Glitter Jelly:
Just found this post (see page 1) from not that long ago... Haven't been able to lose any weight since then... Now some of size M clothes are getting tight, so I bought a few size L which I seen to reach for most days because I feel less self conscious in them.

It's a vicious circle that I can't seem to get out of, and I regret getting rid of most of my "fat clothes" as I lost weight.

It's like I thought I'd stay thin forever, against all odds and statistics. After a few years of maintaining a much lower weight (BMI around 22, when it used to be well over 30), I had convinced myself I was the exception to the rule. I'm not, and it's a brutal realization.

Waiting for an investigation in endocrinology because some of my hormones (prolactin especially) are at abnormal values. I hope they find what's wrong and it can be fixed, but I'm worried they'll conclude "nothing" is wrong with me and I'll have to accept the fact that I'll always be fat.

Letters And Numbers:
Remember kids, don’t give money to strangers online.

TwinTums:
. Thanks for the advice, but we’re not looking for money

Letters And Numbers:
If you’re asking for gifts or food in a public space, that’s against the solicitation rules of the site.

TwinTums:
We’re not asking for food or money, we’re looking for a serious feeder.

Glitter Jelly:
I'll try but I don't know how to bring up the subject without it being a little ackward...

I already told him that I've always hated my own loose skin (saggy breasts, arms and thighs) but I realized by touching him that the skin on these parts of his body are so much softer (and extra sensitive).

That out bodies are beautiful with their "scars of war" (not just because of the weight issue, on top of both being late diagnosed autistic and ADHD, we've always struggled with our mental health).

DjBerger:
Pretty much only listen to music pre 2000’s. I have music from the 40’s-90’s.

From classical to heavy metal to hard core rap and EDM.

PurpleJade:
How does one twerk for sport? I’ve been doing it recreationally for years. Looking to get sponsored.

Letters And Numbers:
You need at least one qualifying club night.

Glitter Jelly:
My boyfriend (who probably weights less than I do right now) used to be over 200 lbs back when he drank and still has a small doughy belly and cute moobs.

He'll often say "I feel fat..." while grabbing his muffin top shamefully or ask "Am I disgusting?" whenever he's shirtless (unless I ask him to take it off he'll usually keep his top on while we're making love).

I find it heartbreaking that he would think that... I reply: "I love all of your body just the way it is and would have felt the same way if I had met you when you were bigger. My own body isn't perfect, we both have loose skin, that's a consequence of losing a lot of weight."

He knows I'm also into girls and, although he identifies as a cis-het male, he has a strong feminine side to him and isn't ashamed of it. I've told him many times I love how his long curly hair and small breasts make him looks androgynous, even more so when I don't have my glasses on (I have very severe myopia).

How I wish I had met him years ago when he was fat (minus the alcoholism... he says he used to drink so much beer he could gain 30 lbs in a month from all the sugar and extra calories) and how I fantasize about going away for a while and coming back to a much fatter version of him, like in the pictures he showed me.

During lovemaking, I think of these and how it would be like if he regained the weight. How winded and sweaty he would be, how heavy his body would feel on me, his belly fat brushing against my own...

This makes me orgasm so hard!

Knowing how self conscious he feels about these body parts, I try my best to resist the urge to touch his drooping belly or moobs during missionary... but it's hard and sometimes my hands will "slip" and catch a glimpse of exquisite softness...

The rest of the time, I grab his butt (which he obviously enjoys), love handles (if he notices he doesn't seem to mind) or the fat on my own belly or thighs (ugh) to trick my brain into thinking I'm touching HIS fat, but it doesn't work as well.

I wish I could tell him how I really felt, but although he says he doesn't mind my recent weight gain (all his former girlfriends were larger than me) and sincerely thinks I looked just as pretty at my heaviest (he's seen pictures), he's made it pretty clear he disliked being fat and feels much better in a thinner body.

(To be continued at a later date.)

Weapsep:
After reading about weight gain, i hear a lot about set point theory, how the body naturally gets used to a certain amount of fat and will do try to keep you above/around that weigh, even with effort. Gaining weight increases the set point, but can that point be made to go lower instead? Are there any studies that talk about this?

MariRadha:
For paraphilias this might work:
- retraining in a fetish you both like. Replacing one with a new one
- sexual transmutation techniques from yoga were you sublimate your desires and only have sex with your gf
-if all else fails SSRI and other meds lower libido and lower paraphilia urges

Munchies:
Here's a fun fact. Your lower stomach - specifically the space between your navel and your mons - is an erogenous zone. Try teasing and massaging that area on a stuffed belly. It'll feel amazing.

Effervescentfetish:
Wait what does everyone have that? I thought it was just me XD

Curiouslyafeedee:
Oh wow! Definitely not alone thenn...

Munchies:
Here's another fun fact for you:

Fat people have more nerve ending than slimmer people. This is because they have more mass and thus need more nerve endings to feel things.

And so, if you have a lot of fat around this erogenous zone, you'll also have more nerve endings. This is why some people can come just by playing with their belly.

If that's not something you can do, don't worry. Nothing is wrong with you. Some people just need more stimulation.

Glitter Jelly:
Does that mean new nerves grow? I would have thought the ones already there just ... I guessed, spread to the larger area?

Warriorfeedernyc:
ok why are you so locked on me do you like me or somethin. I have found someone already I just went out with them this morning for breakfast in times square we had a amazing breakfast.

I use my VR Headset to meet people so in my area. I created a kink friendly world or a meetup spot as you will in Vr so people with kinks could meet each other and join or meetup. Over the summer I had a lot of time and thats what I choose to do with it. Believe me or not you probably won't but. It's the truth.

Munchies:
Hun, we are too similar for anything to work between us.

But your response proves my point. Slow down and take your time. Just yesterday you were complaining you didn't have anyone. Today you say you found someone. So what was even the point of complaining?

Still, I wish you well.

Warriorfeedernyc:
Ok just because I said something doesn't mean I'm complaining. But you could just not reply and stop bragging about why you have no progression. If you ever thought even for the slightest that you could expand your horzion on other platforms you should give it a try.