Fatforfun:
Munchies, I agree with you in general about revenge stories. But there are exceptions. See my story Fat Justice. Hope you like it.

Munchies:
You will note that I am painting in broad strokes.

That said, I took a glace at your story and um ...

Are you sure you want me to explore the themes therein.

Because I can. I will be fair about it, but are you really sure you want me to do that?

Fatforfun:
I'm not looking for conflict, Munchies. Like I said, in general I agree with you. I just thought you might like to see an exception.

Ligr77:
Well, last time I tried domming, I want for more of a gentle dom style, leaning more towards praise. That said, I think they caught on that I wasn't really used to domming.

Ligr77:
Hi there! I was wondering if anyone here had some tips for being a better dom?

I'm asking because while I usually consider myself a sub, I'd like to bed more of a dom.

Keep in mind I'm more into the gentle dom side of the feederism, with some playful teasing thrown in from time to time.

Bigwideland:
What is the purpose of purity if only to be defiled

It same with sweet country towns, or that hidden surf break. The initial people are about a core value the feel, comradery, the vibe. Then other notice less layed back people move in. If you get enough people moving in the opportunity people turn up, then the knockers and trolls. It just seems the nature of things.

Munchies:
There's been a heavy emphasis on the feedee models. While I agree the commercialization of this fetish is concerning, you cannot have a market without buyers.


Too Tiny:
I figured it would make more sense to use examples most of us would recognize rather than singling out random people. I mean, I could name names, but it would just feel tacky. Also to my point, I don't really know any feedees or feeders anymore. I lost track of all of the ones I knew when I left DIMS. So I wouldn't have any current names to share even if I was willing.

But I agree that kink diversity is being lost rapidly. With it the open-mindedness this community was once known for. It sometimes feels like everything is about instant gratification and not long term admiration. There is no sense of connection of commitment to it anymore. I remember then this kink came with an obligation to play the long game and enjoy watching it happen. Not anymore. As another poster mentioned, it's more about entitlement.

I partially agree with the comment about being overworked beyond the capatacity for hobbies. We work so hard when we get home often sleep is the absolute priority and sex isn't even an option. But there does come a point where an individual is choosing not to understand himself. Not everyone experiences moments of introspection, and those people are the reckless ones. They don't know what about the kink gets them going, only that it does. Oftentimes they also believe it always has to end in an orgasm. A fetish is not so simple, yet this one has been reduced to the lowest common denominator. It really makes it hard to chat with others about it. I've been told I'm too intense and they can't can't chat, likely due to intimidation. The truth is I just know my preferences and sepreate fantasy from reality. 70+% of these people never bothered. I find it...disappointing and isolating.

I'll be honest, my fat kink experiences have been few and far between. I just can't find anyone I'm comfortable sharing it with. There's no one my age who feels it on the same level I do with the same needs I have. Statistically, yes, someone is out there. But I'll never meet them. Knowing this the dating sites seem pointless. And I seriously question the social media.

Morbidly A Beast:
As a person who discovered this stuff later in life I don’t have knowledge of anything prior to 2022 and I feel like not much has changed other than in the periphery there’s more people accepting their bodies and saying it’s okay to be fat so I think just on that alone I think this message is off base, I think body positivity and size acceptance has become more mainlined, I don’t see it as much in explicitly kink spaces but I think that’s because it doesn’t need to be. People can go to and be directly body positive without even considering kink. The kink space has become a marketplace to sell content which can people can go without directly considering body positivity. Just my 2 cents as a newb

Weetabix:
This site could support content creators without actually paying them. People who get likes on their pictures could get extra messages and picture views.

FAMGM:
I disagree with a lot of the detail in what you’ve said, but the overall thrust of it I basically agree with.

I was thinking only the other day that some of the best fat content was around in my early 20s. It was generally some amateur on youtube who had hidden her fat fetish from the world all her life and was feeling the intense thrill of playing with her belly on camera.

I’m pretty sick of the economics of fetish content driving what people expect. This site is still quite good, but on the other one, every second person has an only fans or a cashapp. And they’re incessantly complaining about how no one is “feeding” them. This is partly why some of the more extreme content has become prevalent: people are competing for attention in buyers’ market.

At the other end of the spectrum are certain well-known content creators, who essentially re-enforce the monetised nature of things. “Support content creators”, is the catch cry. Well, I’d rather not. I’d rather support someone who isn’t a “content creator”, who’s just involved because they are genuinely into it.

SumoSized:
They might not be thinking that hard about it but the themes are still present and it can still lead to stigmatization. I'm a feedee and I don't have a humiliation fetish, so when I hear other people's real stories or read people's fictional ones about how fat is bad and fat people are ostracized for their weight, but actually they're sexy but actually they should feel ashamed. It demotivates me from wanting to gain even just a little bit because I don't want to be humiliated.
I'm not saying this to say "we need to ban these stories because they hurt people's feelings", because a lot of people do enjoy the humiliation factor. I just think we need to be careful how we judge people who don't share this fetish and who don't want to gain weight but just have due to other circumstances. Because even though they aren't part of our circle, the way we treat and view them, affects how we treat and view feedees/gainers in our circle.

Munchies:
I think a lot of people get into the whole "Don't yuck my yum" mentality that they don't examine their yum in the first place. They have deep, conflicting feelings that they don't want to explore.

And I get that. Introspection is scary.

But I have spoken to a lot of feedees, gainers, encouragers, and feeders. A lot of them admit to seeing fat people like a dirty little secret. A lot of fat people that those that fetishize them as less than. It's really sad.

SumoSized:
You'd think people in this community would be against fatphobia, but it's still startling to me how engrained it is. It's almost like some people are only into it because it's taboo, and so if peoples weights became more normalized, they would lose interest.