Morbidly A Beast:
As a person who discovered this stuff later in life I don’t have knowledge of anything prior to 2022 and I feel like not much has changed other than in the periphery there’s more people accepting their bodies and saying it’s okay to be fat so I think just on that alone I think this message is off base, I think body positivity and size acceptance has become more mainlined, I don’t see it as much in explicitly kink spaces but I think that’s because it doesn’t need to be. People can go to and be directly body positive without even considering kink. The kink space has become a marketplace to sell content which can people can go without directly considering body positivity. Just my 2 cents as a newb
Honestly, I think this is a reflection of wider society. Across the board in all demographics, people have grown more isolated. The world's on fire and people are not emotionally regulating themselves in a healthy manner.
I've seen people in the forums explicitly say they enjoy fat shaming randos on the street because it makes them feel better about themselves. I've seen people get into content creation because they are fat and want to feel wanted.
Lotta hurting, lonely people out there in kink space.
10 months
Weetabix:
This site could support content creators without actually paying them. People who get likes on their pictures could get extra messages and picture views.
Yeah, I can see this going left real fast.
Sure, the commercialization of kink is irksome, but clout is a hell of a drug.
10 months
FAMGM:
I disagree with a lot of the detail in what you’ve said, but the overall thrust of it I basically agree with.
I was thinking only the other day that some of the best fat content was around in my early 20s. It was generally some amateur on youtube who had hidden her fat fetish from the world all her life and was feeling the intense thrill of playing with her belly on camera.
I’m pretty sick of the economics of fetish content driving what people expect. This site is still quite good, but on the other one, every second person has an only fans or a cashapp. And they’re incessantly complaining about how no one is “feeding” them. This is partly why some of the more extreme content has become prevalent: people are competing for attention in buyers’ market.
At the other end of the spectrum are certain well-known content creators, who essentially re-enforce the monetised nature of things. “Support content creators”, is the catch cry. Well, I’d rather not. I’d rather support someone who isn’t a “content creator”, who’s just involved because they are genuinely into it.
I think there's a balance to strike. I think content creators should be paid. They are providing a service that incurs a financial burden on their part to provide it
But at the same tlme there needs to be passion and joy in lt as well.
On the flip side, let's not run off the feedees who are only in it for the love of the game. Lotta people get mad when feedees are talking about their kink escapades only for other users to demand free conteng from them
There's a user on here that is into extreme gaining. No pics, but she never asks anyone for anything. Absolute gem. And yet I have seen pelpme openly harrass her for free content.
10 months
SumoSized:
They might not be thinking that hard about it but the themes are still present and it can still lead to stigmatization. I'm a feedee and I don't have a humiliation fetish, so when I hear other people's real stories or read people's fictional ones about how fat is bad and fat people are ostracized for their weight, but actually they're sexy but actually they should feel ashamed. It demotivates me from wanting to gain even just a little bit because I don't want to be humiliated.
I'm not saying this to say "we need to ban these stories because they hurt people's feelings", because a lot of people do enjoy the humiliation factor. I just think we need to be careful how we judge people who don't share this fetish and who don't want to gain weight but just have due to other circumstances. Because even though they aren't part of our circle, the way we treat and view them, affects how we treat and view feedees/gainers in our circle.
Munchies:
I think a lot of people get into the whole "Don't yuck my yum" mentality that they don't examine their yum in the first place. They have deep, conflicting feelings that they don't want to explore.
And I get that. Introspection is scary.
But I have spoken to a lot of feedees, gainers, encouragers, and feeders. A lot of them admit to seeing fat people like a dirty little secret. A lot of fat people that those that fetishize them as less than. It's really sad.
SumoSized:
You'd think people in this community would be against fatphobia, but it's still startling to me how engrained it is. It's almost like some people are only into it because it's taboo, and so if peoples weights became more normalized, they would lose interest.
You may be onto something. It would explain why people keep gravitating towards the extremes.
10 months
I think these are valid observations, but I fear you have an incomplete view on things.
There's been a heavy emphasis on the feedee models. While I agree the commercialization of this fetish is concerning, you cannot have a market without buyers.
I've lurked in the community long before being an active member. There's a growing sense of entitlement from all corners of this community. I see people openly being entitled to fat people and their bodies to an alarming degree.
For example, if you look in the comments of any feedee or gainer, you'll notice a lot of hostility if they don't gain fast enough or stuff themselves intensely enough, the audience gets nasty. And not just models - regular feedees get this too.
I had a conversation with a fellow feeder not too long about about his struggles finding a feedee. He exhibited the same growing entitlement. I pointed out that when you are pushy and entitled, the only people who will give you the time of day are those that want your money.
But people ain't trying to hear that.
