Just don't make it about sex.

"I like the way I look and I would rather focus on my career/hobbies than worry about changing my weight. People of any size deserve respect and if it's health you're concerned about, thin people can be unhealthy too you know. Do you also raise your health concerns up with drinkers and smokers you know?"

Or, "I love my partner no matter what and yes, that means I love them at their current size. They're not interested in trying fad diets which by the way, are unsustainable and most of the time unhealthy anyway. They're a beautiful person inside and out and if you care about me you'll embrace them and be happy for me."

Lay it out objectively and stand. Your. Ground.

Oh, absolutely, agreed on all parts. And diet companies rely on keeping people fat and unhappy so we'll keep buying their crappy products and services that don't work.

In this essay I'm gonna pick apart why sizeism is a classist issue and how capitalism created and benefits from fatphobia, along with some other unsettling things.

So we've got the reubenesque era. What's up with that? A long time ago, it was fashionable to be fat. It meant you were either well-moneyed or well taken care of and you didn't have to work.

Enter capitalism. Alright. Your man works a 40 hour workweek and your lady stays home and takes care of the children. Nothing wrong there, ol boy is making enough money to feed everyone and keep the house. Oh, whoops, we went to war. Women started working in their husbands absence. This is good so far.

Roaring twenties. Women don't want to let go of their independence. Good. Flapper era! Yay! Except not. Because this is when thinness started being a trend for women because it was a sign of youthfulness. (Yikes can you say pedophilia?) Cigarette companies begin learning how to market and market themselves as a weight loss strategy for women. Anyone remember that Lucky Strike ad that says "reach for a Lucky instead of a snack"?

Big advertising has figured it out, by the 80s we have the aerobics kick. Thin is in at this point and fatphobia is digging its gross little nails into everything. Fen-fen starts being a thing (the diet pill). Fen-fen gets banned by the FDA for causing heart failure. Fast forward some more. You and your spouse both have to work full time because the wage has stagnated and everything else has inflated. You have no time to exercise and the easiest option for dinner is fast food because everyone in the house is too tired to cook.

And diet companies are still here ready to rescue you. Cool sculpting. Skinny tea. Keto. (Which by the way was developed for epileptic people.)

TLDR: Actually, fat is lovely. It has always been a sign of beauty and prosperity. Big business has just tricked most people into thinking they have to lose weight because companies can make a lot of money on weight loss products that don't work. Thinness is only considered attractive because it's expensive now.

Discuss?

I think it's important for feeders to examine their motivations for wanting to "keep their weight under control" in this kink. If you (a feeder) and your partner (a feedee) genuinely love the contrast, great! If they genuinely want you to be fit for them while they get fatter, also great! But if you're begrudgingly forcing yourself to stay thin because of societal expectations or internalized fatphobia it may be time to examine why society and the diet industry feel like you owe them the debt of thinness. You think fat is beautiful, right? If so, what's wrong with being ever so slightly soft?

Generally speaking, even if you and your feedee have an agreement where they want to blow up for you, any incidental weight gain on your part will probably be insignificant. But if you've examined your motivations and are still concerned about gaining, either for agreed upon aesthetic reasons or for maintaining strength as they get bigger and possibly less able to do things:

1. Keep both healthy and indulgent food in the house. That way they can load up on calorie-heavy food and you can eat with them but fill up on fruits, veg, healthy carbs like brown rice and whole grains, lean protein, and healthy fats like nuts and avocados. And feed them some healthy food too, maybe dressed up with buttery cream sauces so they get their calories in but lbh there's nothing sexy about vitamin deficiency.

2. Maintain a regimen of daily activity. This can be anything from a 20 minute walk every day to some lifting. And if it's just a light walk honestly take them with you if they want to retain their mobility. A walk is also a great opportunity to talk about whatever is on your mind, your relationship, and the future.

3. For the love of god don't work a desk job. It's menial, it's boring, you sit on your ass all day and burn less calories than if you were sleeping. And you can make more money as a bartender and also be working on those sick guns hauling kegs of beer all day.

I'm usually the same way...which is why I wanted to reinvent the trope. Instead of "impersonal and dominating FA running a farm to fatten up feedees who will be known mostly through statistics and body descriptions" I want to be like "Hi, here's four feedees who end up at this camp and become best friends for life. One of them is a longtime feeder and his partner/feedee just came out as a switch so he's gonna try to put on some weight for her. One is on the run from the law and just trying to distance himself from his mugshot, but falls in love with the kink. One is a cocky celebrity gainer who's going to learn the meaning of friendship and solidarity. And one didn't really read the pamphlet but he's gonna have a good time anyway."

Featuring supporting mentors and on-site classes such as cooking, hunting, and golf; blackjack and darts in the rec room, characters dealing with and overcoming troubled pasts, vices, and personal flaws, and maybe a cute hurt/comfort plot where the career criminal falls for a sweet chubby on-site nurse.

In stories about characters going to a school/camp/other social setting meant to fatten up its residents?

I know there are a lot of these but do people like reading them?

I have an idea for one but I want to see if anyone will want to read it.

I'm on the spectrum. People thought I was "smart" in grades k-12 because I was really good at taking tests but I was always the "weird kid" that was too obsessed with fandoms and other weird stuff that only I liked, including eventually feedism. I hated noise, always had to be listening to music, and had trouble talking to people. If I seem sociable online it's only because you can't see me fail to respond to cues or get sarcasm.

I'm not that subby but there are times when I fantasize about servitude to an increasingly lazy and bossy feedee. As he gets fatter and more spoiled he would have me do all the house work and cooking and always have me feed him by hand so he doesn't even have to lift a finger. I would dress skimpy for his viewing pleasure (if he even let's me wear clothes) and at any time he could make me come to bed so he could use me as his fuck toy, or squash and asphyxiate me with his weight to make me feel vulnerable.

(As it is, the guy I'm with is pretty submissive so he likes me to be the rough one and pretend like I'm gonna stuff him past his limit--even though he knows I would never. But I can pretend to put my bossy bitch boots on to get him off. But he's into the squashing thing.)

I had an idea that I would love to see written:

Characters A And B are best friends, and both feeders. A is the forceful type: enjoys calling their feedee names like pig and slob, smacking their belly when it's full, funnel feeding, force feeding, having a "fake" safe word that they can ignore so they can pretend they're pushing their feedee past their limit until said feedee says the real safeword, etc.

B is much more gentle. More of an FA than a feeder. Likes fat people but is really more into the cuddling and love making than the feeding. Will sometimes nudge a bite of food into their partners mouth but prefers to watch them eat. Likes to gently undress them and kiss their tummy a lot and praise them for being thick and sexy.

Enter C, the feedee, who starts seeing both of them casually and struggles to decide which approach they prefer...

If you want to increase your capacity, try bloating with Gatorade or something else that's electrolyte-balanced. Train gradually--you don't want to make yourself sick. If all you can handle at first is a half liter, then just stop there, practice that for like a week, and then increase your intake a little bit every week. Eventually your stomach capacity will increase.

If gaining is your goal, you don't necessarily have to stuff yourself. From what I've heard and read, grazing on little snacks all day is more efficient for putting on weight anyway. If you eat a bunch at once your body will probably "discard" what you don't need as waste, but if you just stay eating all day but don't tax yourself you're more likely to store those calories a bit at a time and you'll be chubby in no time.

If you want to make yourself hungrier so you can eat more, delay breakfast as much as you can. This has the added effect of tricking your body into thinking food is scarce so you'll store more fat.

And If you just want to see your belly bigger in a short timeframe but can't eat enough for it to make a satisfying difference before you start to feel sick...have you considered air inflation through the other end?