I shouldn't speak for the community, but I'll go out on a limb and say:

You're welcome!

I know that many feedees are quite conflicted about gaining when they start but become less conflicted as they get bigger.

Has this happened to you or a partner? Why do you think that is?

Has anyone become MORE conflicted as they've gotten bigger? Or has it stayed the same? Why do you think that is?

Better gain some weight just to make sure.

I think I need to see a pic of you sucking it in! It's probably a starter but lets make sure.

Excellent illustration of progress from a "brusher" to a "sinker":

fantasyfeeder.com/cms/infusions/galleries/view.php

Unfortunately, we have our share of creeps and jerks, like any community.

I mean "not short enough"? What are you supposed to do, cut off your feet??

You're right, but it's usually at least an obstacle. Really, it's hard to have a relationship with a fanatic of any stripe unless you share his/her interests.

I know some fitness fanatics, and they really need to be with other fitness fanatics. I mean, they're skiing or racing or something practically every weekend, all their books and magazines are about fitness, and all their friends are fitness fanatics. It would be almost impossible for a non-fitness-fanatic spouse to fit in even if she were thin!

Your choices:

1. Find a fat fitness fanatic. This is possible but very tough. Even if you found one she'd probably be trying to lose weight, which you wouldn't want.

2. Learning to be sexually attracted to slim fit women. Probably not possible.

3. Change your lifestyle. Stop being a fitness fanatic. You don't have to give up fitness altogether, but you do have to curtail it radically. I know you don't want to do this, but <i>you can do it.</i>

4. Live your life as a lonely, extremely fit guy. Of course, this one is quite possible too.

It depends. Does the woman have better taste in clothes than me? (Many do) Then fine, whatever she wants. I do need to tag along though.

Sure, use all you want.