Do you like to be fat in public ?

Glitter Jelly:
Maybe you're right, but I need to wear large sometimes and I do have a belly roll between my waistband and breasts which is quite noticeable when I bend over or squat.

Even when I was thin, my thighs and arms would draw attention to the fact I once was much bigger because they didn't skrink so much as became empty and saggy. With my breast (I suspect because of the elevated prolactin), my legs and upper arms were the first place that the fat went back to.

At my thinnest (90 lbs), I almost had a thigh gap, but I'm not sure people could see it. I just felt my thighs weren't rubbing anymore. Now they seem to rub even more than when I was 40+ heavier, and they touch almost down to my knees.

This not only makes me look out of proportion, it changed the way I walk because they get in the way of one another, if that makes sense. I've seen someone describe this as thighs "rolling" against each other.

Because of this I can't walk as fast as just 20 lbs ago, which I didn't expect to happen that quick.

I bet my fat % is close to what it used to be because when I was obese I was carrying all that weight around all the time so you have to have muscle. When I lost half my year in a little more than a year, I lost a lot of muscle too and I didn't get most of it back as I hate exercise.

I have years of trauma related to PE classes that I need to address with a therapist before I can start moving a little. Otherwise I have to bully myself into doing it, and the inner talk isn't healthy to say the least. It's probably the ED voice because even I wouldn't talk to myself this harshly.


Yeah, this is definitely the trauma and the ED talking. I know you are having hormone issues. But there are a lot of people outside of this community who find women like you attractive.

This, of course, does not excuse the perv being gross and creepy.

Still, I strongly recommend you speak to a therapist. I wish you nothing but the best on your healing journey.
8 months

Over the weight limit

Spoop Skerry:
I know I've said it on here before, but I managed to warp an army bed. I actually did damage to every bed I had in college through sheer weight.


Reminds me of when I got my partner to 450. He had this cheap metal bedframe for years since he was 19. When we met, he was on the upper end of what that bed could comfortable hold. But once he got to about 450, the legs started to buckle very noticably. So he had to bite the bullet and get a much sturdier bed.
8 months

Did anyone tried to get rid of this fetish?

Morbidly A Beast:
I feel like intensity comes and goes so often for me for this fetish, I am just a vanilla fat person a majority of the time but there’s some times where I’m completely head over heels and wanna be like 900 lbs as soon as possible and be stuffed to the rafters every meal

I’m not sure if a feeder has the same mentality or not, I don’t relate to that side of at all. Obviously our horny is a bit different than vanilla horny but I’m talking about extended periods of time


As a feeder, I can confirm that we do.

I'm a pretty kinky, horny person as a general rule of thumb. (Bless my poor partner, but it's a good problem to have.) But sometimes I have an extremely intense urge to feed someone.

This was more of a problem when I was single as I had no one to feed. Mind you, this is a different feeling that cooking for someone. What I wanted was the intimate, chaotic feeling when you personally feed someone by hand and feel the way their stomach expands under your hand. I turned to erotica writing to help express these pent up feelings.

Things are better with a feedee, but just because you are in the mood doesn't mean they are in the mood. And so you gotta find a healthy outlet.
8 months

First hand-fed snack?

JerichoXOXO:
If you're a feeder what was the first thing you hand-fed someone? If you're a feedee what was the first thing you were hand-fed? My fiancé and I agree mutual gaining is so cute even if we're not tryna dive deep just yet so the first thing I was hand-fed was chocolate chip cookies and the first thing I hand-fed them were Swiss rolls ♡

Munchies:
The first thing I ever hand-fed to someone was a rice crispy treat. I had ordered a browned butter rice crispy treat when I went with my feedee to a cafe. He'd never had one before and asked if he could try some.

So I, good feeder that I am, tore off a piece and popped it into his mouth in front of everyone. He got shy, so I tore him off a larger chunk and let him eat it himself.

10/10 will do again.

JerichoXOXO:
Omg yummmm rice crispy treats are so good! Very cute ♡


It was! Plus, these were made in-house at a mom-and-pop cafe daily. So you know they were hitting different.
9 months

First hand-fed snack?

JerichoXOXO:
If you're a feeder what was the first thing you hand-fed someone? If you're a feedee what was the first thing you were hand-fed? My fiancé and I agree mutual gaining is so cute even if we're not tryna dive deep just yet so the first thing I was hand-fed was chocolate chip cookies and the first thing I hand-fed them were Swiss rolls ♡


The first thing I ever hand-fed to someone was a rice crispy treat. I had ordered a browned butter rice crispy treat when I went with my feedee to a cafe. He'd never had one before and asked if he could try some.

So I, good feeder that I am, tore off a piece and popped it into his mouth in front of everyone. He got shy, so I tore him off a larger chunk and let him eat it himself.

10/10 will do again.
9 months

Do you like to be fat in public ?

Glitter Jelly:
Today I was in a shop where they sell small outdoor tables with chairs.

I don't know why, but I suddenly could swear the man who had been sitting there by himself had been staring at me, watching me while I shopped.