On top of all this, this community has developed a cult-like mentality towards fatness. These days, so many people value extreme weight gain over everything else. It's to the point where feedees that want to go from 400 lbs to 250 lbs for comfort do not feel comfortable talking about these things
Hell, even though I am strictly a feeder, I get a lot of people who are genuinely confused as to why I want to be muscular over being fat.
Back in the day, people were less obsessed about extremes. Sure you had the extreme weight gain crowd, but it was a niche within a niche. But now you have feeders genuinely upset that their feedee - who has gain 50 lbs in a year - is not gaining fast enough. Feedees are mentally spiralling because people are shaming them for not being at least 200 lbs.
I am into extreme weight gain, but we desperately need the kink diversity we are rapidly losing.
10 months
SumoSized:
They might not be thinking that hard about it but the themes are still present and it can still lead to stigmatization. I'm a feedee and I don't have a humiliation fetish, so when I hear other people's real stories or read people's fictional ones about how fat is bad and fat people are ostracized for their weight, but actually they're sexy but actually they should feel ashamed. It demotivates me from wanting to gain even just a little bit because I don't want to be humiliated.
I'm not saying this to say "we need to ban these stories because they hurt people's feelings", because a lot of people do enjoy the humiliation factor. I just think we need to be careful how we judge people who don't share this fetish and who don't want to gain weight but just have due to other circumstances. Because even though they aren't part of our circle, the way we treat and view them, affects how we treat and view feedees/gainers in our circle.
I think a lot of people get into the whole "Don't yuck my yum" mentality that they don't examine their yum in the first place. They have deep, conflicting feelings that they don't want to explore.
And I get that. Introspection is scary.
But I have spoken to a lot of feedees, gainers, encouragers, and feeders. A lot of them admit to seeing fat people like a dirty little secret. A lot of fat people notice those that fetishize them often see them as less than. It's really sad.
10 months
Letters And Numbers:
Yeah, I don’t know that a lot of people think that hard about it, they just know they like what they like. Some people are also very into the teasing/humiliation part of the fetish, which plays into stories like these, too.
Look, despite allegations to the contrary, I am not a prude. I'm probably freakier than most people. Hell, I have written stories with detailed torture scenes. But the prevelence of how popular these themes are speaks to a wider problem in the community.
I talk to a lot of people on here. And I've noticed a lot of users feel ashamed of fat. Whether it be how they want to be fat, fatten people up, or just have a fat partner, so many people hate they like fattness. And shame has away of evolving into weird situations.
This is not to say exploring theme of fatphobia are bad. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with writing or enjoying revenge weight gain stories. But we as a community need to better interrogate our relationship with fatness. Ask ourselves if we are satisfied with how things are.
Based on the many people I've spoken to over the years, the answer seems to be no.
10 months
Fatforfun:
Munchies, I agree with you in general about revenge stories. But there are exceptions. See my story Fat Justice. Hope you like it.
You will note that I am painting in broad strokes.
That said, I took a glace at your story and um ...
Are you
sure you want me to explore the themes therein.
Because I can. I will be fair about it, but are you really sure you want me to do that?
10 months
NoMoYoYo:
Between July last year and July this year, I gained 72lbs. When I started this gain, I wanted to get fat again, but I wanted to do it slowly. Well that went out the window. The rapid gain was amazing. I love getting fat fast.
However, I started feeling not so good so I stopped. I've lost about 25lbs since then and feel much better...but I still have the itch.
I think I'm in a much better place to try gaining again. This time I would like to take a smarter approach. I love being fat and want to be fatter.
My plan is to eat more, but not recklessly and no fast food. Wendy's and McD's (among others) are my kryptonite.
I hope I can do this. Any tips or suggestions would be appreciated. I've looked at other threads and have some ideas.
Crock pots
Chuck in the ingredients and go about your day. Come dinner time you have a big meal waiting for you.
The appeal of fast food is in it's low effort. If you make a bunch of low effort foods, you can eat that instead of fast food.
10 months
HappyBigBelly:
Hey all :-) Hoping this can be a fun thread for us all.
What drives your FA passions wild when you see someone do it? This can be your SO or just folks in the general public.
For me, it drives me wild when my wife sits back in the sofa or in bed and lets her shirt ride up, showing off any part of her lovely, 50+ inch belly.
Sometimes, she’ll rest her hand in her pants and just let it stay there, cupping and sometimes gently rubbing part of it. Many of our most intimate moments of have has started with her letting her belly show while lying in bed or relaxing on the couch :-)
Partner in tight button downs
Partner pulling out his belly and wobbling it
Partner jiggling his ass (man can't twerk, but this is a close second)
Partner being so stuffed he gets all helpless and needs me to take care of him
Any man with a really big ass
10 months
