of everyone and everything else in your life.

Ninjaturtle94:
I honestly never would have thought that a sexual thrill could turn into something like that. I’m really not looking to piss her off I’ve just wanted to try it for a long time and if I do it and get it over with I can at least have the closure of trying it and then maybe I won’t want to do it again. Then I can just kinda lurk and see other
People do it

Munchies:
It's not about the fetish. It's about the mentality. And if you don't find a healthy way to approach this situation, your marriage is over.

It's a tale as old as time.

Ninjaturtle94:
How would you suggest we move forward? What could a compromise look like? Or do you think gaining is not really in my cards

Munchies:
You really don't. There are two major aspects of gaining - physical and mental. Most people focus on the physical, but it's the mental aspect that gets ya.

You are looking to engage in spiteful gaining. That is the most dangerous kind of gaining because it clouds your judgement. You've already shown signs of it too.

You chugged a quart of heavy cream before your wife could throw it away.

You planned on consuming excessive amounts of heavy cream and maltodextrin in secret specifically because your wife doesn't approve.

How long before you start stuffing your face whenever you two start fighting? How long before you start engaging in reckless, rapid gains specifically because it will piss off your wife?

Next thing you know, getting fat is all you'll care about to the detriment of everyone and everything else in your life.

Ninjaturtle94:
I honestly never would have thought that a sexual thrill could turn into something like that. I’m really not looking to piss her off I’ve just wanted to try it for a long time and if I do it and get it over with I can at least have the closure of trying it and then maybe I won’t want to do it again. Then I can just kinda lurk and see other
People do it

Belly Pot Pie:
Even if it was because of the war it’s not really prosecutable lol. War makes people sad and stressed. Sad and stressed people overeat.
Should be so easy to get out of that.

Munchies:
Okay, but how familiar are you with korean law? Or the laws of any country with mandatory conscription laws?

I can assure you that it is extremely prosecutorial in these countries. Especially since, you know, they did convict the guy. The issue wasn't that he was fat. The issue was that he got fat to avoid service.

Belly Pot Pie:
I’m familiar with US law to some extent and they have mandatory conscription laws.
I agree that it’s not surprising that it’s against the law to do that to avoid service. What I am surprised by is that they were able to prove intent.
That would be very difficult to do, unless he straight up confessed that as being the reason, which, if he did… was kind of stupid I guess.

Ninjaturtle94:
Also, when she read a post on Reddit about it she found a post of a girl saying her bf wanted to gain like 50 pounds or so and everyone was saying he was lying and that was just the start and told her he’s weird and to run.

My wife claims she hasn’t noticed me gain any weight. I have a muscular frame so maybe that helps idk.

Munchies:
Take Reddit advise with a grain of salt. Sometimes it's good. Sometimes it's bad. But it doesn't sound like you two have had a proper heart to heart. Like actually listening to each other and communicating effectively.

Ninjaturtle94:
We talked for a while last night but like you said I’m not sure how effective it was. She basically said no and there is no compromise. I don’t think that I would have a problem stopping once I start. But I’ve also never done it at this level before.

I exercise 4x a week and eat pretty healthy and get regular labs done. I feel like trying it out for December really isn’t that big of a deal but maybe I don’t fully grasp what I could be getting in to

Belly Pot Pie:
Even if it was because of the war it’s not really prosecutable lol. War makes people sad and stressed. Sad and stressed people overeat.
Should be so easy to get out of that.

Ninjaturtle94:
Also, when she read a post on Reddit about it she found a post of a girl saying her bf wanted to gain like 50 pounds or so and everyone was saying he was lying and that was just the start and told her he’s weird and to run.

My wife claims she hasn’t noticed me gain any weight. I have a muscular frame so maybe that helps idk.