I've pretty much always been skinny. I was a little chubby as an early teen. But, then I got sick and diagnosed with Crohn's Disease. I've been pretty much underweight since then. Except for small bits of time here and there being on medications that caused weight gain. But that was lost once I stopped. Recently however I have actually been trying to gain. I started at about 145 and am not about 185-190ish. I hope to keep going and catch up to my wife who is a beautiful 300ish lbs.

Even though I am starting to gain. I have noticed that I feel I have such a long way to go before I will feel fat, or even really look fat. I started gaining at about 145-150lbs so just normal, if even a little under weight. I have actually gained about 40ish lbs so far. But, my wife is a bit over the 300lb mark. So even when I think I gained and can notice it. Which I do notice. The second I see her or am near her and see how much her belly just dwarfs mine. I then feel like I have so so far to go. Nothing against my wife. Of course I love her size and she is happy with all this and me gaining too. I just can't wait to catch up to her and I don't think I will feel or think of myself as "Fat" until I catch up to her. Or at the very least get close and the difference isnt as noticable.

Well damn, my wife and I just moved out of CT a few months ago. We lived in Litchfield county also. We are both mutual gainers. Well, I'm more so trying to catch up to her for now. Anyway, we do head back to CT from time to time. It's always nice to find people of similar interests to talk to.

I tried coconut oil back in the day. I switched to heavy cream. While it has the calories and everything. It can still be tough to digest. I thought to try it as I am a bit lactose intolerant. Only to find out that heavy cream has barely any lactose at all. I also am not a fan of the flavor of coconut. If you can use it in cooking or take smaller amounts throughout the day that should make it easier to digest. Best of luck!

Oh, and to add another thing about people who worry "what others think". The vast majority of people are thinking just like you. "What will others think" meaning they aren't thinking of you or your weight gain or whatever. They are thinking about themselves. We are all basically self-centered. Which of course makes sense, because it's our brains thinking. We get all hung up on what others will think, when in reality they aren't thinking about others, they are thinking about themselves too.

Very interesting! and yeah you're right! It does seem mutual gaining is quite rare. You all have definitely given us a lot to think about! Thank you for the response!

I was in a similar situation for years. Like most people here the idea of gaining was something I really wanted. But, I just couldn't go thru with it. Even the one time I kinda did, I shortly after lost it all. First, it seems you have many years ahead of you. I am now just into my 40s and have finally am really going thru with gaining. Family have commented. But, not only was I normally underweight, but I have been on medications that cause weight gain. At this point in my life, I do not care what others think of me. I am happily married and old, lol. But, I do say to my family that my weight change is from medication, just so I don't have to hear it over and over again. As many have said, if you can't get past that point, keep it a fantasy for now. Later on when you are older and have settled down a bit, then give it a try. Best of luck!

Thank you! That does seem like a good idea to give it a try and get a little bit of variety and see what works. And yeah, it doesn't have to be like earning a living, just a little extra to cover some food costs. I really appreciate the reply!

Yay you replied! I knew you of all people would know all there is to know. I've tried to become an apprentice and read all your posts to obviously help in my own weight gain journey. As my wife seems to do so well on her own, lol. Thank you so much for all your knowledge and sharing it so often!

My goal is to catch up to my wife. Which I have a long way to go. Me not even 200lbs yet and her 300lbs. But, once I get there I think I will be fine to just enjoy and live like that for a while. At least that's the plan. To at least get a few years of living life fat. If I lose naturally after that, then ok. If I don't then ok too. Maybe we will both like it and want to gain a little more together. I can't imagine us going any farther than 350 as we both enjoy certain activities and things. But who knows? I know at least I will have fulfilled my life long dream of experiencing what it's like to be fat.