I think this depends on how important it is to you, compared to other factors, that you find a partner who is just as into feederism as you are. If you're looking for a life partner who you'll enjoy being around outside of the context of kink in the long term, you shouldn't pigeonhole yourself by looking at sites and events catered specifically towards feederism or fat admiration.

Even if finding a relationship involving feederism is important to you, this is something you and a potential partner can discuss once you've gotten to know each other better. It's even possible that this is a lifestyle they could discover they enjoy, despite having never been introduced to it before, or that they have a neutral but accommodating attitude to this kink.

I don't have the ethos to back up my suggestion, as I'm still on the search myself, but I'd suggest just downloading a dating app and trying to make a connection there first. If you find someone you really click with, a discussion about each other's sexual interests will come up eventually.

I hope you don't mind me asking, but why did you lose the weight in the first place? A hundred pounds in a year is about 2 pounds a week for 52 weeks, which is at the upper end of a healthy rate of loss from what I understand.

This is something I'm often curious about as well. I suspect the answer is that most people in long-term feeder/feedee relationships met outside of dedicated communities like this one and instead just made a connection with one another where the kink came up later.

That's just based on my observation of anecdotal evidence, though.

ljrockarts and Blimp Bizkit gave awesome answers.

As has been stated, finding a partner who is a delight to be around even outside the bedroom should probably be your first priority. However, I do think that I have an easier time saying this because ethical non-monogamy has been a good match for me. When I came out as a feeder to the person whom I now consider my life partner, they accepted my tastes non-judgementally--which was an immense relief, as I, like you, agonized about rejection as a result of this confession.

In the end, they said they weren't interested in the kink for varying reasons, and this was disappointing, but easier to accept because I knew that they weren't my only chance to find a feedee. Ultimately, my relationship with them has flourished despite not sharing this kink because we connect in other ways. In addition, that they know that I have this kink and are still accepting of me makes me feel like I have a place in this world.

There's something immensely liberating about being seen for what I am and loved regardless of the things about which I have agonized and even hated myself for. I can count on one hand the number of people I know IRL who know I have this kink, and my partner is one of them--they might even be the only one, if I remember correctly. But that there is at least one person who doesn't judge me for my kink is helping me build the confidence to tell future partners as I continue dating.

My perspective might be niche, as ENM isn't exactly widely practiced, but I think the takeaway is this:

If you have a genuine connection to someone, and if part of why you love each other is because you both have been accepting of actual flaws and shortcomings even as you find ways to celebrate the things that make you each beautiful, then telling them that you have an odd kink will not destroy your relationship, especially if you are both committed to communication and respectful of each other's boundaries.

I think this advice is applicable even outside of the context of kink or romantic/sexual relationships. Be honest. Be kind. Be respectful. I doubt you would be happy in a relationship with a judgemental person regardless of whether this kink was a factor. Kindness is the most attractive trait of all. You'll seek it in others. Let them find it in you.

For me it boils down to being a kind human being with passions I can relate to!

Shared nerdy interests and a willingness to have silly or insightful discussions about them are important to me; not only do I want to be able to spend time with someone doing something I'd enjoy anyway, but I also want to be able to reminisce and geek out about these things when we're just chatting. It comes down to me wanting to be able to be friends with someone as a foundation to the relationship.

A willingness to communicate and an open mind are vitally important to me. My life partner has spoiled me in this regard; they don't beat around the bush or play mind games, and it's that honesty that allows us to go through our relationship without the fear of tiptoeing around one another. This isn't the same as being inconsiderate of each other's feelings; it's about trusting one another with our feelings, whatever they may be.

I like people who have a passion or ambition they work toward. I want to be able to cheer someone on and for them to ramble about something that might go over my head at first. People who can teach me something new through their enthusiastic example give me joy when they show that enthusiasm to me, especially because I really feel like I am joining them in their adventure through life! (What can I say, I love a good story!)

Appearance does matter to me to a certain degree; my tastes tend away from the "sorority girl" look and much more toward the "subversive queer" look, likely because my best friends though my life fall among the latter. Apart from that, good hygiene is important as hell, and a genuine smile is really attractive.

Finally, people who treat service workers with kindness and respect are sexy as hell

Tell her outright (if you haven't already) that you're enjoying the extra pudge on her, and ask her if she's enjoying it too. It seems like she's reacting positively, but having each other's tastes out in the open can only be a good thing.

Even if she answers that she doesn't want to gain more and would even want to lose weight, this would be something she would eventually decide on her own if you had left things unsaid. Either way, by being openly communicative, you gain the opportunity to be supportive of her choice.

Leaving these things unsaid invites you both to try to read each other's minds, and that's a dangerous game.

I don't think I've ever seen this before, but there is a user whose profile I visited and noticed I could see the upgrade button to the right of the follow button. Otherwise, from my examination, their profile looked normal.

Reloading the page did not make the upgrade button disappear. I did not press the upgrade button to see what would happen.

I can DM a FF team member with more details.

Obviously there are things like strawpoll and Google Surveys, but it'd be neat to be able to post and react to polls entirely on this site.

0. Most people won't see a significant, lasting difference in weight from a day of overeating; a week might get you closer, but if your goal is long-term growth, habits are stronger than binges. That isn't to say you shouldn't try this; it sounds like something you'll enjoy making a special occasion out of!

1. Think about ways to make the aftermath easier to deal with from a logistical standpoint. Prepare the rooms that you plan to do this in so that they're easy to clean, laying down a sheet that you can toss in the wash instead of having to vacuum or sweep up any crumbs. Things like that.

2. Everyone extols the virtues of heavy cream for gaining quickly, but remember that dairy and other fatty foods can cause heartburn, which will quickly put a damper on your enjoyment. If you eat foods that are known to cause heartburn (there are plenty of lists of these online), get ready to manage the symptoms.

3. Drink water--real, actual water without additives. It doesn't have to be all you drink, but things like caffeinated beverages are diuretics, which can cause increased urination, on top of their high sodium content. Dehydration isn't fun. If you like, buy a big 2 liter (or several) of plain, carbonated water/seltzer and wash food down with that. Otherwise, smoothies and other blended drinks that contain actual fruits/veggies will help balance whatever junk you decide to binge on during that week.

4. YMMV, but the last time I tried a cake shake from Portillos, I couldn't finish it. It wasn't a capacity thing; the sheer sweetness of the mix actually just killed my appetite, and I usually have a sweet tooth. If your goal for that day is bloating, diet carbonated beverages and light ice cream might get you further than you expect from the fact that they're supposed to be "low-calorie." The goal is to reach and maintain a heavy feeling of fullness. Starchy foods (rice and the like) will help soak up whatever you drink and lead to that longer-lasting bloat.

I think the technology exists now. Computer vision is really sophisticated, and there are lots of examples of AI learning to perform tasks that are close to what you describe:

futurism.com/the-byte/robot-hot-dogs-cook-serve

Whether or not something like what you describe would be feasible to install in a household would be a different matter. But I think a robot consisting of a base for going from the kitchen to the bedroom and an arm for unpackaging (and, potentially, preparing) food isn't out of the realm of reason. It might be expensive, and what this would look like would be different for each household. But this is far from sci-fi.