Have you consulted anyone medically or therapeutically qualified, whether doctor, physio, chiropractor, etc? Do you know it is definitely the weight of your belly causing this? It could be you have an underlying back condition or other skeletal/muscular complaint, whether exacerbated by your weight or entirely unrelated. I would seriously advise seeking properly qualified advice.

Try not to accept "it's because you're overweight" as an answer because conventional medicine will always try to blame that first without even looking into the underlying problem.

I have found focussed core work, Pilates, and chiropractic all helpful for muscular/skeletal/back/neck/spinal issues but you really need someone who knows what they're talking about to diagnose it properly.

Great pics!! Softgirl I applaud that guy who's giving you a piggyback! Gee, does he, like, work out?! And is that Upupandaway? Cool that a few new people made it along. Sorry I couldn't come, looks like a good one!

Voluptuouslover has some excellent ideas but if you want to try skipping, go for it - it's deceptively hardcore although it looks easy. There's a reason why boxers who need to be super fit do it!

You need a proper plastic, weighted skipping rope from a sports shop (basic ones are cheap, like £3.00 -www.decathlon.co.uk/F-10905-skipping-ropes), not a rope/string type kids' one. They spin better and you won't be struggling to make it fly round.

Skipping should be one jump per revolution, not (as we girls did at school) a slow turn of the rope with a little extra jumpy hop in between each revolution. Here's how to do it:

If you can do a minute of basic skipping (no fancy footwork or knees-up business, just jumping rope) without stopping that's pretty amazing. It would be a really quick and easy way to measure your decreasing fitness.

You'll find that as you get less fit you make more mistakes and trip over the rope, because you just don't have the energy to make a big enough jump or fast enough to keep up with the spin of the rope.

I was amazed after not exercising for a while and putting on a bit of weight how quickly I lost the ability to do 100 skips in a row without messing it up.

Also as an extra bonus it really makes any extra weight jiggle noticeably and you get out of breath really fast (I'm assuming that would be fun for you and your feeder ).

Have fun!

This is just for fun:

makeovr.com/weightmirror/

Doesn't really allow you to morph yourself really fat though

I agree with Jules. No need to come right out and label it your fetish. Tell her she's hot. Tell her she's gorgeous. Make it clear you fancy her. She'll get the idea - that you generally like the way she looks now.

If you want to feed her in a sexual way, you can introduce that idea without having to explain it goes along with a fetish. Lots of people think that food is sexy - try it first with something that "vanilla" people might do, like strawberries dipped in chocolate, or indulgent food you bought her as a gift, and see if she enjoys it. Or just get up earlier than her and make her waffles or pancakes smothered in butter and syrup and bring them back to bed, have breakfast in bed, and have sex straight after, caressing her full tummy. From there you can maybe start merging the two the next time, make it a domination thing, tell her she has to eat it ALL up or there'll be consequences.

I'm not sure an announcement is the right way to go - just act like you enjoy her figure (that should be easy), give her compliments, every time you have food together, spoon her a mouthful of yours telling her how delicious it is.

After all, you're saying this is a new thing for you too - why not wait and see how you enjoy things like this first. You never know, it could be a passing thing - or the way you feel about weight might be specific to her. You might just really like the way she looks right now rather than every chubby woman...?

(Sorry, I'm not trying to patronise you, I'm sure if you say you have a fetish then you do, but y'know, people do get super into stuff and then go off it sometimes. Every time I fall in love with (say) a thin man, a fat man, a man with a beard, an angular man, a toned man, a tanned man, a pale man... I think I LOVE that thing... but usually it turns out I just like THEM not beards/fatness/angularity etc in general. If that makes sense. And the next person I fall in love with is completely different. Sorry if you're 100% sure fat/weight gain/feederism is your thing - it just seemed from the way you were telling it that you were only recently discovering all this stuff - which is cool and amazing if you are).

Good luck, have fun

Firstly, high-five to a fellow Brit. Secondly, double-bass players are cool. And thirdly, his posts are beautifully expressed and that always makes me happy.

You expressed this utterly brilliantly! Sexy

hehe

Are you actually trying to tell us that your job is something to do with parallel universes or alternate realities? Cos it's possible this is the wrong thread on the wrong site otherwise... :$

I think this might have been noticed a few years ago when people were discussing having a badge or pin to show you were an FF member so we could identify each other out in the real world! And someone said that it wouldn't be awkward if someone not from FF noticed it, because you could always claim you were a Foo Fighters fan... lol. I do have a general daydream that Dave Grohl is an FA, but that's another story.

I heart Dave.

There's a slightly updated BMI calculator out:

www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/9816596/Interactive-calculator-do-you-win-or-lose-with-the-new-BMI.html

Sadly it means my bmi has gone from 35.8 to 35.3 overnight!