Angiefoodcake:
I thought me and my sister are getting along just fine. But I guess not.
Today we went to the casino buffet for my birthday. It was fine and dandy until my siblings were bullying me. Such as taking photos of me even though I didn't want any pictures. They intentionally were laughing at me and my brother showed a zoomed up photo of my face.
The worst part is my sister called me fat. (like in a negative way) I know it's a joke, but deep inside I was sad. What triggered that comment was when I asked my siblings don't they get full after eating multiple plates since I do anyways. My sister says she does exercise and isn't a big eater.
My dad didn't even stood up for me. Well, he kind of did when he told them to stop taking pictures. But it seems like his head was in the clouds. He only got upset when my sister wanted to go to the giftshop and I guess he felt we forgotten him when he was at the nearby coffee bar. Note he hates getting abonded. But I thought we told him that? Besides, the gift shop is very close.
It wasn't a good day. Didn't end well either when there was a motorcycle accident on the freeway and we had to wait half an hour. Which wasted gas.
I guess some people are going to get mad at me. But I needed to vent this out.
In the absence of having someone advocate for you, you'll have to advocate for yourself. Tell your sisters how you feel. For example, "Please don't do/say x,y,z. I feel like when you do/say that, you hate me for some reason. I know you love me, but when you do/say x,y,z, I want to cry."
If this doesn't work, the next step is to make them feel uncomfortable for doing that. And there are a lot of ways to go about doing this. Examples include:
Staring blankly into their eyes for an uncomfortable amount of time.
Point out something that they feel insecure about in the same manner they talked about your weight.
Make a snappy comeback like, "I might be fat, but at least I'm not so miserable I have to belittle others just to feel something."
Act as if you can hear them but not see them. Eventually, bump into them and say, "Oh, there you are! You're so small that I didn't see you there. You should probably do something about that."