People are too impatient. Eat fun things that taste good, and let nature takes its course. People can generally only get so big, so the faster they gain, the less time they have to enjoy good food.

Tell her jokingly you want her to gain weight. If she freaks out, you can always tell her that you were kidding, but then tell her you want her to stay the same. Even if she doesn't try to gain weight, knowing that you like large women may cause her to relax and put on some weight.

In another thread, it was mentioned that people wanted a particular look or style, and didn't like gaining beyond that style.

But for those who are gaining on purpose, espeically those with high goals, isn't the goal to dress as a fat person? Fat people wear stretchy pants, oversized tops, and muumuus because they are the main type of clothes that fit and feel comfortable.

Jeans are uncomfortable when the belly changes shape and size between sitting and standing. Pants are hard to wear when the belly droops to the knees.

That is very true. I knew one woman who was a little over 200 who was obsessed with being under 150. I lost contact with her. When I heard from her again, she had been close to 400 pounds. Of course, she is dieting again, and went down to 250, and back up to 300. She joined WW again, and swears "this time I will keep it off." I hope I don't lose contact with her when she hits 500.

You better give it back. He may need it.