I discreetly glanced at him and, sure enough, the moment my eyes caught his gaze it confirmed my impression: he was looking back at me... and smiling.

Uncomfortable, I quickly walked to another aisle to get away from him.

I have tattoos and blue-purple hair, used to wear bold clothing when I was thin and confident so I'm used to people looking at me and either enjoyed it or didn't care.

That felt different... almost creepy?

I don't know what to think...

Maybe he was an FA and the clothes I was wearing made me look fat?

They were a little snug so maybe they didn't hide my small belly roll as well as I was hoping, but I don't think they were particularly ill fitting...


Pretty sure he was just a garden variety creep. No matter your size, shape, or outfit, there will always be pervs perving on you.

Also, as a side note, you do not need to be an FA to appreciate bigger bodies. I'd say most people who appreciate bigger bodies are not FAs. FA denotes having a kink/fetish. You don't need either of those to be attracted to bigger people.

Last thing of note, the way you describe yourself doesn't suggest you are a particularly large person. If anything, it sounds like you have an average body size. It just feels enormous to you because you got used to wearing extra smalls and smalls.
9 months

Love the ass hate the tits!

JerichoXOXO:
Any other nonbinary folk out there love their huge ass but just wish those pesky tits were gone? I'm a 36D/34DD and I feel like I'd be so much more content with my weight and happier to gain!


Good news is you can get them removed or reduced.
9 months

Anyone want to make their doctor mad?

Munchies:
Been working in the medical field since 2017 and grew up with medical professionals all my life. Imma pop your bubble a lil bit.

Yes, fatphobic doctors are a thing. However, in recent years, the medical industry is working on dismantling medical fatphobia as studies show it decreases patient level of care. And so unless your fatness is causing you major health issues, many of them will not comment on it much if at all.

It's also highly unlikely that your doctor has any kinds of feelings for you outside of finding your pleasant or not. (Fun fact! Your doctor will notate on your medical records if your a nice patient to deal with.) You are more than likely one of several fat men she cares for. She also will probably not risk her medical license do to anything with you for kink purposes.

I do find it curious that you want to mess up your health enough to cause your doctor concern. Because that never ends well for the patient. Unless you are aroused by blood tests, pills, and medical expenses on top of the general pain that comes from high blood pressure.

But you do you, boo ~

Gbutts85:
Thank you for the reply. I appreciate your concern from a medical standpoint. I guess I was approaching the situation from a fantasy standpoint vs firm reality. To be fair, I’m already 395 lbs and have high blood pressure and mild-moderate sleep apnea. No other weight related ailments to speak of. Adding a bit more is probably not going to complicate those too much. I also know that realistically I’ll need to lose some weight to be around for my kids as they grow up.


If all you have at 395 is high blood pressure and mild sleep apnea, then that makes sense that your doctor isn't super worried. Both of these things are straightforward to fix for the most part. This is especially true if your labs look good.

In other words, while you may not be in the best of health, you are doing pretty good for your size and age.
9 months

Did anyone tried to get rid of this fetish?

Munchies:
It's all about finding your balance. Don't get me wrong, we still enjoy stuffing him, but there are also other things we enjoy as well.

For example, instead of stuffing him when he isn't in the mood to be stuffed, I might hand feed him something instead. One time while we were cuddling, I fed him a fancy chocolate bar. Another time, when we were in a cafe, I fed him something from my plate he had never tried before.

Kacchan:
Feeder Foreplay for the win!!!


When you are in a romantic relationship with your feedee, sometimes intimacy feels better than going feral. And sometimes you're cheeky and hand feed your feedee in a public restaurant. I live in the South. All people will think is that I am a really sweet girlfriend who loves her man very much.
9 months

Anyone want to make their doctor mad?

Gbutts85:
I have a very specific desire. I want to make my primary care doctor mad/concerned with the amount of weight I've gained. To date, she has never seriously addressed my weight. At 395 lbs this is odd, of course. Perhaps she is a closeted FA?

How much do you suppose I'll need to gain in the next 3-4 weeks before my next follow up for my blood pressure/other random health issues? Thinking if I weigh in around 420/425 that should do the trick. Would be my highest ever recorded weight!


Been working in the medical field since 2017 and grew up with medical professionals all my life. Imma pop your bubble a lil bit.

Yes, fatphobic doctors are a thing. However, in recent years, the medical industry is working on dismantling medical fatphobia as studies show it decreases patient level of care. And so unless your fatness is causing you major health issues, many of them will not comment on it much if at all.

It's also highly unlikely that your doctor has any kinds of feelings for you outside of finding your pleasant or not. (Fun fact! Your doctor will notate on your medical records if your a nice patient to deal with.) You are more than likely one of several fat men she cares for. She also will probably not risk her medical license do to anything with you for kink purposes.

I do find it curious that you want to mess up your health enough to cause your doctor concern. Because that never ends well for the patient. Unless you are aroused by blood tests, pills, and medical expenses on top of the general pain that comes from high blood pressure.

But you do you, boo ~
9 months