Fascinating article. So all animals are getting fatter, meaning none of our dominant explanations of fat are correct. Yippee! All by itself that's fun.

But even better, if everyone is getting fatter all the times, maybe FAs will have their pick of partners someday soon. Sadly, the research is only US based, so it's hard to know if the same is true in other countries, but I bet we'll see studies soon...

I hope you get a chance to join us, double J--it's been fun the first two times, no doubt.

@computersaysno--I'll write you a special hall pass so you can get in. And happy very early birthday!

For those of you who are curious, both Sundays have been quite fun, with a range of people coming and going. It's much easier for first time chatters than the main room is when it's busy, so it's a good place to get acclimated, too. Please do come along if you have any inclination to check it out!

Today, I went to my 'who's looked at me' page, which I do only occasionally. (It's part of the dating package.) Turns out lots of people are checking out other people's profiles, which is interesting. But every single person I looked at had empty profiles.

So I systematically looked at people who had looked at my dating ad, since I assume that means they're interested in more information (and not simply that they are considering me as a dating possibility). And *every one* was empty. No forum posts. No dating ad. No pics. No vids. No stories. Occasionally, a coupla shoutbox posts or comments, but mostly not.

To those of you whose profiles are empty--can you help me understand why? When I see an empty profile, I assume it's disinterest, and probably that the person is a lurker, just interested in 'getting off' here without a partner knowing, without risking involvement. But is that right? Or am I maligning some of you without reason?

Help?

I totally agree with Rose and Dankii. I was in my forties before it happened. Or rather, I was in my forties before I was with an OUT FA. Big difference. And the joy he took in my body was a whole new experience.

That first time was extraordinary--in some ways more significant than losing my virginity. It's a shame we weren't able to repeat that night (you know who you are!). But it made me realise I want nothing less. And that's pretty great.

Unfortunately, I think such threads often turn out to be hurtful where it isn't intended. Most of us on this planet have very fragile egos, and maybe we here disproportionately so, because of how some of us are treated in the world at large.

Can I ask that people not take other's preferences as judgements on ourselves? I will be too small for some, too fat for others, too short for still others, too hairy, too much belly, not enough breast, and on and on. But that's just taste. I can live with that (some days better than others).

So--posters, be kind, and please DON'T talk about what you don't like. And readers, be thick-skinned, and remember, there are lots of us who think you're gorgeous, whoever you are.

I am not going to be a cheery voice, so if you're looking for encouraging feedback, skip this.

I've been married to the same fabulous, wonderful guy for almost 25 years. We share an amazing young adult daughter, and we are totally connected to each other's work and lives. But we live apart. And one of the main reasons is that we couldn't make the sex work.

I was just very honest. I told him I love him utterly, but I need to know what sex with someone who shares my desires is like. I don't know how the story ends, and it isn't the only problem between us, though it is probably the biggest one that remains.

The long and the short of it is, maaaaaaany people think they can make sexless relationships last, but it is a recipe for disaster, in my opinion. Of course you shouldn't do anything hasty, but don't bank on it being ok for either of you over the long haul, either, unless something changes.

I used to end every binge with either a litre of milk or custard. One night someone dared me to try a second litre of milk. I had the only experience of projectile vomiting in my life.

But I was fine after that. And I just avoided milk for a while, lol.

I think there are two important issues here:

1. I think that controversy starts if the original poster says something that is consciously or unconsciously hurtful to others here.

2. I think sometimes people express preferences in unfortunate ways. It's one thing to say 'I really love watching a slender young woman sprout a little belly' vs. 'I don't really like dating fat girls.' It's all in the execution.

Not everyone is going to be super-careful about what they say, so sometimes things are going to flare up.

@OP: In general, threads having to do with paysites or their models in any way are discouraged, and they are most often trashed. It is free advertising, and it is unfair to all the other models who are not allowed to advertise freely. You can always ask privately in chat or PM friends on the site, where it isn't in the public view.

Hee hee. I like that thought. Well, not the I'm-so-stupid-I-missed-it part, but the it's-been-happening-all-along part!