It's hard because not only do you have to find someone with similar gaining goals, but they have to LIKE you as a person. And you have to like them. And you have to find each other reasonably attractive and sexy. And, most likely, they have to be willing to move to where you are, or they have to live someplace you're willing to move too.

That's a lot of ducks to get into a row.

Allow me...yes, Houston, we have a gain!

erog·e·nous adj \i-ˈrä-jə-nəs\

Definition of EROGENOUS

1: producing sexual excitement or libidinal gratification when stimulated

Is your belly erogenous? If so, since when?

banjo & fiddle

If you're a fat girl, it's safe to say that an FA would be a better boyfriend than someone who wasn't an FA, everything else being the same.

I think everyone, fat-fetishist or not, has problems reconciling their sexual, physical, social, intellectual needs. It is almost impossible to find one person who will fulfill all those desires.

That's why love is so great. If you love someone you don't care about any imperfections.

If you're not in love, you make do. I've never been good at that, but a lot of people do manage.

When you're young and don't really know yourself that well, it's easy to screw it up and dump a truly wonderful person for someone who is superficially attractive.

All you can do is cut yourself some slack and try to do better in the future.

There's always "How to Get Fat" at askdrfeeder.dyndns.org

I've noticed a few people on here say on their profile that they're a foodee initially. And then at some point they change it to "feedee".

If this describes you, why did you change? Did you have some kind of revelation that changed you? Or were you just uncomfortable calling yourself a feedee at first?

You never learn to like rejection, but you do get used to it.

I was afraid of it for many years and eventually got over it, but I sure let a lot of opportunities go by!

Strike while the iron is hot!